ok so everyone tells me i'm a flirt because i flrit with all of m yguy friends but this guy(17 on my soccer team)(i'm 13) asked me if i could go to the dance with him and i think my mom is being unfiar because i told her that we were just friends but she doesn't beilve me and it mad it even worse when i told her that he wanted to pick me up so is she being unfair or i'm i just being over reating?HELP!!!if you were my mom would you let me go with him?
2007-05-25 09:09:59 · 45 answers · asked by coltschick34 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ask you mom to reconsider & you showing your mom you are sensible by allowing her to take you there & pick you up & arranging with your mom for the 3 of you to go for a meal (him paying) together or he comes to your house when your mom's in so they can meet & your mom to be able to ask him what she wants to know about him.
Also have a good heart to heart chat with your mom telling her what your plans are for the future & what you really think of him.
Stop been a flirt.
If all this still fails show your mom how grown up you are by accepting the answer.
Parents have boundries/rules etc for a reason.
2007-05-25 09:39:02 · answer #1 · answered by sexy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I would not. It is not because of your mother's theory about you fliriting, it is the simple fact that you are 13 and he is 17. And the age difference between the two of you at this time is HUGE. And why would a 17 year old want to date a 13 year old girl, anyways. You have to ask yourself that because in my book, if a 17 year old can't find a girl his own age, then their is something very sinster going on. My advice to you is be careful with all that you do.
PS You admitted that you flirted with this boy, right? So, do you think that the wrong message may have been sent?
Once again, be careful....and don't go out with this young man.
2007-05-25 09:18:54 · answer #2 · answered by Ugogirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, hon. I would not let a 13 year old girl date (even as a friend) a 17 year old guy. He has more life experience, and presumably more dating experience that you. Even if its just friendship now, he may be at an age to look for more physicality in a relationship than you are ready for. Every girl I've known who hung out with older guys wound up pregnant or worse - I have a cousin who was beat by an older boyfriend.
Of course, not all older guys act like that, but your mom has to be concerned for the ones who might. My idea is that kids can date/hang out with people 2 grades higher or 2 grades lower than themselves - which offers a nice range. For now, keep your relationship with him confined to the soccer field and make friends with girls and guys closer to 13-14.
2007-05-25 09:15:59 · answer #3 · answered by DSL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A girl of 13 is expectedly more naive in the matters of social behavior and sexual morality than a young man of 17 is. Your Mom (and BTW I agree with her 100%) is trying to protect you from yourself. If this young man knows that you're only 13, then I question his rationale and judgement before the fact. Give your Mom credit for the wisdom in her years. You have shown that you have an intelligent mind by admitting that you could be the one that is wrong. Listen to your Mom, she loves you and wants the best for you.
2007-05-25 09:31:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your mom isn't unfair. She's protecting you. Watch the movie "SHES TOO YOUNG" its a Lifetime movie and it could show you what could happen, it will show you what your mom is trying to protect you from. This guy may be just a friend or have hidden motives. You NEVER know. It comes back to the old saying "And you think you know someone until..." Trust your mom. She loves you and only wants the best for you. Moms know us better than we think they do. Just hug her and tell her your sorry and you'll respect her wishes about that boy. He's too old for you right now.
2007-05-25 09:18:33 · answer #5 · answered by *Heather* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is not being unfair at all. Your mom is smarter than you think that she is and no matter how you think this guy feels about you (just friends), your mom knows that any 17 that wants to go out with a 12 year old is up to no good. Nothing good can come of that situation and your mom is trying to protect you. Just listen to her now, but one day you will thank her... I promise.
2007-05-25 09:15:26 · answer #6 · answered by lucard100 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No and do you want to know the reason for that? Its because I have already done that and I have already been through that and it was not fun. I went out with a guy that was around that age when I was your age and all it has been for me is problems ever since. Im not saying that you are going to have the same problems as me but you need to be really careful right now. Things could happen that you wouldnt want to happen and also he could turn into a stalker and never leave you alone. If you dont think that could happen think again because it happened to me!!!
2007-05-25 09:15:27 · answer #7 · answered by cheergirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a mom, and no I would not let you go. I am sure you are very trustworthy, but a 17 year old boy is usually not. Their minds and body are in a different place. I am sure your mom would let the 2 of you hang out at your house or his if his parents were home, but going to a dance is alittle much.
2007-05-25 09:15:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, you're over-reacting.
If you were my daughter I wouldn't let you go with him. Your mom isn't being unfair she's trying to protect you. Getting in a car with a 17 year old boy who isn't your brother is dangerous in so many ways. Give your mom a break and forget about the dance. You might thank her for it later.
2007-05-25 09:21:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest with you, I think you may be a bit too young to be going out (alone, nonetheless) with someone that is 17. I'm sure that acting flirtatiously doesn't help your mom to trust you with a much older and experienced boy.
Honestly, you will have plenty of time in your life to do all the "fun stuff" just listen to your mom and chill for a bit. It's not worth the argument that is sure to happen with her later. Having your mom trust you will benefit you in the long run. Don't make it hard for her to trust you.
2007-05-25 09:15:56 · answer #10 · answered by kristi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋