I saw the messages between the two of them for myself in his inbox. Of-course when I asked him about it, he denied it...I'm pissed and most of all, I'm hurt. Any advice???
2007-05-25 09:04:26 · 38 answers · asked by Heaven W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Have you noticed anything else suspicious? Chances are if this guy is denying what is right in front of you, he has some behavior issues that have either gone unnoticed or he is hiding.
If you've confronted him and are serious about it, be sure your actions are reflective of what you want to accomplish. Not following through will give him the impression he can continue this behavior.
2007-05-25 09:09:57 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's really insensitive of him. You need to sit down and talk about this calmly. Why on earth would he suddenly want to get back in touch with her? The fact he kept it secret is worrying. You should make sure things are ok between you. I'd be livid. I hope you can sort it out. Maybe it's very innocent but he should have told you. Try not to over react though or it may push him towards her. Men are just pathetic sometimes. Good luck x x x
2007-05-25 09:08:59 · answer #2 · answered by Daisy Chain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make a decision. You have the right to be hurt. He apparently has not let go of his ex-fiance. My advice is to sit down and tell him how you truly feel, if he doesnt want to lose you then he needs to put in all the effort to make your marriage work out. However, if he has not let go of his ex, then there's a problem here. If he wants to reopen communication then what are his real intentions. If he isnt happy then you wont be happy.
2007-05-25 09:10:08 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to be smart. If you really needed to know what was going on there, you should have kept it to yourself but keeping your eyes open on the msgs that could come back and forth between them. Now, since he knows that you are looking through his e-mail/myspace, he is going to be more careful and cautions about what he writes and he might even delete the msgs. Right now, just leave things alone, but be smart and keep your eyes open for any changes (that is if you still want to pursue the relationship, it's not right that he lied to you in the first place). It's your call girl, be careful and good Luck!
2007-05-25 09:13:27 · answer #4 · answered by true love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it all depends on the messages and the implications.
my husband and i both have myspace pages. he's not very active on his, but i am on mine all the time talking to old friends and current friends.
anyway, i was on his page today and i saw an ex gf was added as a friend.
it kind of bugged me, but i stopped myself right there.
i know my husband. i know he loves me and our son more than anything and all he wants to do is come home to us.
(he's deployed).
once i reminded myself of all those things, i felt better and now i don't even care about her being on his friend list.
now, for you...
what exactly did he deny?
talking to her, wanting to reconnect??
we all have our lines and if he crossed your line, then you need to call him on it and tell him how that made you feel.
find out why it's important to contact her.
i wish you all the best.
2007-05-25 09:10:00 · answer #5 · answered by joey322 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes, that's so not cool is it. Do you have a myspace account? You can check on them through your account. Be honest with him that you seen it. Best to be honest now then to wait and their relationship goes somewhere.
BTW, what is he thinking!!! You have more to lose by not being honest and tell him and then to leave it alone....btw I'd love an update to hear the outcome
2007-05-25 09:10:06 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the DENIAL that is the problem. I've reestablished contact with some of my VERY CLOSE old boyfriends -- but have ALWAYS been up front about it. Try to calmly explain to him what happened, how you found out -- and how hurt you are. But don't scream & shout -- that will only make it worse. Try to see it from his point of view, also. Did you invade his privacy to GET this information? That might have hurt HIM.
2007-05-25 09:07:45 · answer #7 · answered by Yahzmin ♥♥ 4ever 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
...that's serious. Don't do anything until you have evidence. keep watching that in box and outbox.
Remember this once you confront somebody about something that you feel they have done wrong to you and you have exposed them be ready & prepared to deal with the issue even if it means giving them the boot. if you expose them and they know you know and you stay you are just giving them the green light to go and do whatever they want becasue subconciously they feel you are going to always be around to accept it.
so if you are not ready to give your husband the boot if he cheats you better chill out.
seek and you shall find.
2007-05-25 09:08:34 · answer #8 · answered by Jade 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow thats crazy. Tell him "Great! I found my ex too and I am gonna re-open communication with him as well! This should be sooo much fun, us talking to our exes!" and see how he reacts to it. If he doesnt want you to do that, then be like "Okay then what makes you think Im cool with you talkin to homegirl then? If you don't do it, I wont. Otherwise its open season!" Not worth a divorce...just get even. Good luck!
2007-05-25 09:08:08 · answer #9 · answered by pwnd! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ITS TIME FOR A DIVORCE!!! IF YOU DONT BELIEVE IN DIVORCE THEN ITS TIME FOR YOU TO DECIDE IF YOU WANT TO FIGHT FOR THIS MAN. I DONT SEE WHY U WOULD IF HE DIDNT TELL YOU ABOUT THIS HOW MANY OTHER THINGS DID HE KEEP A SECRET? THIS MAN CANNOT BE TRUSTED BECAUSE EVEN WHEN YOU CONFRONTED HIM HE DENIED IT WITH CONCRETE EVIDENCE IN HIS FACE. BABY GIRL HE IS DISRESPECTING YOU AND U DONT DESERVE THAT UNLESS YOUVE DONE THE SAME TO HIM. NEVER EVER FORGET THAT THE ONLY MAN WORTH YOUR TEARS WILL NEVER MAKE YOU CRY!!!!
2007-05-25 09:09:47 · answer #10 · answered by Delcarmen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋