ok what do i tell my bf that i feel the way i do about his ex gf coming to town and living two houses down from him ....how do i tell him that im worried?
2007-05-25 08:24:47 · 27 answers · asked by Proud mama to a little girl<3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't say anything because then you will appear jealous and / or insecure in your relationship. She's his ex because she wasnt good enough for him and you are. I wouldnt take my ex back for all the tea in China so dont let it bother you!
2007-05-25 08:29:00 · answer #1 · answered by pwnd! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, thats tricky. If you tell him you are worried you run the risk of coming across as clingy and insecure. And that will have him running into her arms as sure as anything!! Give your boyfriend the trust he deserves. He may well be too in love with you to even notice her. Assume he's too crazy about you to even notice her and you'll come across as more confident and therefore more attractive to him and you'll keep him. NOTHING scares a man off quicker than inseurity. If he's going to go back to her nothing you do or say will alter that. If he is happy with you he will stay with you. Stop fretting.......she's an ex for a reason.
2007-05-25 15:34:26 · answer #2 · answered by samsara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun. just sit down at a time when you're both NOT busy and NOT in a happy/romantic moment and tell him. honesty is the best policy and being blunt is the only way you're going to be clear about your concerns. guys cant read minds and he might not know you're worried.
but to remember, they broke up for a reason(s) and he's with you now. give some room for credit on his part on where his loyalties lie.
best of luck to ya!
2007-05-25 15:30:09 · answer #3 · answered by Dear Abby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you are worried, so you can get his view on the whole thing! I understand why you would be, but that is something you are going to have to have a conversation with him about!
2007-05-25 15:28:14 · answer #4 · answered by ~*Sweet Pea*~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay, here is my idea. you invite her over to your house for dinner. MAKE SURE YOUR ALONE. Halfway through, do that nice face evil intentions thing they do on movies. Make a threat that if you find her cheating on your boyfriend you will kill. Make a small demenstartaion that you are capable of hurting things, like some animal you don't like goes across the floor and you kill it. this freaks her out and if your boyfriend finds out about, that means he is cheating on you. if he doesn't, then isn't cheating on you and everything is alright.
2007-05-25 15:33:13 · answer #5 · answered by John C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exactly like you just did. Just talk to him. If he is already settled, I'm not sure he'll want to move and I don't think he has much control over where she moves. Just be honest and tell him how you feel...that's the only thing you can do.
2007-05-25 15:28:28 · answer #6 · answered by Mom of 4 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you trust him? And please forgive me for interrupting your feeble "I DO trust him" but with all honesty, if you did, it wouldn't matter who lived two doors away from him. Think about all of your ex BFs and what difference it would make if they all moved in on your street. One would hope it wouldn't matter.
So why don't you trust him and ignore it until a problem arises. Looking for trouble, I bet you find it.
2007-05-25 15:30:19 · answer #7 · answered by drg20202004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down with him and have an honest conversation. It would be really bad if you let it build up inside and then have a massive blowout because of it.
2007-05-25 15:28:20 · answer #8 · answered by devious_angel993 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you don't like that idea. Tell him your not being jealous you are mad that she would try to live so close.
If he loves you you have nothing to worry about. Just talk to him about your feelings about this whole thing. Just make sure he doesn't have feelings for her.
2007-05-25 15:29:18 · answer #9 · answered by scoopie110 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just sit him down and talk to him with different subjects and then get to that one eventually he will come 2 it... or just put a hidden camera in your house and see if he is cheating but just trust him
2007-05-25 15:30:02 · answer #10 · answered by Justin J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋