I met a girl at xmas. I haven't seen her since but a couple of weeks ago i accidently text her. we then started talking and have arranged to meet up. I was really fit at xmas - but in the last few I'm not fat but i feel the extra weight i've put on and i'm scared she'll not fancy me anymore. Any advice??
2007-05-25 08:19:24 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey Fancy Pants,
She'll still be interested, trust me.
2007-05-25 08:21:50 · answer #1 · answered by Queenie knows it all. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of us get the winter flabbies.
If you're worried about her not liking you - txt her and tell her that while you're not fat, you have put on some weight but are working hard to take it off again. Ask her if she doesn't mind going out with someone who's trying to take off his winter weight...
What's the worst thing she can say? No? Enh. Oh well.
If she still wants to meet with you - and I'm sure she will - then bully!
Consider choosing an activity for your date - like paddle boating or just a good walk - instead of sitting down somewhere. If she likes a sport - like tennis or golf, something you two can do together - great - you don't have to be a tennis pro to have a good time on the public courts.
Bring along a healthy picnic lunch - or stop at an outdoor cafe for a healthy meal - That will show her you're serious about getting back into shape - but that you also want to spend time with her instead of being just a gym-rat.
2007-05-25 15:32:52 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if she really cares about your appearance enough to not like the few extra pounds and not want to talk to you, then she probably is not worth the time. What matters is if you two are truly interested in each other. It seems to me that if she agreed to meet with you, then there is probably a good chance she won't care about the extra weight you've put on.
2007-05-25 15:24:13 · answer #3 · answered by Where.Is.The.Love? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, play it cool. The more self conscious you are around her, the more she will notice. Secondly, wear something to flatter your shape. (Ask one a sister, or friend if you need help, but preferably a girl) Go with a dark blue or black polo shirt. Thirdly, just be yourself. I know it's easier to say than to do when you have body issues. Too many people look at these situations as one-sided. Just go in with a "friend" attitude, then see what happens from there. Hope this helps!!!!
2007-05-25 15:26:09 · answer #4 · answered by n_watson1981 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course shewill if shes not a girl girl tarty person shes only going to care about yuor personality ! dontt be afraid ! XXxxxxxxxxxxxx blue_rule_girl
2007-05-25 15:25:16 · answer #5 · answered by lostgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well im she doesnt than she doesnt like you for who you really are, don,t worry about it see how it goes and at the end of thr day at least you tried =]
Hope this helps.
Sazzie xxx
2007-05-25 15:26:40 · answer #6 · answered by Sazzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself, and don't let anyone's opinion of your body be important besides your own. Do what makes you happy, and don't waste your time with shallow people who judge you on your looks.
2007-05-25 15:22:58 · answer #7 · answered by linehancomputerservices 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its your personality that she,l like not your weight(it does help a bit thou) if you trim yourself up a bit,to show her what you want to be for her.
2007-05-29 10:04:00 · answer #8 · answered by david c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has any class at all, she likes you for you, not for what's around your middle. Besides, men look so hot with a little meat on them.
2007-05-25 15:22:43 · answer #9 · answered by Charlotte B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't worry, i expect she's put on a bit of weight too.
seriously, it's not a problem. Your personality is much more important.
2007-05-25 15:30:58 · answer #10 · answered by cobweb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋