My best girlfriend has a wedding to attend this summer. She is single I am not. She has not seen the bride since high school but has kept in contact through emails and phone calls. She received her invitation and it states that she and a guest are invited. She doesn't want to go alone since she doesn't know anyone that well anymore, but she doesn't have a BF. She wanted me to go with her, but we weren't sure if it was appropriate to bring a "girl" friend to the wedding a her "date"?
Any input? Is it wrong for me to attend with her since I don't know them?
2007-05-25 07:40:23 · 26 answers · asked by GirlNextDoor 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Nope, it is fine.... they wouldn't know the guy she would bring either. The invitation was really just asking for your friend to show up and that she could bring someone else along if she wants; she does want to bring someone along and that someone is you. Therefore... everything is all good.
2007-05-25 07:47:19 · answer #1 · answered by megr_b 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is tricky and I have had many friends go through this same situation. The best thing to do is the check with the bride to see if it is OK. Most will not have a problem with it, but a bride who is surprised by this often have strong (even if they are not valid) opinions against it. Once time, a friend was bringing someone that the bride had never liked. It really ticked off the bride and caused a lot of tension. I know you don't know the bride, but it is better to include her in this decision. One of my friends had a girl in the bridal party bring her girlfriend and it caused a lot of friction. Although I have no idea why it did, there were tears involved.
Basically, to be on the safe side, have your friend drop the bride an email or give her a call. It's always good to have the bride involved in the decision-making, after all, it is her day.
Good luck and have fun!!
2007-05-25 09:52:01 · answer #2 · answered by Bean 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perfectly acceptable; in this day and age, how can the bride even know you two aren't an item? Just kidding. But seriously, I just had my wedding and had a friend in the same position. She brought a good friend who I enjoyed meeting and I'm glad my friend was able to come at all. It would be in very poor taste for the bride to expect her friend to sit through an event where she doesn't know anyone just because she doesn't happen to have a boyfriend right now. If you're still unsure, just have her ask the bride directly. As long as you're a polite guest and bring a small gift or card (or go in on one with your friend) I see no reason not to attend.
2007-05-25 08:43:34 · answer #3 · answered by Meems 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess technically it is okay if you were invited plus a guest. However, as a recent bride, I remember how much each additional plate cost. Inviting someone with a guest is a big expense. I feel like if you do not have a significant other it is appropriate to go alone... maybe you will meet someone at the wedding! Why make people pay 50 - 100 dollars extra when you will have lots of people there to hang out with?
2016-05-17 21:44:14 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with taking a friend. When the invitation states and guest it means simply that. The guest can be anyone. If she feels comfortable taking you then you shouldnt worry about it. She is asking you to go for moral support and so there will be someone there that she knows well. You will both surely have a good time.
2007-05-25 07:48:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This should be fine. I had friends who had boyfriends that worked strange hours, so I specifically told them that they could bring a friend, their moms, whatever if their boyfriends were unable to come with them. You want them to bring a guest so they will feel more comfortable. So who cares who they bring? Since she keeps in touch with the bride, she should just mention it to her. Then you will feel better about it.
2007-05-25 08:29:57 · answer #6 · answered by Lilli 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend and a guest were invited, then it is okay for you to attend. There is no rule that I know of that says the "guest" must be of the opposite sex!
2007-05-25 08:12:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally if you don't actually know the bride or groom I don't think it is appropriate. I would have your friend email the bride to find out how she feels about it. My friend asked me the same question not too long ago saying that if she doesn't have a boyfriend by the time of my wedding should she just bring her friend. I told her I would be unhappy with that because I don't know her. I know you are thinking well you might not know her boyfriend. I don't know I guess in my mind it is different and also why should I pay to have someone there that I don't know and isn't involved with my friend.
2007-05-25 07:51:33 · answer #8 · answered by LadyD1019 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I wouldn't. Your friend was invited with a guest, the guest is suppose to be a significant other. Since you aren't that, I wouldn't go. It's just not appropriate and it's sort of taking advantage of the bride and groom's invite.
2007-05-25 08:14:00 · answer #9 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's fine and is appropiate. Not long ago I took a good girlfriend of mine to a wedding because my bf couln;t attend and I didn't want to be alone. We had a great time. You will have fun too.
2007-05-25 07:58:01 · answer #10 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋