I met him at my friends house and he is the same age but he lives in a different state about 4 hours away , We hugged for a long time before he left and I didn't want to let o but I did and it was like fireworks PLEASE HELP ME NO RUDE ANSWERS....
2007-05-25 07:17:16 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OH AND WE DID KISS....
2007-05-25 07:22:32 · update #1
You are infatuated not in love.
Unfortunately, he lives far away so there is nothing you can do. Wait until you get older.
2007-05-25 07:20:41 · answer #1 · answered by The Voice of Reason 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It can be love. Infatuation is an adult telling you that you do not know what love is. There is no difference between love and infatuation. But if you take nothing else from this forum, take this - LOVE IS BLIND AND USUALLY STUPID. That is not meant as derogatory it is just they way things are. People fall in love all the time, but that does not mean it will ever work out. I fall in love all the time, it just happens to be some one other than my wife. That does not mean I run off with everyone I fall in love with. it means that I have an intense emotional connection with that person. It is natural. But you have to look at the practical aspects. Can you ever be together and can you stand that person for the next 10 or 20 or 30 years. Or even the next year. Fireworks are good. They let you know you are alive, but they do not make for a good relationship. Enjoy the fireworks when and where you can get them, but look at the real issues. Good luck.
2007-05-25 07:27:04 · answer #2 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense, honey, but at thirteen I was "in love" with a new guy at least every other day. The longest it lasted was a week, and it was not love.
What you're going through is called infatuation. Sure he's all you think about. It's like a new movie or a new song. It kinda gets stuck in your head for a few weeks, but eventually, it goes away, and before long, you're forgetting all about it.
I was 17 before I understood what real love was, and I was stupid enough to let it get away. The saying is when you meet "The One" you'll know. That's true. And you WILL know. I promise. Just enjoy being a teenager for right now. After all, it's supposed to be the best years of your life!!
2007-05-25 07:25:24 · answer #3 · answered by tinkerbell24 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fireworks at 13!? That's intense. What everyone tells you is no comfort in how you feel whether it is true or not.
Check out the cost of taking a bus to the town where he lives. Get the parents acquainted so that either you or he can make the trip and spend some quality time together.
2007-05-25 07:30:24 · answer #4 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to hurt your feelings so I'm going to say, I don't believe it is love what you are feeling. That doesn't mean that you can not care for him or have a crush on him. However I don't think that is love, really you are a little young, at that age it's difficult for someone your age to get through a day without saying that you hate your parents or that you think they hate you because of their rules, and really right now your parents have the strongest love for you. I would just let it pass by do not stress yourself out about this boy, he lives so very far away it would be very hard to even make anything of it. I'm sure one day you will find someone who lives close to you and you will be able to have something with them, but really you are so young focus on school and less on love, you will have the rest of your life to stress over boys and love. Good Luck and have a great summer.
2007-05-25 07:25:33 · answer #5 · answered by jennqt341 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love doesn't come instantly. You're experiencing lust (no, lust doesn't just mean sex). When you're attracted to someone and they're attracted to you, you'll go into a euphoria that can last from 6 months to 2 years. When that euphoria goes away, you'll know if the love is there. You probably won't get butterflies every time you see him, but you'll still be attracted to him and you'll be able to appreciate the little things about your relationship.
Love is built over time through trust, communication, honesty, and many more factors.
That fluttery feeling is awesome, but it's not love. Unfortunately, it's hard to understand what love is until you've gone past that euphoria phase with someone.
I hope this helped.
2007-05-25 07:25:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be fair to yourself. Someone four hours away usually doesn't work out (even for older people). You have a whole lifetime of lovers ahead of you. It's easy to hold on to something that isn't really real, versus getting rejected. How much could you know him???? Even if it is well, do you think you would end up marrying him??? Most likely not! Go out and have some fun - don't invest too much thought in it. Keep in mind that if you are fixed on that guy, you might be letting a better one walk past you while you are daydreaming. Hang in there!!! Good luck!
2007-05-25 07:22:36 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Jamie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish everyone would take a step back, and see what she's going through. Everyone has put her down saying "it's not love, blah blah.." but it might be. Age really is just a number, and unfortunately, in society, you live up to that number whether you want to or not.
If you think it's love, then it's love. Love varies from person to person, so anyone telling you that it's not love, isn't wrong, they're just not in your shoes.
My advice: give it time. He lives far away, and it's risky. See where he stands on you two, and if it works out, great, but just remember-NO MATTER WHAT- you need to do what makes YOU happy. Before all else.
2007-05-25 07:25:25 · answer #8 · answered by ashleysgross 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about what other people say, emotions don't base themselves on age. If you know what you are feeling right now then go with it until it disappears, if it disappears. It may be a temporary feeling for right now but do your best to push through all of the negativity that is coming your way. By the way no one can truly describe love, everyone experiences it in different ways. Good Luck.
2007-05-25 07:22:35 · answer #9 · answered by mianjo413 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you do. Everyone can feel love but it isnt the same kind of love, its more like infatuation, but thats okay, dosent matter what you call it. Its a good feeling, enjoy it. And to a 13yo it IS love. I remember being in love as a teen and some would say its not real love and now as an adult I know it wasnt the kind of love that leads to marriage but so what?! Your young and having fun and dont need to worry about searching for your true soul mate.
2007-05-25 07:23:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you know what love is!
But there's this kind of love, and that kind of love...and then there are hormones. They are just a wee bit trickier.
I'm sure the guy was dreamy (or hot, or whatever), and I'm sure you wanted to know him longer.
But it's one of those ships passing in the night deals, and you'll always have Casablanca as a fond memory.
Such things are just meant to be.
Hang in there girl, another fella will be along soon enough, and he'll be cuter than the last. People just tell you dou don't know what love is to make you hurt less, believe it or not.
Just be careful out there. Lots of potholes in the road to love.
2007-05-25 07:26:12 · answer #11 · answered by KRIEGAR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋