all of her friends have it done and shes been begging ever scince her 12 birthday now shes 13 and still wants it done and has offerd to pay for most of it what should i do??
2007-05-25 07:07:01 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
she has watched her friend get it done and she still want's it and she said if i dont let her shell do it her self
2007-05-25 07:20:03 · update #1
Make sure she knows about the procedure, and the pain.
I'm a piercer, and when doing belly buttons the skin on most people is VERY tough. Some girls have passed out, some just scream and cry.
Also, she cant wear a one piece bathing suit or it'll rip out.
Also make sure the piercer is very good, does it clean , and DOESNT do it with a gun. and DOESNT do it too thin, my friends ripped out, taking care of it is very serious.
they get infected very easy.
Sleep on your back, and clean it with the right stuff.
IF she can keep up to all of that, then let her.
My first piercing was at 12.
2007-05-25 07:12:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
this is a tough question and although I don't have a 13 year old daughter yet (expecting my little girl at the end of summer), I've thought about this question alot (and ear piercing and the tattoo one). I have both a belly button piercing (36years) and a tattoo (26years).
I think I would agree to have my daughter get a belly button piercing when she was 15/16 but not a tattoo until she was an adult. belly piercings and tattoos both require substantial maintenance for long periods of time afterward (6 months in the belly case) and I've had friends (adults) who have gotten infections. I think 13 might be too young but it depends on the maturity of your daughter. They are also easier to have removed, if need be - and if you are careful - leave little scarring afterwards.
I would also be concerned about the clothing that teens usually wear after having their belly pierced. The trends now a days are longer belly covering shirts so maybe that might make a difference.
Good luck.
2007-05-25 07:17:56 · answer #2 · answered by Hendrixj 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I would think that 13 is to young. She should not be wearing cloths that would expose this area (bikini may be the exception). However as a parent it is important to pick battles. What type of young lady is she? Are you having difficulties in other areas with her? Is there something worse she could be doing? What type of student is she? Why is this important to her? It is important to express yourself at this age; perhaps this is a good time to have a talk with her about self-perception and her interests and goals. Perhaps a compromise could be made, maybe there is something else she would also like that might be more appropriate and you two can decide on an age when this would not be an issue.
2007-05-25 07:57:47 · answer #3 · answered by Dede 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well I was 16 and my parents told me no way so I did it my self one really bad infection later I took it out and was over the whole thing. My friend that pieced her belly button with me got infection so bad she had to have part of her intestine removed. This is a tough one I say educate your daughter on the dangers of doing it her self and tell her to Waite till she is 18 and can have it done with out your consent. Another tid bit of info I am now a mother and I got one nasty stretch mark the goes all the way up my belly from that stupid pricing. I guess the only worry I would have if this was my daughter is that she would Peirce it her self and wind up hurting her self like my friend.
2007-05-25 07:55:16 · answer #4 · answered by Mel_Luc 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, you should not let her. First Reason: She is 13 years old what they like and want change more than the seasons.
2nd reason. since she told you she would do it anyway I would definitely not let her do it just to show her that you are the parent and she is the child. If she goes behind your back and does it or does it herself make damn sure that there are consequences.
3rd Reason. I knew someone who jumped off a bridge my kid saw it and thought it would be cool to do. I didn't let him. Good thing because the other boy broke both his legs and almost drowned. (ok not a true story but i am sure you see what i am getting at.) Just because allllllll of her friends have it doesn't mean she needs it.
2007-05-25 08:17:43 · answer #5 · answered by D and G Gifts Etc 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
my friend is 15 and she just got her belly button pierced two days ago. She said that getting it pierced doesn't hurt, and that it only stings when you clean it. It looks really cute. If your daughter doesn't want three years from now, she can just take the ring out and let it close up.
As long as you go to a clean and sanitary place to get it done. there should be no problem!
2007-05-25 08:33:21 · answer #6 · answered by cheerup_emokid_x3 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No, she is way too young for that. If all of her friends started having sex (they probably are) would you think it was ok for her to do it because all of her friends did? Of course not. A 13 year old wouldn't be allowed to have it done anyway without a parent's consent. You are the parent. Don't let your 13 year old daughter start dictating to you what she will and will not do. You'll be raising her children before you know it.
2007-05-25 07:39:17 · answer #7 · answered by kat 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
13 seems a little bit young but if she really wants it i think that is fine. try making a deal with her like letting her do something else instead of getting her belly button pierced or let her get it pierced but don't let her wear anything outragous there. also, if she is serious about doing it herself then it is probably better to get it done where they are experts.
2007-05-25 07:55:27 · answer #8 · answered by Roni 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sure, and make sure a tattoo is thrown in - one of those low on the back so people will know what a good girl she is. Maybe help her buy some booze or drugs, and host a party at your house. Teach her to shoplift. Encourage her to lose her virginity. You're on the right path.
[jeez!]
2007-05-25 09:12:54 · answer #9 · answered by Lolly 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sure, let her do it. When she's done let her run really fast with scissors and go play on the freeway too. Might as well give her a box of condoms and a tattoo on the small of her back just above her thong! I am amazed at the ignorance of people today. If you want your daughter to lose her virginity by the age of, well, 13 then go right ahead. She wants it because she know the guys like it. Why is she even exposing her naval to anyone at this age anyway. Guys will love it, you'll regret it when you are taking her for her first abortion next year. I know that's what you will do because can't raise your own kid, let alone a grandkid. Good luck with that.
2007-05-25 07:33:21 · answer #10 · answered by Jeff H 1 · 2⤊ 5⤋