We had a great time together, spent time together every day for the past three months, then found out he lived with someone, which he swears he is leaving or that she is moving out. I gave him an ultimatum, then I couldn't do it, so I broke it off with him, but then I have found myself waiting for him to call and make things right. If he loved me like he said, he would do this right? Why isn't he calling and why cant I realize that I can do better? I cant stop thinking about him, and I want to know if he is thinking about me.
2007-05-25 07:00:18 · 17 answers · asked by Secretshea 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know what you need to do. Just do it. Leave him and find someone who will treat you like a lady.
2007-05-25 07:02:58 · answer #1 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough one, How long has it been since the 2 of you stopped talking? The situation I am in is a little different we have an "understanding" we aren't exclusive. I would say if he cares he will call I have held out on calling my guy and then after a day or so I'll get a phone call asking me whats wrong. Maybe he needs some time to get his head together maybe he is busy lookin for a new place. All I can really tell ya is to wait it out. It may take a while but if you can hang in there hang in there. When I met my guy he was coming out of a 4 year realtionship put me through hell with the I'm getting back with my ex ok we're donr ok I'm getting back and so on he is finally done with her and he is still adjusting to the fact of that. He and I are close I have met his child and all it's been 8 months and I'm still waiting! I am sure you can do better hell I'm surew I could do better but what your mind says and what your heart says are two different things what one do you want to follow your heart or mind? I have been following y heart cause I do love him and know he is a one of a kind guy. Don't do anything you regret if you are questioning yourself send him a text or something just say hey whats up how have ya been something like that see what his response is. Hope everything turns out how you want it to....
2007-05-25 14:14:03 · answer #2 · answered by sweets 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheat 9 out of 10 always a cheat.
If you gave him an ultimatum and he didn't leave her then he obviously thinks you're not worth it. It's very possible to love more than one person at a time, sounds like you were simply the other woman.
Do you always want to be the "other woman". Of course you want to call him but you cant make things right because he doesn't belong to you. If you want to demean yourself then go ahead and be #2 instead of being what your worth.
There are "tons" of men out there why settle for 2nd best???
Try going to a gym, working out relieves stress and will take your mind off of him momentarily. Pick up some sort of hobby to keep your mind occupied.
2007-05-25 14:12:04 · answer #3 · answered by Angel Eyes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The last part of your question is why can't you realize that you can do better? You have to get out there and date up a storm! Then you will see that you sure could do better than a lying cheat - imagine, this guy was so in love and he was going home to someone else! And it took you that long to get the truth out of him!
I don't think it's unreasonable to think that the next girl he's in love with won't know he has a girlfriend he goes home to!
He's not thinking about you because he's already realized that you're pushing him to do something he could have done three months ago and he didn't then so why should he now! What a jerk that guy is!
2007-05-25 14:07:35 · answer #4 · answered by kathyw 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry this has occured to you, but do you really want to be with someone who would hide something like that from you for 3 months? He's a cheater, plain and simple. What makes you think he wouldn't do it to you, if you two got together?
He's not a kewl person. No matter what you think you feel for him, you need to focus on the fact that he's a selfish, lying, betrayer and not someone you will waste any more time on.
No sugar he doesn't love you...he loves himself. That's why he cheated. Move on...you're better off as a single than with someone like that.
2007-05-25 14:05:55 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes time to get over a person, but at the same time he should have been upfront with you, instead of you finding out. He can't have his cake and eat it. I am going thru that now. give it a while and see if he calls, then you can call him, find out the situation, make assessment, then as hard as it is, move on. He should be able to make up his fool mind by then. But don't go running after him constatntly, with men you have to be tough on them or they will make you feel like you don't worth it. Be strong. You never knows what the future holds. if he is for you will find you where ever you are and how ever long it takes for him get there. Remember men think different to us, women.
2007-05-25 14:08:21 · answer #6 · answered by cantgetnowordstouse 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off you shold have never got involved with someone like that. With that said.....You need to stick to you guns girl. Dotn give in he is just using you for a booty call.....unless that is what you want to be known as....stop it now or he will continue to use you as he needs you.. you said he has not called that is because everything he told you is a lie. He had no intention of moving out nor does she.....she probably does nto even know he is doing this.
Yes i am sure he is thinking about you, but not like you are thinking about him....does that make any sense?
I wish you the best of luck!!
2007-05-25 14:05:51 · answer #7 · answered by Kzracer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust me he is playing you .
When I was younger I got involved with a man in the same situation and he said the exact same thing your friend is saying to you . How he was not happy , they sleep in separate rooms , he wants to leave her . To make my long story short ,
She became pregnant with his child , ended up relocating to Florida with her and I was so through . Save yourself the heartache because the thing that we don't realize is that people come into our lives for many reasons but when things start to fall apart it takes 2 to put it back together again . Love should not be one sided because no one wins .
You deserve better as I do but this time I am going to let love come to me .
Take care
2007-05-25 14:15:49 · answer #8 · answered by Constance M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is a lire and a cheat. What is wrong here. He is living with someone and for 3 months he says nothing. He is not leaving and neither is she, she has no clue about you and you are not the only one he is cheating on her with. Have some self respect and move on. You are upset at what you think you lost not what you really lost. This guy so far is a cheat and lire there are plenty of them out there. Move on..
2007-05-25 14:05:13 · answer #9 · answered by Kat G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
THERE IS NO RIGHT! He should have started his relationship with you AFTER he left. He lied to you. He is not going to leave and if he did why would you want a cheater? Do you think he wouldn't do it to you? You're in love now, but heartbreak is the only way this is going to end. This is a no-win situation.
2007-05-25 14:06:49 · answer #10 · answered by Truth Hurts 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course he didn't tell you, you wouldn't have done anything with him if you knew. You leave him alone until he leaves her because we have all heard that line before. Don't take his calls or anything. And while you are waiting, get some self esteem because you definitely can do better.
2007-05-25 14:07:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋