My Girlfriend does not seem to want to get physical with me or ever show me signs of affection. I dont think she has ever cuddled me. She never takes the lead in anything. If i try to kiss her and get her in the mood for things she doesnt respond or just keeps talking about things. We have been togther for 9 months yet i can count on the fingers of my left hand how many times we have been intimate. She has recently started the pill and i thought things would improve but they havent she just doesnt seem to have any drive or desire i honestly think i repulse her. I also feel i am always second best when it comes to her friends.
What can i do to make her want to do stuff and be affectionate and close to me? Do you think its unreasonable that I should expect her to stop always puting her friends before me for once in a while?
2007-05-25 06:33:01 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes it is unreasonable because...look dude. Women are irrational. She is gonna do what she wants, and also expect you to do what she wants.
If you want to be in a long relationship, you have to either take the lead early or accept that women will dominate you. That is all you can do. My advice: Take charge by laying down some limits gently and enforcing them, or get the hell out.
2007-05-26 13:14:43 · answer #1 · answered by Tim H 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Was she like this before she started taking the pill?
Almost ALL birth control pills reduce a female's sex drive and desire, because they mess with your hormones.... which sucks... but its true. Some females are affected more by this, and sometimes simply switching to a different pill can help things. Exercise helps to increase desire too... but I don't know if this has anything to do with your problem.
How is your relationship apart from the physical aspects? Being intimate is very much a mental thing for females. If other things aren't running smoothly this could definitely affect things. You could maybe try and talk to her more, heart to heart, etc.
Unfortunately, she might be losing interest in you and may still be with you just for comfort's sake, but I wouldn't jump to any conclusions just yet.
Don't ever try to pressure her because that will just push her away more.
Good luck.
2007-05-25 15:32:07 · answer #2 · answered by sym pathetic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds a bit immature. Have you tried talking to her about this? I don't think you're being unreasonable re her friends, being number 1 once in a while is to be expected in a relationship.
2007-05-25 13:38:26 · answer #3 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not unreasonable at all.
Maybe it's time for a break.
Some say the heart grows founder when apart.
One doesn't really know what they have until it's gone.
Best of luck sweetheart.
2007-05-25 13:38:57 · answer #4 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hay there hunie !
well 1st of all try talking to her, maybe the pill makes her feel this way put me of it at 1st you know.also i don't fink asking her to put u 1st Will help i mean i ask my bf that things got worse, he couldn't compromise nay way en ought bout me but compromise say kan u make more time for me like u do with ur mates
all the best xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
2007-05-25 13:38:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. Has she gone through some trauma maybe and as a result is reluctant to show affection?
2007-05-25 15:38:39 · answer #6 · answered by electric/discotequer/robot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her why she does this she may of had troubles in the past and maybe scared then you can help to understand and things will get where you want them to
2007-05-25 13:39:50 · answer #7 · answered by Emma L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't settle for 2nd best..
if she don't show you affection she aint worth it..
its 2way proccess why should you make all the effort!
find someone who will appreciate ya.
2007-05-25 13:37:38 · answer #8 · answered by Bwabyboi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her she may not be ready...That is OK, if you love her.
2007-05-25 13:36:50 · answer #9 · answered by db14 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because she's getting physical with me!
2007-05-25 13:37:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋