What do you think of a situation where a girl gets engaged and keeps calling her ex-boyfriend and telling him that she still loves him and misses him and "you're my soulmate". When the ex asks her why she is doing this (he's not going back to her even if he could, he's curious) she gets snippy and asks him why he needs to know. It would seem engaged girls who are a month away from getting married and alledgely so much in love with her fiance would be not calling their ex and telling him these kinds of things. Is this abnormal or is the ex out of date with how relationships are supposed to work with young womtn (this one's in her mid '20's)?
2007-05-25 06:30:23 · 12 answers · asked by Tiger 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She may be getting cold feet, or thinking that she's rushing into this too soon. Was her ex her first love? A part of her will always love her first love, and perhaps now that she's tieing the knot, she's thinking about her previous boyfriend or her first true love. It's kind of normal to have those feelings (the cold feet, the not knowing if you're doing the right thing, the feeling that you're rushing..), but the fact that she's acting it (like calling her ex and declaring her love) is ridiculous and disrespectful to her fiance. If she is that sure that she doesn't want to get married that she can actually pick up the phone and call her ex and tell him her feelings for him, she shouldn't be getting married.
2007-05-25 06:35:23 · answer #1 · answered by starsnmoons0101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is strange but not un normal. Girls want what they cant have sometimes, or they like attention from more than one person. She knows she is about to be tied down, and is too immature to get married because she is an attention Wh0re and wants to be flattered by her ex who USED to love her alot too. Try giving her more attention or telling her that this has to stop or you are cancelling the wedding. Erase his phone number... Its the only way
2007-05-25 13:34:08 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me it sounds like she is getting cold feet about getting married..but she may truly feel that way, but knows she has to move on. but still has feelings weither they are love or just a friendship..she just know that she is having to let go..maybe that is why she gets snippy when you ask...or that is how it went in my case :)
2007-05-25 13:39:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've heard of this before.....Women (and men) get cold feet and I guess wonder if they really love the person they are supposed to marry enough to stay committed...and sometimes act out on it like this....I'm not saying it's right....but I've seen and heard of these cases before.
2007-05-25 13:34:00 · answer #4 · answered by jojodaqtpie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't normal..when you get engaged..you let go of the past boyfriends and past love..she should not be contacting these guys after all this time. She doesn't deserve to be engaged..that angers me.
2007-05-25 13:39:23 · answer #5 · answered by beautifullybroken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey she probley justs wants to make sure she is making the right desicon and maby she isnt over her ex and they both might still have feelings for each other....maby just wasnt the right time to ask her this buddy sorry but thats all i can say the truth herts.
2007-05-25 15:21:35 · answer #6 · answered by Proud mama to a little girl<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop taking her calls, delete her from your IM friends list and do all you can to cut her off from you permanently.
She wants the best of both worlds. It may be the best for her but it'll be hell on you.
It's not so hard to see that the "he" you refer to is you.
2007-05-25 13:53:42 · answer #7 · answered by rhapword 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she still wants to hear that he still cares for her, even if she isn't going back to him, she wants to know that she has some control over him....she needs to decide what she wants and stick w/ it...not waiver back and forth...not fair to her fiance....
2007-05-25 13:35:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that girl's boyfriend and soon to be husband needs to cancel the marriage and let her go be with her ex or whomever she wants to be with.....
2007-05-25 13:36:53 · answer #9 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very normal.
For a confused, emotionally undeveloped person. Who wants their cake and to eat it to.
2007-05-25 13:35:50 · answer #10 · answered by Tyson boy's dad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋