I've been with him for a year and he has helped me so much.I am not that strong to leave him i need him in ma life i don't know wat to do wiht out him.he is always on my mind,i would do anything for him.He is like ma baby.the next day he cried and begged for me to get back with him.I know he loves me it was my fault he hit me i mad hiom angry thats all but the only reason it bothered me sooooooo much is that he had promised he would never hit me.
2007-05-25 06:12:16 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you do want to get back with him, you should enter counseling. Never blame yourself for making him mad enough to hit you, he should have rein in his temper. Just because he promise to not do it again doesn't mean that he won't. What happens the next time he gets mad? Would he remember his promise?
2007-05-25 06:16:27 · answer #1 · answered by WillowTree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your fault he hit you ? You don't realize how brainwashed he has you . It's easy for an abuser to cry ,they've been practicing that for a long time .being angry is never an excuse to hit . I don't care if you were the worst person on the face of the world ,if you lied ,cheated on him with his best friend -father or whomever and then laughed in his face about it , that still would not give him the excuse or right to hit you . you are co-dependent ,you are enabling an abuser , by allowing this to go on you are allowing and encouraging his disease to get worse .you are giving alcohol to an alcoholic . drugs to a druggie.you are the alcohol, you are the drug .The outcome of his disease will be jail, after he puts you or his other in the hospital .You on the other hand need help , this is not love by anyone's definition of the word . Love makes you happy . get counseling and find out what love is , and how to get in a healthy relationship .
2007-05-25 13:33:06 · answer #2 · answered by opinionated 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
He hit you? NEVER, ever, is there a reason to hit someone you love!!! There is a world of love, respect and companionship out there for you. I know that being alone is frightening but trust me, you will never know how good it can be until you take the step forward and leave an abusive relationship behind. Love and violence are never in the equation of a good relationship. I know he cried and regretted hitting you but that is just part of a cycle that may only get worse with time.
Steve.
2007-05-25 13:20:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made him angry, and that's an excuse for him to hit you? What happens the next time you make him angry? You're in a relationship, you're going to fight and piss each other off. Just how its going to be. There is never an excuse for hitting you. But honestly, this doesn't sound like a question. Sounds like you've already made up your mind to go back and be abused. Oh sure, he'll be better for a while, but anyone who resorts to that will do it again without serious therapy. Have fun with that.
2007-05-25 13:18:36 · answer #4 · answered by S_Gnat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT???????????? It was YOUR fault????????????? Where in the hell did you come up with THAT theory? You didn't make him haul off and hit you - don't you DARE take that victim's mentality.
The only way it could have been your fault is if you took his hand, balled it up into a fist and then ran into it.
He chose to not control his anger. He chose to strike you, It was HIS fault and HIS actions. It had nothing to do with you.
Then on top of it from your last post, he is cheating on you - wtf??? Do you want a disease you can't cure??
Has he screwed with your head that much to where you feel you deserve ZERO respect? He TOXIC. He is a terrible person and your life will be miserable if you don't get the hell away from him immediately.
You think he is your world because he made you feel that way, he has made you think that he is the only one who would want you...he hasn't done a lot for you except screw you up. Making you dependent on him so that he could walk all over you and you won't leave.
You SHOULDN'T datefor a whileafter you RUN from this man...you need to take time andget your head back on straight - to deprogram the crap he's put in your head so it doesn't affect you the rest of your life. Get into therapy...get your self esteem back.
Excuse me, is this your spine on the floor? Would you like to have it back??
LEAVE him. You only wasted a year of your life with the loser...don't waste the rest of your life - and a short life it will be because once a man finds he can be violent and get away with it - it just gets WORSE.
2007-05-25 13:23:21 · answer #5 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, doubt its ur fault that he hit you. He will do it again! its clear u r over dependent on him and it seems he's taking advantage of ur situation. Think and use ur instincts: if u know u r not safe or happy with him honestly and u r staying for the wrong reasons, then move on! Dont let a guy hit u, dont stay, just leave b4 it gets worse. I wish u the best. Pray u make the right decision. Take care. God Bless.
2007-05-25 13:22:02 · answer #6 · answered by d_cutie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run, run far away. A man that would hit you, in most cases do it again. Never make excuses for a guy that abuses you. Even if you upset him there is no excuse big enough to warrant hitting a woman.
Don't worry about dating right now, just take care of yourself for now and a good man will come at the right time.
Best wishes,
Lala
2007-05-25 13:20:56 · answer #7 · answered by Lalaboobaby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a hitter, always a hitter..please don't go back to the situation..this would be the "begging" stage of abuse..they say it will never happen again..you get back with him and there is the "honeymoon" stage where you fall back in love and the abuse begins..no matter HOW MAD YOU MADE HIM..he has NO right to hit you. Get out of this and leave him alone.
2007-05-25 13:16:42 · answer #8 · answered by beautifullybroken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you can't leave him. He says he won't hit you. The only way to make sure that he won't hit you again is to leave him. If you stay with him. You run the risk of him hitting you again, even worse. He needs to go to anger management classes before you should consider taking him back.
No one will have sympathy for you if chose to go back and this happens again. Hope you can work things out. Sometimes you have to separate your heart from your head right now and ask yourself if you deserve to be treated that way. Also, what if you have kids togeather. What will the kid learn from seeing "Daddy hit Mommy".
Good Luck
2007-05-25 13:17:40 · answer #9 · answered by west 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got a cool idea. Go to the local women's shelter / domestic violence shelter and chat with one of the counselors there. They're totally free and they'll probably give you some much better tips than you'll get here. It's not like you have to make a dramatic escape here, but you may need to get some info that would help you two out a lot.
2007-05-25 13:17:33 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋