my mother-in-law is very master minded.. and dont have hat mind to play such plans and games at home and i dont want even to waste my life playing politics with my mother-in-law or with my husband... my husband used to love me alot, i got married last year i dont have kids...my mother-in-law ia big liar... and she tells all lie to my husband about me... AND MY HUSBAND is such a SON that, he respect his mother fullest and blindly believe her.. when my mother-in-law tell some lie about to my husband, he believe it blindly and stop talking to me, diminishes his love to me which is obvious and he does not believe me at all.. although i'm good to every body with my all in-laws but all are with my mother-in laws nobody's on my side except my own mother and father ! i want my husband love back to me... and i want to live happily with him ! i dont want to waste my life playing all such games with my mother-in-law... my husband is always a tail of his mother. i will never believe me
2007-05-25 05:54:42 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
the reason may be- my husband is only source of income in the whole family !
2007-05-25 06:12:12 · update #1
he will not stay away from his mother THAT is just impossble !
2007-05-25 06:16:51 · update #2
He needs to have enough respect for you to tell his mother to back off. If he really loves you he would respect that. Either that tell the bitty off yourself then explain to him you had to defend yourself since he wouldn't be man enough to defend you himself.
2007-05-25 05:59:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You left out some important details: If your mother in law lives you you or you with her. If that's the case work on it right away to move out into your own place. Next, I had the same situation, honestly I got to thinking that his mom wanted to screw him or something. It was that bad! I had to pray a lot
and actually turned out that I had to move out. We broke up. If you really want to save your marriage seek help from church
counseling, or some type of outside help. You need to tell your husband that when a man and woman get together His mom has to but out so that the marriage can work on its own. But then again if his mom has this much hold on him, then you would have to be extra careful on how you tell him this. Try something that will probably work even if it kills you...
Be super extra nice, loving, sweet and sharing with her and him. Maybe the fear of losing her son is making her act like this but if you are extra nice and buy things for her and try being a good friend or even the daughter she always wished for, It might work. I pray that God has mercy and restores your
relationship with him and her.
2007-05-25 06:05:38 · answer #2 · answered by EVEI 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say, but when you marry a man, you marry his family. If you have only been married for a year and the problems are already this bad, then chances are...they will only get worse. Don't think that having a child with him will fix things b/c it won't unless you (maybe) move really far away from her. Just hope she doesn't follow you. She will just belittle you and tell you that you are not taking care of your child correctly. She sounds like a very jealous and possessive woman. If it was me, I would get out now before children are involved. If you are really into saving the relationship, then you should relocate far from her.
2007-05-25 06:04:09 · answer #3 · answered by Mom_of_2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I'm in the same boat as you.....I feel like saying this to her<""Move ***** get out the way" Are you married to my brother in law..who is this!!!?? LOL Seriously though, it is tough, and once when my mother in law was running her damn mouth, I finally exploded and couldnt take it no more, I started telling her that she needed to stay out of our business, we have our own family, house, bills, problems and that we didnt need her butting in to it. I was so pissed and I was cussing, and I probably shouldnt have acted a fool, but you get so tired of being disrespected by her in front of my husband and my husband never said anything to her and thats when i had made up my mind(during the incident before this one) that she will never disrespect me like that again. "Cause i never had before. And this time it was in her house!!!! But u gotta stick for yourself if husband isnt gonna say nothing to her. My husband was so mad at me..but I felt better and then he understood where I was coming from after things calmed down between us and we talked
2007-05-25 06:04:26 · answer #4 · answered by RED SONIA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, there are two issues going on here. The first one is that you and her clash and the second thing is he's not being respectul to you and is still attached to her apron strings. I'd say it's time for you to put your foot down about this situation and let him know you're tired of how she treats you and that he doesn't say anything. If this doesn't help and he still doesn't step up to the plate, I'd be getting my ducks in a row and getting out. If it turns into that, then they're "perfect" for each other, you know? If he can't stand up for his wife etc...that's his own problem and the two of you need to separate.
2007-05-25 05:59:51 · answer #5 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i feel so bad for you! you really need to sit down with your husband and have a serious talk with him. dont make it seem like you are doing it out of hate for your mother in law, instead for you love for him. tell him exactly how you feel but try not to be confrentational and make sure he knows how serious you feel about this. then after he understands where you are coming from, the three of you should have a talk, until you come to an agreement. you cannot live like this, it is so unfair to you and your marrige. you literally will have to make time for this talk, but make sure you do, do it!!! good luck!
2007-05-25 06:03:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should lay down the law to your husband. Tell him to grow up. He shouldn't have gotten married if he is a mama's boy. I would go back home with my parents and see if it helps.If not, maybe you would be better off with a more mature person.
2007-05-25 06:00:50 · answer #7 · answered by Marilyn T 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband facts: He is going to live with you for the rest of his life. Unless he chooses to stay with his mother for the rest of her life. Then that is his decision and you would know what to do next.
2007-05-25 06:14:37 · answer #8 · answered by simck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is supposed to put YOU first not his Mother. If that is how he is going to treat you, then you might start thinking about getting a divorce! You can't force him to change!
2007-05-25 05:59:15 · answer #9 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get you and your husband to marriage counseling FAST You can change a moms boy without help.
2007-05-25 06:04:47 · answer #10 · answered by Tammy R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋