She is great, we have a wonderful relationship. The word I that describes my mom is simply love, true, unconditional love. Like most moms like that, she is however overprotective and sometimes I wish I could make my own decisions. Sometimes I do'nt gree w/ her, and even other parents say sometimes she goes oveboard w/ her protection. But since I am maybe weak, I never succeed, I don't fight, she wins me w/ her love and sweetness. She has a tactic that always work. When we disagree on something and she sees that's really bothering me, she comes to y bedside at night and with her love and sweet words explain to me her decision. I want your best hun, I love you I'm more experienced, please trust me. I guess she won't back off, but anyway that love takes my anger away and even if I don't agree I end up promising her, w/ all my love, as she asks me, tghat I'll do as she wants. So, I'm defeated, and once I prmise I won't break the promise. I never get resentful, bt sometimes I'd like to win
2007-05-25 05:39:17 · 26 answers · asked by Marta 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She knows I don't break my promises, so she always wins
2007-05-25 05:39:51 · update #1
Remember that this is not a battle. I wanna tell you and your mom that you are very lucky to have each other. She loves you and wants the best for you and you care about her feelings. Moms really know more than their kids but if you are so eager to do something she is against, try to sit and talk to her calmly. Tell her why you want it badly and how happy it will make you. Also remember to ask for reasonable stuff and that there will come a day when you'll go to college, then graduate and have your own life, so don't worry and don't rush things.
Good luck.
2007-05-25 05:49:09 · answer #1 · answered by Noona 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are still young and be glad that you have someone that truly loves you and wants what is best for you. Be glad you don't have someone that ignores you and treats you badly.
You have hit the parent lottery and in this day and age, it is a blessing. When you are older you will understand. Just keep your chin up. Trust me, at your age, you may not be able to make the best decisions. If you have such a great relationship, you can always talk to her about things. She is overprotective because it is an ugly world out there and just doesn't want anything bad to happen to you. She simply loves you and be happy with that. When you are older, you will look back on this time in your life and realize how lucky you were.
2007-05-25 06:11:19 · answer #2 · answered by zumi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should count your blessings big time. I am 65 years old and raising my 10 year old Grandson. He has not seen his mother in over 3 years. He was removed from her home when he was t3 years old for phsical and sexual abuse. HIs Daddy (my son) is just now trying to come back into his life but it is doubtful he can ever be a major factor in the child's life because of earlier drug abuse problems he had.
There are 100,000s of children who would give anything to have a mom so loving and protective. Your problem as I see it is fairly typical for a 15 year old. You want and crave your Mom's love and protection but yet you also want and crave your independence. That is why it is called adolesence. You are not a child any longer but you are not an adult either.
Your Mom does indeed know what is best for you even though you can not see it right now. It will only get worse instead of better in the next couple of years. By the time you are 17 you will swear your Mom is the dumbest person alive. But by the time you are 25 you will begin to understand just how smart you Mom really is.
My daughter is 38 and just last week she told me she had no idea what she and her brothers put me though when they were teenagers. Now that she has a teen of her own she FINALLY understands just how smart her Daddy really was.
Be patient with your Mom. The time will come when you will be begging your teenagers to be patient with you.
Finally, you have a great role model in your Mom. Learn from her so you will be able to handle the awesome responsibilities of raising children in a very hostile and evil world..
Good luck and please show this to your Mom. She deserves some support.
2007-05-25 06:02:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your a good kid. I always thought my mom went overboard on protection but it was about normal, I see that now. I'm 25 and she still says "I really wish you wouldn't go out so late" and other things.
Mother's are mother's....it's natrual for them to worry. If she watches the news all the time I don't blame her for acting over protective. There are so many people out there young and old that make bad choices or are in the wrong place at the wrong time and end up in terrible situations.
I think if she knows where your going and who your with and you check in with her at a certain time she may feel more at ease about some things.
You are lucky you have a mother that is so involved in your life and loves you so much. A couple kids I know (who are like my brother and sister) ages 16 and 13 have to try to fight for their parents attention. Their mother is in rehab for drugs and their father forgets doctors appointments and forgets to pick them up from places. It's good they have great aunts and uncles and cousins and grandparents to care for them. They are wonderful kids. Some kids just arn't so lucky.
I'm sure your mom will ease up on you with time and trust and age.
Sorry so long.
2007-05-25 05:51:35 · answer #4 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's simple. Because she's right! You'll stand up to her and make your way when it's something you are truly convicted about and know is good for you. When you have doubt and your mother comes to you with a rational explanation why not to do it, you believe her. The good news is that it means you are one smart girl. A lot of girls your age can't listen to reason, no matter how loving their mothers are. You are lucky to have such a wonderful caring mom. You two will continue to disagree for awhile, and you will get stronger as you learn and experience more about who you are. Your mom sounds like she loves you enough to see that and to let you make some mistakes of your own.
2007-05-25 05:56:01 · answer #5 · answered by georgiabirdgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, I'm 34 and I still don't win arguments w/ my mom. I voice my opinion and do what I want but it always turns out that if I had listened 2 her in the first place everything would've turned out the way it was supposed 2. U'll get ur chance to win whenever u become a parent. That's how I've been getting my revenge. LOL
2007-05-25 05:47:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think I'd worry first about the folks who are so eager to interfere in your Moms' wishes by telling you she's overboard or over protective.
You always win with your Mom. You just haven't realized it yet. Hang on, give her some slack, and she'll fly yet!
You'll see. You'll be 18 or 21 before you know it, looking for her to stir you up a batch of chicken soup.
2007-05-25 06:07:24 · answer #7 · answered by KRIEGAR 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever think that she is not playing a game and it is not about winning or losing because this is your life and she is guiding you in the right direction with her love and support. would you rather have a mom that didn't love you, didn't care where you were and who were with. You should be proud that your mom is there for you. my dad passed away when I was 13 yrs old and all I had was my mom. I'm glad I listen to her because if I didn't I don't know where I would be.
2007-05-25 05:53:40 · answer #8 · answered by friendlygrr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your only 15.
Sounds to me that you have a really wonderful mom. A parent who loves and cares for you and is not afraid to show you. I just wish we had a million just like her. Don't worry about what others say about your mom. You know, deep down inside they probably wish that they had a mom just like her. She's been there, she's done that, she just wants the best for you. Don't be angry with her for that.
Maybe when your older and show her that you can make good decisions for yourself, she'll let go. Right now, just enjoy it while it lasts.
2007-05-25 05:46:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can never beat true love and caring. And you can always win love with more love. Remember she has seen 25-30 years more life than you and knows what's best for you. Trust her totally. When you grow up you will realize, hopefully not too late, that the only 'true' friends you will ever have, are your parents.
2007-05-25 06:01:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋