2007-05-25 05:18:13 · 13 answers · asked by Stoked 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Becuz in order to move on in an area of our lives it just feels better to tie loose ends and end things properly. I've needed the very same thing in past relationships and not done it and done it so I know both perspectives and I can tell you from experience that it feels way better to find closure to things. I try to do it everything just to feel like this stage has ended....it's time for the next.
Good Luck.
2007-05-25 05:25:21 · answer #1 · answered by ☆ Heavenly ☆ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because people do. Want closure, I mean. It seems to be a human need to place things in context, to feel you understand what went on, to find a solution you're comfortable with.
Problem is, it's kind of a fallacy, closure. Change is a constant, and situations, and people, unpredictable, so outcomes and responses aren't guaranteed. You want this relatonship to come to some conclusion that seems "right" to you - you may or may not have a clear picture in your mind what that would entail - but that doesn't mean you can get Psycho Ex to play along. See, she doubtless has her own version of a "right" ending, which you probably wouldn't like.
Add in the fact that people rarely have full knowledge of what they want, why they want it, how to get it, etc., and that the end of any relationship includes tension, discomfort, awkwardness, and it's highly unlikely that you and Psycho Ex could reach a mutually satisfying conclusion. Also highly likely that the effort would be exhausting, frustrating, and unproductive.
So change your target. In this case, "closure" for you is whatever you decide it is, so why not decide that if nothing else, relationship with Psycho Ex taught your valuable stuff about yourself, what you want, who you are, and about other people. Also, the only thing worse than being in a relationship with a Psycho is staying forever in the relationship with the Psycho - so closure is also that there came a time when you were no longer in a relationship with a Psycho.
Take what you've learned (and maybe this is a good time to refrain from dating for a short spell, spend time with friends, with family, with yourself, and figure out what it is you learned. Hint - it's probably not what you THINK you learned while still angry, hurt and bitter). Forgive Psycho Ex (in your heart) for not being a better person than she is, thank her (again, in your heart) for what she taught you, and move on.
Moving on is also closure.
2007-05-25 05:30:25 · answer #2 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-06 04:13:14 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Psycho or not we all need closer. I had a psycho ex boyfriend (yes his whole family was PSYCHO!!!lol) anyway I needed closer before I could move on compleatly.
Now for you that all depends on what closer means. Is it that you feel the need to see her one last time? Or talk to her one last time? If she's as psycho as my ex i'd say probably not a great idea.
Do you want to say you were sorry for something or are waiting to hear an apology (remember psychos don't apologies and we didn't do anything wrong)
I'm not to sure what you mean about closer.
But...I can say that that is perfectly normal in any relationship to need closer. For me closer was just getting up every morning and saying "I forgive him" until one day i actually ment it. But honey, do what you need to do and get your closer.
Just don't expect something from her that she will not give like an apology.
Hope that helps and hope every works out for you!
2007-05-25 05:25:38 · answer #4 · answered by *Sbaby* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean i cant explain it but it s like you cant go on with out the word the end ...
I was left with out closure too and i feel like what i do..to desirve this..i wish my b f was psycho at least it gave me reason to run instead of wonding why this happened,,
best of luck need some to talk to iam here
2007-05-25 05:24:34 · answer #5 · answered by shayhi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
cuz you think she's psycho and you want to make sure she doesn't go fatal attraction on you? cuz you really are hung up on her cuz she's not psycho it's just something you tell yourself to feel better for leaving her? cuz the hollywood movies tell you that you need closure? cuz she was the best sex you ever had and you want to get some break up sex?
2007-05-25 05:23:04 · answer #6 · answered by hekate6164 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because your threatened by her? If she is psycho get over it. Run for the hills baby!
2007-05-25 05:22:12 · answer #7 · answered by Nurse Lola 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you don't need closure but a restraining order.
2007-05-25 05:24:57 · answer #8 · answered by Masha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did she break up with you?
Did the relationship just end?
Sometimes we hold on to things because they just didn't end correctly and you need to get somethings off your chest!
2007-05-25 05:23:56 · answer #9 · answered by shasha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were hurt and want answers, its natural but just let it be. Right her a letter with all the stuff you want to say then throw it away.
2007-05-25 05:21:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋