I live in TN and am getting married in St Augustine. It will be a very small ceremony (only 11 ppl inluding me and the groom). Many of our friends and family are scattered all over the country, so we will not have a reception when we return. I want to send out wedding announcements after the fact. Should I? I know this may sound bad (and it's not meant to) but will people send small gifts if we do that? Is it tacky?
2007-05-25 04:58:44 · 22 answers · asked by jrhod263 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
NO, it is not wrong to send out announcements after the fact. Especially if you have moved and changed your name.
And yes, maybe you will get presents and maybe you won't. It just depends.
Congrats on the wedding and best of luck to the both of you.
2007-05-25 05:03:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
YES, absolutely, definitely send out cards announcing the marriage of xxx to ooo. Some people will feel that not being invited to a wedding means no gift. Others want to congratulate you with a gift (usually money). At any rate, the purpose of the announcements is to let people know that you are a married couple now. Investigate how the wording should read on the announcements, i.e. X&O were married in a private ceremony on (date) at (place). That explains why no wedding invitation was extended to them. Please do not forget any of the aunts you both may have as they will be making you the gossip of the week/century! LOL Please DO have the cards printed...don't write them yourself. That's tacky. It will be worth the printing charge. You are smart to have a small wedding if money is an issue - even if you had a reception you would not get back the money it cost for a big wedding. It's a special day to give and get all the attention to your honey! Best wishes!
2007-05-25 05:48:43 · answer #2 · answered by DPL06351 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well of course you can send out small announcements to your friends and extended family after the ceremony. It's not the least bit tacky. You might want to include a short note explaining that it was a very small wedding and there was no formal reception so people won't think this is just a gift grab.
If they truly are your good friends and loving family members I'm sure you'll get some gifts. But that is each person's choice.
Congratulations and best wishes on your marriage.
2007-05-25 05:08:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some may send gifts, but most will probably send a card, with perhaps some money.
However, like you said, that's a tacky question. Your wedding should be about you and your groom getting married, not the gifts you may or may not receive.
2007-05-25 05:04:11 · answer #4 · answered by capitalctu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on who your sending the anouncements to. I am sure that if they are close friends and family they will not mind at all. I would not do this just to expect gifts, though. It should be more of a celebration of your union. I would try to see if you can maybe celebrate later on with a small party and invite those people that you could not invite to the wedding. If they show up great, if they don't maybe they will send a gift!:) I certainly would not sent them an invitation with a gift regestry, that would be tacky!
2007-05-25 05:07:47 · answer #5 · answered by greysfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's perfectly fine. I sent out announcements (not invites) after we had already been married. I was in the exact same situation as you.
It's not tacky. And yes, most people will send gifts or cards. Just make sure you either look up how to correctly word these announcements, or get them professionally done.
2007-05-25 05:09:36 · answer #6 · answered by KS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you did ask for brutal honesty-
If I read this right you want to keep the ceremony small to keep expresses down but you don’t want to risk getting smaller gifts because you send the announcements later? Do you not see the selfishness here?
Nobody is under any obligation to give you gifts.
I would suggest seeming out announcements instead of invitations and include notes explaining that you must keep the ceremony small.
But if you are not inviting them, don’t be angry if you don’t get gifts.
2007-05-25 05:09:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The proper etiquette is to send out wedding announcements before the fact. And the announcement is not a solicitation for gifts but exactly what it says it is, an announcement. You are sharing your good news. If people choose to send you gifts, that's their prerogative but they are not obligated.
Some people will send you gifts and some won't. Just remember to send them thank you notes promptly.
2007-05-25 05:07:01 · answer #8 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, to be honest, you should have just said something about the point of distinguishing them as a different race, creed or religion could have been left out, and not gone into so much detail.. I do agree with you, you just carried on a little to much about it... It really made you sound as if you were doing the exact same thing you were accusing her of doing.... sorry, but it did.... some times the less said the more that is understood..... go in peace.... God bless
2016-05-17 11:50:17 · answer #9 · answered by sandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's tacky. It's right to tell them you were married. And if they want to send a gift, good for you and them. But be sure to send out thank-you cards if you do receive gifts. Congrats on getting married!
2007-05-25 05:03:45 · answer #10 · answered by SisterCF 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋