I posted this question earlier today. I won't except anything less than 2 carats. I forgot to mention I am not have a wedding I'm going to the justice of the peace. So we won't be wasting money on that.
2007-05-25 04:11:18 · 61 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Are you going to tell your man how to propose to you, too? I mean, seriously...You will not accept anything less than 2 carats? So, if your guy can not afford to spend $15,000+ on a ring, you will tell him "No, not until you save up for a bigger ring"?
I think you need to really step back and re-evaluate why you are so concerned with the size of the diamond, and not about spending the rest of your life with this man. You refer to a potential wedding as "Wasting money" but you want your guy to spend a small fortune on a piece of rock for your hand? I think you need time to mature, and I hope your boyfriend thinks long and hard about your motivations before he blows all his money on you.
2007-05-25 05:34:19 · answer #1 · answered by Kat 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are you aware that a 2-carat ring (a NICE 2-carat) costs somewhere around $30,000? So he can afford a $30,000 ring but he doesn't have the money to give you a wedding too? I think that means that he can't really afford the ring and you are stupid for breaking some poor fool. It's not the ring that matters, it's the love behind it as many other answers say. It's a symbol of the vows- or do you not care about those either? A wedding isn't a waste of money- a $30,000 ring IS.
I hope that you enjoy your diamond because that's what you'll be celebrating your wedding with. That, and a few strangers you've never met before that probably don't mean anything to you. Way to create a memorable, lasting moment.
I've got some advice for your guy- Run. Fast. Just turn around, and never look back. It starts with the ring- what will he do next that you won't be happy with? You ought to become a lot less selfish before you can give yourself to somebody completely and fully.
2007-05-27 02:42:41 · answer #2 · answered by omelet_du_fromage 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is WHY do you want a rock that big? It's a friggin' rock! Diamonds are way overvalued, thanks to the virtual monopoly DeBeers has. And when you get rocks that big, they usually don't sparkle with the same amount of fire (simply because there aren't that many large diamonds that are clear that are cut so nicely) -- so they end up yellow, or cloudy.
And there's a difference between "wanting" a large ring and "I won't accept anything less than 2 carats." That second statement is truely snobby and says really that you won't accept a guy who can't afford at least $20,000 for a ring. So, the only guys you will marry are (a) Old guys who have money (b) Bluebloods who frivolously spend, or (c) Self-made millionaires? You'll only love a guy who has money? Seriously?
(And as far as the wedding savings goes... generally others, like your parents, help with the wedding, but the guy has to buy the ring all by himself... so it's not really a "savings" is it.)
Would you rather have a ring or a college fund for your kids? A ring or a down payment on a house? A ring or a debt-free husband.
Think about it before saying that you "won't accept anything less" than 2 carats. I would hope you wouldn't accept anything less than a loving fiance.
2007-05-25 05:07:36 · answer #3 · answered by Perdendosi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want 2 carats? What is it about that specific weight that means so much to you? I wouldn't say it's necessarily wrong to want that, but to not accept anything less makes it sound like you value his money and what he gives you way more than you value a relationship. Also, the carat weight isn't the only thing to take into consideration as there is clarity, color, and cut issues as well. If you price diamonds on adiamor.com to have 2-3 carats, little to no inclusions (VS1 and higher), and be colorless (F-D) realize that you are asking him to spend about $19,000 on the diamond alone (you can choose setting on the site separately). Is a rock worth as much as a car to you? And why is a wedding ceremony a "waste of money"? This is supposed to be a happy, memorable day that signifies the start of a full partnership in life, and it sounds like it's being reduced to an excuse to get a big present and expect more in the future.
2007-05-25 04:35:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that is the standard that you want then I guess your future husband should know up front that is your priority. I dont understand why a symbol of love like that should purely be based on the size of the diamond (the price of the ring) but if making sure everyone knows that is important than its how you feel. I personally would not tell everyone "I will only accept 2 carats" I have a friend that did that and everyone talks behind their backs about how her husband is a pushover and she is superficial. Thats just people though! I would say if its in the budget then thats great for you but dont make the poor guy go into debt over it! Good luck
2016-05-17 11:31:28 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think there is anything wrong in wanting a 2 carat, but I think it is very shallow to say you wont accept anything less. It is not the ring that matters it is the proposal and the marriage. There are too many women who put too much importance on a ring. Its only a piece of jewelry. I personally would rather have a cz than a diamond because I think they sparkle more. My engagement ring is blue topaz with diamond accents and I think it is the most beautiful ring I've seen. Right now your thoughts should be that you are marrying the man of your dreams and how happy you will be, not about the ring. Congrats on your marriage.
2007-05-25 07:38:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being engaged is not all about the ring! My fiance proposed to me without a ring. He took me the next day and let me pick on myself. Mine is only 1/2 carat and it's plenty big and it's beautiful. I don't know why anyone would want a ring so big, like 2 carats. I have a friend with a 3/4 carat ring and she says she bumps it and knocks it on stuff all the time. The bigger it is, the more likely it will get damaged and the more likely someone will try to steal that bad boy!
You should put such a requirement on your engagement ring. It's about love, not vanity.
2007-05-25 04:30:54 · answer #7 · answered by Beth 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it is wrong. By saying that you are putting a price on your potential marriage which seems very materialistic.
Not to mention a 2 carat diamond can be cheap or hugely expensive depending on other factors - clarity, cut & color
It is better to have a 1 carat diamond that is almost perfect in color, clarity, and has no flaws than a 2 carat that may be a bit yellow and have flaws
How would you like it if he said he would except only a platinum rolex? The engagement ring is a gift - not something one is entitled to.
2007-05-25 04:18:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
It's not necessarily wrong, but you should examine the reasons surrounding your choice. This might be reflective of your relationship and your values. Be sure that you and your fiance are in this for the right reason - love. Any other reason could cost the both of you a lot more than just money later on.
If you guys can afford a 2 carat ring, and you're both in agreement, then go for it. However, if this will put you into hock or severe financial distress, make other plans.
The size of the ring should never be related to the level of feelings your fiance has for you.
2007-05-25 04:21:03 · answer #9 · answered by weddingqueen 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it is wrong to want a nice engagement ring but to say that you won't accept less than two carats is wrong. I think the most important thing is the commitment that is being made not the ring.
2007-05-25 04:34:54 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋