We invited my husband's parents and sister over for a bonfire at my parents house this Sunday. We asked them a week ago and they said they would go. Today We called them to make sure they are still coming and they said that they are inviting us over this Sunday for dinner at their place after we already invited them to my folk's place the same day and they already said okay to that. They said that we always see my parents more than we see them and that we never see my husband's sister so we should have to go over to their house. They are always busy on the weekends with car races and horse shows and they work during the day all week while my husband works 2nd shift. So it's almost impossible to get together. What should we do? We've always done more stuff with my parents because his are always busy, but they never complained about it until we had a baby. My husband is upset because he doesn't want to upset me or his mother. What are we supposed to do?
2007-05-25 03:02:05 · 7 answers · asked by blank 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You already made a committment to be at your parents for the bonfire. You should honor that. If you renig on that youre no different than the in laws changing plans.
Your in laws sound petty and self centered.
Just keep your original plans. Feelings will get hurt but only because they didnt mind hurting yours first. You cant avoid it but its not your fault, its the in laws fault.
2007-05-25 04:04:20 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say it, but I think you're going to have to decline. Besides, it was awfully rude of them to accept your invitation, then change their plans at the last moment...much less ask you to change yours.
On the other hand, if you really want to spend time with them, and scheduling is very difficult, you could explain your problem to your parents and see if they mind.
If they do, just stick with your plans.
2007-05-25 10:24:28 · answer #2 · answered by KRIEGAR 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you and your husband have your own place then I'd suggest a gathering at yours with both family members. I think the best bet is to talk to the inlaws both you and your husband as a family and discuss the matter.
2007-05-25 10:08:31 · answer #3 · answered by valiumsbestfriend19 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You already had plans. Stick with them. Try to make plans in the coming week or so to met up again with your inlaws.
2007-05-25 10:08:33 · answer #4 · answered by Question Addict 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like your inlaws are manipulating you and your husband.
you made the plans FIRST, before the inlaws asked you to dinner... let them know your parents were already expecting them as guests, and you hope they will make it.
keep the plans you made initially. take care.
2007-05-25 10:15:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have already committed to your parents and if they don't want to be joining you and do things with you at your parent's house then they are having issues. make a date with them for another weekend. if they really want to see you and your hubby and child then they will make time for it.
2007-05-25 10:08:45 · answer #6 · answered by cowgirlclub 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What would you do if they weren't your relatives? Courtesy is courtesy, no matter who is involved. Good luck.
2007-05-25 10:09:02 · answer #7 · answered by jaicee 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋