My family never visits me, and I live in Africa, while they live back in Ireland. I can understand my mother's reasons. (She had skin cancer, and the sun here is very strong) but the other members of my family...
Friends visited me, yes, but not my family. Not one single member.
Laughing, not that I want them to visit, but my colleagues and friends here are asking questions as I'm nearly 3 years here.
2007-05-25 01:19:52 · 7 answers · asked by Balaboo 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Oh, I flew home to see them, twice in two years.
2007-05-25 01:27:42 · update #1
I write a lot of letters, I send a lot of faxes, text messages. they insist on hearing from me.
It's all one sided here.
They refuse to email me, refuse to fax me, but one person sends me text messages.
They are delighted I visit them, I wanted to see them. but they are the ones with the salaries, I don't have a salary. (I'm a volunteer and was aware of the financial implications) If I had the money, I would send money for them to come here, but no.
My phrase... not that I want them here... have you heard of defensiveness? I would like them to visit, but knowing what I know... they won't come here. when I ask... they come up with excuses... too hot... mosquitoes... malaria, etc.
Families... Love them, don't ye?
2007-05-25 01:39:20 · update #2
What is the money situation like with your family back home? Sometimes when you live on a different continent to your family it can be hard for them to visit you cause of costs of trip and stuff.
Not trying to sound pushy or anything, but how often do you fly home to visit them? Cause an option you might have is to tell them, that you would put some money into the cost of them coming over to visit you cause it would mean a lot to you for that to happen.
Or just ask them why they don't visit you - they may have their reasons.
2007-05-25 01:26:10 · answer #1 · answered by brat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is unrealistic because of your attitude. Probably, the reason why they haven't visited you is because you've led them to believe that you really don't care. Go back and read the tone of what you say: "not that I want them to visit" but my collegues...... It sounds to me that what your colleagues think is much more important than how your family feels. And I'm sure somewhere down the line, you've made family feel that way. But only you know for sure by the number of phone calls, emails and letters you sent home. But, if you tone is anything like it is above, you shouldn't expect them to pay $2000 euros to fly to see you. Sorry.
2007-05-25 08:31:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh no--of course they should visit! I would for sure, Africa--how cool is that?
I moved to Switzerland six years ago and I'm feeling hurt enough that my parents have only come (from Canada) twice (they're coming again in June) and two of the times we were/will be pretty much a side-trip.
2007-05-25 09:14:21 · answer #3 · answered by Goddess of Grammar 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Stop making it one sided. If they want to know how you are, let them find out for themselves. They can pick up a phone and send emails just as easily as you can.
2007-05-25 09:05:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do they have the money to get the air tickets? what about accommodations etc? Are they working? Have to take leave from work... Do they have other commitments? eg. dog to take crae. Kids at home have to attend school ?
2007-05-25 10:12:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, regardless of how much money they do or don’t have, it’s very expensive to travel to another country. Second, regardless of why you moved, it was YOU, not them, that moved. You have no right to criticize them/complain about this.
2007-05-25 09:26:44 · answer #6 · answered by kp 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you say "not that I want them to visit"... THAT is why! You don't want them there.
Tell your "colleagues and friends" it's none of their business who visits you. OR tell'em, I don't want my family to visit.
2007-05-25 08:38:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋