My sister's 12-year wedding anniversary is this Sunday, which is the day before Memorial Day. She wants me to babysit her 3 kids for 6 hours while she and her husband go out. No I don't want to and am not in the mindset to babysit. I even told her that, but got suckered into babysitting. Sunday's weather is supposed to be nice, while Monday it is supposed to storm all day. Do you think that I should call and cancel with her? I am seriously dreading it.
2007-05-25 01:02:34 · 18 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I worked very hard this week and broke it off with my boyfriend of 5.5 years. This is why I am not in the mindset. I seriously don't want to be around anyone.
2007-05-25 01:09:30 · update #1
No one wants to help since they will all be at cookouts...having a good time. Bad enough, my niece is TERRIFIED of my two small dogs. The children make my dogs really nervous and upset. I don't want to be cleaning up dog crap this weekend, because of all the screaming.
2007-05-25 01:14:42 · update #2
Well that's a tuff one ,but everything is going to be alright. I think that maybe you should take the kids to the park and get out yourself. Hey your single and I am sure you just need to get out there and mingle even with your nieces and nephews. Have fun and don't dread babysitting them
2007-05-25 03:04:39 · answer #1 · answered by Tivas Tivas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO IT'S NOT WRONG TO CANCEL THE BABYSITTING JOB . I'm am 30 year old Teacher who happily has no kids; and I'm amazed at how people who have children think its everyone else responsibilty to help them take care of their kids! I quickly tell ALL my female relatives that I do not babysit--I dont care if its your birthday, wedding anniversary--whatever; the bottom line is that those are Your Kids, you made the decision to have them, so deal with it! The reason I made the decision not have kids right now is because I cherish my freedom. Do they think I'm a bit*ch? Yes. Do I care? NO!! :)
No, this is Memorial Day Weekend, and if the idea of being stuck in the house babysitting and losing your weekend makes you physically sick--then call your Sister to cancel, espcially if you have a stressful job of your own that you need a break from. Once its time to go back to work--thats it--then you'll feel tired and resentful next week that you didnt get a rest.... If you can--call someone else in the family right now and see if they'll do it--so that way you're being more than fair. Call the raltives and your sister like, right now--so she can work on getting someone else.
Look--She's a married woman, so let her husband try to use some of his relatives! Isn't that what husbands and marriage is for--taking care of resposnibilties? They are married, and if their anniversary means so much to them--they they should have pre-planned to pay for a babysitter-period!
Look, just know that your sister will be pissed, and she'll try to beg you into doing it--but dont fall into her guilt trap; dont feel guilty at all. You have a job, school, life too. Be firm & serious. It's her life, her kids, her marriage, and her responsibilty.
Peace.
2007-05-25 08:28:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its 6 hours out of your day and it is your sister's 12 year wedding anniversary. Instead of cancelling on her maybe see if you can ingotiate some extras in the babysitting package, like you a bring a mate to keep you company or the next time you need a favour she does it for you. I know it may not be the most interesting thing for you to do on your weekend but it will make your sister happy and you will feel better for helping her. And Who knows the weather on monday may be that perfect day you wanted, just coz it was said on the news doesnt mean its true.
In the end it is your choice but there are always ways to go about adding benefits for yourself while doing a good thing for your sister's wedding anniversary
2007-05-25 08:10:32 · answer #3 · answered by dragonfly_princess_72 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well since you said yes then you are kind of obligated to do it. But it sounds like she pressured you so I say call and cancel. They aren't your kids so if they don't have a sitter not your problem. As a mother myself I know that cancelling happens and it's my responsibility to have back-up sitters. Secondly, it's a holiday who babysits on holidays like that? Why don't you suggest to you sister that she spend time with her children Memorial weekend and reschedule her tryst with her husband. I mean after 12 years of marriage they should know that some things get postponed because of kids. No, you won't be mean if you cancel she can watch her own kids and be a family that day. Don't let your sister push you around. Good luck and remember she has the kids not you.
2007-05-25 09:25:15 · answer #4 · answered by Allisia C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should cancel at all. To be fair, although you were suckered into babysitting, how would you feel if this was your 12th wedding anniversary and your sister up and canceled on you. Find someone, such as a friend, to help you babysit or take the kids to a park so you can get outside and enjoy the good weather.
2007-05-25 08:12:30 · answer #5 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just say NO!! Tell them today so they can make alternative plans. Tell them that since THEIR 3 kids are a result of their 12 years of wedded bliss, that they need to make plans that include their 3 lil bundles of joy. Go out and have fun or stay in and be miserable...its up to you BUT you have the right to spend the day the way YOU want. G'luck!
2007-05-25 08:42:14 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your sister should be more compassionate towards your needs right now. Their children are their responsibility not yours, and i have 3 myself so i do know what its like, i would NEVER expect anyone else to have them, never mind someone who needs a little TLC themselves. Tell her now so she can make alternative arrangements, or failing that she can look after her OWN children. they are as big a part of her marriage as anything else. this weekend, pamper yourself, chill out in your PJ S, eat comfort food and indulge in whatever you want to. Look afetr No 1 here, good luck
and dont let your little puppy drink too much beer LOL!
2007-05-25 08:27:19 · answer #7 · answered by ♠ Merlin ♠ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be out enjoying yourself too. But I think it would be mean to cancel at this the eleventh h9our. Don't get suckered into it again, but give her a pass this time.
2007-05-25 08:07:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello
the key here is proper COMMNICATION
tell your mom & dad. tell her nicely. if she controls u like a remote control.
Nows the time to say enough is enough
gently, smoothly...iam not a babysitter!
im there aunt and i have a life like u. oops
and try helping her by having a sitter ready
so she can't say diddly.thats your back up
hears your sitter. what can they say.
they will be shocked.
best
2007-05-25 09:17:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister should of respected your wishes the first time you said no instead of pushing you into this. Call and cancel.
2007-05-25 09:08:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋