When I have sex it seems that the guy I have sex with doesn't think about pleasing me. Sex with him is over way to fast and I really don't enjoy it. I feel like I'm being used. I feel so dumb and worthless. I'm still a rookie at sex and I only have sex with guys the are more experinced than me. I think I should just stop having sex period,point,blank!
2007-05-24 23:34:36 · 29 answers · asked by black_china_kitty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Save yourself till it feels right. If you want satisfaction, buy a dildo
2007-05-24 23:37:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Join all the women of the world !!!! Get a book like it used to be "the joy of sex" and read up on it. This is like 99.9% of the women of the world. If you are in a committed relationship, he is not being insensitive, it is just the way men are made. If he is using you and doesn't care, well................ but don't feel bad, it is the way we are built. Just do some reading on it and you will find it is the age old problem. In generations past, women were told to just fake it and make the man happy but that doesn't lead to good sex. Sex truly is based upon good communication.
2007-05-25 06:39:32 · answer #2 · answered by I Love Jesus 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont be too hard on yourself. this guy may be thinking ' i cant believe this gorgeous girl is letting me root her! id better hurry up before she changes her mind and im left with a massive stiiffy. on the other hand, a guy can get off in seconds with a girlie picture, a woman takes a bit longer than that. unless you are a nympho sex addict and can do it on command its going to take some time and effort on his part. most guys arent prepared to put that time into it. women can be more emotional and have to FEEL the vibe in every way. most guys just want to get their end in. only a guy who truly loves you or actually enjoys pleasing a woman will spend the time to do it. and with some women it can take over an hour, (now thats a top bloke!!!) also i think you should just stop and have a rest. you dont want to get a name as a sllut. you will only feel more worthless and sad.... MAKE THEM work for it .....you dont have to give them 'jack shiit!' until you want to. its all up to you.
2007-05-25 07:09:23 · answer #3 · answered by blerchus4incapet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a young lady and when I was younger, I had that problem too. I had sex for nearly 2 years with several different guys and never had an orgasm. I didnt understand how to have one or why I wasnt. Then I had sex with a guy that was kindof a 1 night stand. I dont know how he did it but he made me have an orgasm and I ended up marrying him. I thought that wonderful feeling meant love. When you do have an orgasm,take it from me sweetheart, it doesnt mean love. It just means that you had an orgasm.
2007-05-25 07:03:56 · answer #4 · answered by sexxyeyes72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont need to stop having sex. what you need is find someone that is willing to be with you for you not for one thing there are still some out there that put there attention on the women and not on getting in bed. just be more careful when looking you should be able to tell what there into if they go right for the hug and kiss thing they want one thing move on, if hes a real man he will give you the attention you need then work his way that way. it cant be after the first or second date, make them wait a while if they only want one thing they will leave if you dont give it out right away then you will know what they were after. good luck..
2007-05-25 06:46:39 · answer #5 · answered by john c 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are being used! I'm a bloke and i should know. you aren't however worthless or dumb, certainly if you're aware enough to ask the question. find someone who wants you for who you are, not just a quickie to get rid of a bag-full, but a warm, caring, considerate woman. if you wait for the bloke who wants that more than sex then you will get the man who will make you come
2007-05-25 06:42:25 · answer #6 · answered by Kirk H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the guys your having sex with can't be that experienced because if they were they would realize the simple fact that if you make sure your lady is fully satisfied in every way then she will make sure that you get even more sex than you can handle because she is getting off all the time she will want it so much more so i suggest you give your lovers the flick and look for an older man that knows how use oral to bring you to the edge before finishing you off and making you scream for more
2007-05-25 06:47:38 · answer #7 · answered by bjw9865 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just find one who is willing to please you also. Believe it or not, this is easy. You must just watch out that you are not just having sex with one who only wants to say later, "I GOT IT" It does take time for two people to learn how the other is able to get pleased! You must just slow yourself down to how many you decide to try to have a good even relationship with! It will take time but the Wheel does turn!!
2007-05-25 06:49:05 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys like those are just interested in self leasure and dont care whether you're enjoying it or not, and yes, he is using you. From my experience, its the good looking ones that are like this. Dont get me wrong, im not saying go sleep with a guy thats ugly, im saying find someone who does'nt think 2 much of himself, someone who cares about others, sumone sensitive, and take it slow.
2007-05-25 06:41:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most guys cannot control when they climax. His climaxing early probably makes him feel uinadequate and embarrassed too. It's not an issue of him not wanting to please you becaus he probably has no control over when it happens. Premature ejactuation is a very widespread problem and there are ways you can deal with it if you look around.
2007-05-25 06:36:34 · answer #10 · answered by John B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They probably arn't very good at sex and need to read how to please a woman. They are just getting their rocks off and that's all. If guys want to keep having sex they better get better at it, it's so boring if they don't even try. Have they ever heard of "foreplay".
2007-05-25 06:39:33 · answer #11 · answered by chez006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋