My boyfriend and I broke up a few days ago. I am absolutely miserable and it wasn't a happy break-up. We got in an arguement b/c we work together and a guy we work with made an obscene sexual comment towards me the day before. I told him to shut up and my boyfriend found out and chewed him out. The next day the same guy asked me a question about work in front of him and I answered him. My boyfriend freaked out and it lead to a lot of things that shouldn't have been said. We ended up hurting each other really bad and he said he can't forgive me even though he said the same things. He's always had a bit of a jealousy issue, but we love each other. His friend called me three times today and was telling me how sad my boyfriend was and how he was excited that he thought I was waiting for him after work, but I wasn't. I miss him miserably but he wouldn't talk to me yesterday. What should I do and should he be this upset? I am so scared of never being with him again.
2007-05-24 20:07:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you are both immature, and especially him to relay information through his friend like is a 7th grader. Bottom line is if he cared and wanted to work it out, he would have the guts to call you and apoligize.
No one ever gets over, no matter how old you are, of being scared of change or being alone after a break up, but most move on after a period of grieving.
If you want to spend the rest of your life apologizing for things you didn't do wrong, then call him and take him back, but don't complain when he gets jeolous and abusive as you have already accepted the situation by running back to him when he has been.
2007-05-24 20:17:25 · answer #1 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is get together some where and talk - some where neutral, some where safe, not his place, not yours.
He over-reacted, but thought he was protecting you, after what happened the day before. Not that he was right, but it was understandable.
You said you both over-reacted, both said things that you wouldn't have said, but for the heat of the moment. You may not be able to repair the hurt you caused each other, but it might be worth a try.
If it doesn't work out, then at least you'll know you tried, and will have some closure.
2007-05-24 20:39:46 · answer #2 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not saying what he did was right, but gosh, some women will never understand the human urge inside men to protect what they care about- thus his jealousy. Women using the words like jerk because he was jealous solves nothing. He obviously cares about you or he wouldn't react like this. There's really not enough info from you to answer you effectively. I get the feeling there's more to this than what you are telling.
There's nothing worse in the world to a man as the feeling that he is powerless to stop someone or something from making him feel less of a man. In today's society a man can't just use physical force when someone says something obscene to his woman (or a situation like this) so he obviously feels threatened by this guy, and he unrealistically thinks you should not even speak to the man who said it. On your part, besides telling the creep to shut up, what else did you do to prevent this from happening again? How would you feel if a woman said it to him?
2007-05-24 21:07:12 · answer #3 · answered by mike j 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
He needs to grow up. You aren't going to be his parent and do it for him. Letting go is hard. He needs to know it's over and it's because of his jealousy. He might learn something from never being with you again, but he won't learn a thing by you reinforcing his crummy behavior by letting him stick around.
2007-05-24 20:16:42 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know its easy for me to say but don,t be scared. He is upset too and misses you.
Maybe he is not talking because he needs to calm down.
Wait a few days and approach him again. After that the ball is in his court. If he truly wants to mend things then he will.
Good luck.
2007-05-24 20:13:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
ahh young love . . .
same issues, new generation.
I think you should move on because I doubt you'll marry or have a long lasting relationship that will withstand the test of your fast food establishment relationship with the jealous freak of a loser.
2007-05-24 20:10:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
you better off not being with him, a guy who is so jealous is sad, he totally overreacted, find someone who not a jealous freakshow
2007-05-24 20:13:00 · answer #7 · answered by king of spain 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
damn girl its okay, i'll tell you this, as beautiful as you are you;ll find another guy.
2007-05-24 20:12:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋