About a month ago i was in a relationship with a guy who was about 3 years older than me. i did'nt know how my family would react towards his age difference so i did'nt tell anyone but my mom, that was'nt a good choice because 1 day my boyfriend called my house and my big brother answered and started asking him questions , he finally asked him how old he was and i knew when he had told him because he looked straight up at me like he was ready for murder , after it all he gave me the phone and i did'nt want to talk because i knew that i was in a world of trouble so i just let the phone sit there and he eventually hung up so after my brother had this long speach with me about older guys he was mad at me. So i just happened to look on my cellphone and saw 8 missed calls and they were all my boyfriend and he left a message on my phone saying that i was acting very childish and i was acting like i did'nt want to be with him and that it was over? Do you think that i did something wrong ?
2007-05-24 19:54:26 · 9 answers · asked by Mercadese C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No I think you acted just right.
Your brother was way over the top, and I hope its ok to say this but your boyfriend sounds like an idiot.
He should have understood and given you time to calm down.
Your brother loves you and is just trying to protect you, even if he is trying too hard.
2007-05-24 20:00:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you did something wrong. You left him hanging there on the phone. Either you were proud to be with him or not. And you showed him you didn't have his back. How old are you....are we talking 14 and 17....or 18 and 21? There is a difference ya know. My husband and I have been together for 12 years...in the beginning I was 18 and he was 21.
2007-05-25 02:58:59 · answer #2 · answered by aprildin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first of all how old are you guys? if you're like 11 then it makes sense but if you're older then 3 years isn't that big a deal and before anyone asks me what is an 11 year old doing with a cellphone let me tell you I've seen 5 year olds with them.
2007-05-25 02:57:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's more what you didn't do. If you're not mature enough to stand up against your brother or to at least talk to your boyfriend afterward, you aren't mature enough for an older guy. You're lucky to have a protective older brother but one day you'll either defy him or convince him that it's ok to live your own life and you'll make it happen.
2007-05-25 03:00:18 · answer #4 · answered by Kuji 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mercades, you are telling us a lot about yourself in this question. First of all, how do you feel about you? If you feel strongly enough about yourself you wouldn't care what others (including your family) feel about your choices. To the extent you are concerned about how the family looks at your choices, to that extent you are willing to relinquish to them your rights to control yourself. If you truly love and acknowledge yourself, then nobody else matters except you. You will honor yourself in the choices you make. And you will honor your choices. In this case, you didn't honor your choice and instead gave the "power" to your brother. Learn to accept yourself first. Then you can deal with the world.
2007-05-25 03:01:56 · answer #5 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bf being 3 years older than you is certainly acceptable. You should apologise to him and continue with your affair.
2007-05-25 03:03:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u cool / family just looking out 4 u
2007-05-25 02:58:16 · answer #7 · answered by lilskip0 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah if you know your family is retarded don't give your home number out!!!
2007-05-25 02:58:04 · answer #8 · answered by M J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea.
2007-05-25 02:57:03 · answer #9 · answered by nitty b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋