Bad Boyfriend?

Question

Eh. My boyfriend keeps saying things that hurts me. and he probably doesn`t relise it. He talks about other girls around me which makes me feel uncomfortible. And hes been ignoring my phone calls and avoiding me lately. Hes a btch towards my friends. Which I dislike. I`ve tried to confront him a few times but it never works. but I still honestly love him What do I do ?

Eh. My boyfriend keeps saying things that hurts me. and he probably doesn`t relise it. He talks about other girls around me which makes me feel uncomfortible. And hes been ignoring my phone calls and avoiding me lately. Hes a btch towards my friends. Which I dislike. I`ve tried to confront him a few times but it never works. but I still honestly love him. He can be a sweet guy at times. Yet..He can be a big jerk.. What do I do ?

Answer 1

sounds to me hes been cheating on you. guys who dont answer their phone calls and act strange are a definate maybe for cheating. if i was you id find a better man that would treat you as the way you want to be treated.

Answer 2

You need to stop calling him and see if things fall apart. He is avoiding you because he is out with the woman he can't get easily. Men love challenges. Find someone to occupy your time. This guy is a jerk. He talks about other women to let you know that he is playing the field. Are you so naive not to hear him. He treats your friends with the same respect that he treats you with. HE DOES NOT WANT YOU FOR THE RIGHT REASONS. I SURE HOPE YOU ARE NOT INTIMATE WITH HIM....CAUSE I FEEL HE HAS YOU ON RESERVE FOR JUST THAT. Good luck. Commit this to memory: If A Man Really Wants You!

If A Man Really Wants You!
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he does not want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that is not meant to be.
S l o w e r is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve; then heck no, you cannot "be friends".
A friend would never mistreat a friend.
Do not settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Do not stay because you think, "it will get better".
You will be mad at your self, a year later, for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who have a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He did not marry them when he got them pregnant. Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Do NOT EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man. Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he will cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage. Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you. A relationship consists of
two WHOLE individuals. Look for someone complimentary, not supplementary.
Dating is fun, even if he does not turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes. When a man always knows where you are and you are always readily available to him, he takes it for granted.
Do not fully commit to a man who does not give you everything that you need. Keep
him in your radar; but get to know others.

God Bless.

"An Attitude That Demands Excellence Brings About Excellence."

Answer 3

If he talks about other girls in front of you and you think he don't realize it..... think again. He is being a di** Sounds like he is just waiting to see how long you are going to put up with it before you actually pitch a fit... which I would say is long overdue by the way! Don't sit there and be a door mat. Which is what you are doing . I am not trying to be mean at all. He is being a JERK!

Answer 4

Sounds like he needs a wake up call.Next time he says something hurtful tell him to leave and to call you when he's sorry.If he doesnt know why or what he's sorry for he is clueless.His avoiding you might be a sign he's found someone new.Get someone to follow him around if you can.Its better to find out now instead of falling even deeper in love with this guy.As for your friends,tell them not to take his crap.It sounds like you want him because he is a total jerk.

Answer 5

You've tried to "confront him" a few times but it doesn't work? Try this: CALMLY AND VERY FIRMLY tell him that you have some issues that you need to address with him and that you need him to take you seriously and listen. Tell him in no uncertain terms that you would like to remain his girlfriend and appreciate and respect him but that you'd like the same respect shown to you or you will have to leave the relatonship (and mean it). Tell him that you are not asking for anything that you aren't willing to give in return.
If he refuses to concede then you are disrespecting yourself in remaining with him and it will be you who must accept the consequences without complaint.

Answer 6

Seems to me that you don't know the signs of love/hate/abuse..kind of lske your signals are crossed. You say you honestly love him? Yet you did not mention anything lovable at all. Makes me think of the type of women that show up in an emergency room all beat up and make excuses for what has happened ..leave, get together, leave, get together because they just love their man.
One of these type of women told me once..I thought he loved me..what in the hell made you think that.
Learn to read the signs or stay in that relationship..you must honestly love to be treated that way.

Answer 7

What is is about him that you think you love? He's insensitive to you and others, he can't bother to answer the phone, he avoids you... AND he will not allow you to confront problems!?! If his GOOD points override these very negative points (because you love him anyway) than what is your question? You have 2 choices - put up and shut up, or kick him to the curb! He will not magically change!

Answer 8

do not 'confront' him, instead try to have an open and honest discussion. tell him how you feel, let him know the things that he does that hurts you. but that doesn't mean he will change for you, sometimes you just have to accept a person, including his good and bad points. if he really loves you he will make an effort to change, for the better. if not then he is not worth your love.

Answer 9

If all this is happening to you then it's not love. Don't settle for a guy like that. Chances are he's going to hurt you sooner or later down the road.

Answer 10

Sounds like he doesnt give a damn about anyone but himself. Especially not you or your feelings. I think you should discuss it with him and if he doesn't see a problem you need to tell him where to go and how to get there. You dont need to be treated this way.