i'm 14 yrs old, n i've got lots of family problems, please help me out i really need your help?

Question

my mom thinks my dad give more importance to my step sis than my mom n me n my bro,.......they always keep on arguing n this effects my mind in a damn bad way, as a result of this i'm not able toconcentrate on my studies n my percentage this year has become very less....for that they keep on discouraging me and i just feel like dying rite now, please tell me if there is an easy way out....and if i can make situations better.....please please please help me

Answer 1

1.) The First thing you should concentrate on your studies.
2.) This matter is between ur mum and dad and u can't do anything.
3.) Let them solve by themselves or elders in your family
4.) If not let them contact to any counselor.
5.) Do one thing just pray & pray to solve this problem and be positive Inshahallah once again your family will be happy ever. God Bless U.

thx
sam

Answer 2

All the symptoms you described can be attributed to stress. Stress has a MAJOR impact on your health. When you are stressed out, the brain temporarily shuts down all the other systems to focus on the moment. This is called the "fight or flight" response. It is completely normal, but in today's culture people are so bombarded with stress it's ridiculous! As a result, problems such as irregularity- digestive and menstrual- arise. Stress can also be a factor in your thyroid gland issues. The best thing you can do for your body is de-stress. That is so so sooo important! I suggest trying some yoga or meditation, or setting aside a time during the day or week to pamper yourself. Don't fret too much, but see a doctor if it worsens. Best wishes!

Answer 3

That's a serious promlem.What u can do is start meditating.that will definitely give u some peace of mind.if not then do a course of 3 days of art and living by shri shri shri ravi shankar.even if not this then consult a psycologist for urself and ur mother coz the doc only can tell u people how to cope up practically with the problem u are having.and ya a piece of advice for u is this is ur father and mother problem they can only solve this.if they don't talk abt this then the better way is to accept the problem and just carry on with the life.look if ur mother stops giving attention to this problem for ur sake then half of the battle is won.

Answer 4

love them whole heartedly as your own mother and sister.. help them when they are n trouble. one day they will surely understand you.. everything will be alright. what to do? It is a very difficult to love a person who always hurts you.. but only this can bring about good results.. anyway they have become your own family members. and you have to take a right decision regarding this. one more thing; please don't ever think of dying. God has given us this life on earth. and it is in our hands to make a better use of it. We have only one life and let us make a better use of it.
Don't ever think of loosing hope in studies. It is the biggest asset for anyone in their life. Every thing which you have now may perish but only your studies will help you out in establishing a better future.If you loose hope in your studies then no one will ever mind you in future. Let me tell you one thing; each time you have a quarrel or some mis-understanding take a strong decision in your heart that you should study well. once you study well and come up in life things will automatically change in your favour. ALL THE BEST.. DON'T WORRY FOR THIS TEMPORARY PROBLEMS.

Answer 5

There is no easy way out. I'm sad to say it, but things only get harder after the age of 5. Remember when you were 4? Times were great, you could just think about candy all day and smile. That's it. But your not 4 anymore sweetheart. You are aware of the people around you, you are aware of your movements in this world, and mostly you are aware of how it all effects you. So what do you need to do? Take it all in stride. It may only get harder, but you get better at it. There's an old jewish proverb: "God, grant me not a lighter load, but stronger shoulders." Your shoulders will only get stronger, so cheer up and learn from all this.

Good luck!!

Answer 6

hey there.. a 14 yr old sweetie in trouble...

belive in yourself.. start being self reliant.. concentrate on your studies and make yourself a career.. dont get emotionally drowned into all this..

when during such stages of life, be it at a younger age, you need to realise that you are a sole entity and have to develop yourself as an individual...

life is long and one cant chicken out .. keep strong.. once you are a capable person you can face your father and mother and tell them you wont allow them to affect your life in such a manner..

no matter what you do.. never think of dying.. life has a lot lot good things to offer , such things in life should not stop you from looking forward to a happy and peaceful life ahead...

life is just to precious to throw it down the drain.. keep courage and fight your way out..

I know its toooooo easy to say this , only someone who goes through this knows the pain.. but dear... dont give up.. believe in yourself and the supreme being.. keep yourself busy with work and friends and try not to let such thigns affect you mentally...

take care , god bless...

Answer 7

It must be very upsetting to have your family bickering and fighting around you. Just remember it is not because of you. I am sure their relationship is not good. It is not your fault. Maybe help with chores if they are overtired. I know being a parent I am much more moody when tired. Try to stay neutral and do not take sides. Try going to the library for studying, or maybe a study group with friends. Do not give up. Lots of cyberspace hugs! Nancy

Answer 8

When were kids theres nothing we can do really maybe you could talk to mom and dad and tell them how much that this is bothering you and ruining your whole family. Then if they dont listen you just have to ride it out growing up can be rough. I went through alot in my childhood. I had a drugged up drug dealing father was in and out of jail, who beat on us til i was old enough to stop it but in time everything gets better when your out on ur own...Its seems like a long time but it will come quick. I will say a prayer for you and I hope this helps some.! God Bless You!

Answer 9

for a problem dying is not the answer. shall i tell u one thing problems are not problems when we are brave to face it. I can understand u because i am also in that situation once not now. If i thought to die! I would be died earlier. so dear! dont think of dying. "god gives us life to live not to die".If they discourage u also u thing that are encouraging. failures are the stepping stones for success{its really true....}.so don't spoil ur studies listerning to them.I have spoiled my life in studies like that only now I suffered, also suffering to come up
so....Please dear dont loose u r studies.Others will say or do whatever it may be! But studies only give us a best security in life.so Please dear consentrate on u r studies, if u had a heavy heart, if u want to share anything share with god! if not contact me [e-mail] .I think so i can help u.....

Answer 10

No matter how terrible your problems are, it's not worth dying. If you really feel that way, call Hopeline at 1-800-SUICIDE.

I'm sorry, but there's never an "easy way out." Things will get better, but they take time. Try to get out of the house, away from the arguing. Do your best to focus on your studies...an education is your best hope for a good future of your own away from the fighting.

Good luck.