I have a bf who is good but 4 him studies don't really matter and he always asks me 2 spend d entire day with him which is not possible 4 me as i'm afraid if my parents come 2 know abt me since i was already caught before! And b'coz of this my parents were quite hurt and still now they do remember that incident and now i din't wanna let them hurt! But this guy isn't ready 2 listen 2 me and says that since i don't go 2 meet him acc 2 him he thinks that i don't love him! But he doesn't understand my prblm wat shall i do?
2007-05-24 18:45:12 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ARRGGGHH!!! Write in English! what on earth is 4rm?
2007-05-24 18:49:49 · answer #1 · answered by matthaumschild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might not want you to get ahead. He is being pretty selfish about this. If you continue on and graduate, get a good job, make lots of money, where will he be?
Will he be doing the same thing? Will you have the same goals at that time? Education is very important, you shouldn't give it up for anyone. This is your life, not his. If he can't understand that, then he doesn't have your best interests in mind.
My sister-in-law has a bf like that. When they were young, he wasn't into school, but she stuck it out. When she graduated and got a good job she was really happy. After several years, she realized she had three kids, there two plus him. She became the sole supporter of the family and grew very bitter. Needless to say, she's tried getting rid of him several times, however, now that kids are involved that won't ever happen.
Good luck
2007-05-25 01:55:19 · answer #2 · answered by Brian A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
School should always be your major priority. Without an education it'll be really difficult for you to survive on your own. He may not care about his studies, but you should.
Ask him why he wants you to fail in school by forcing you to choose between him and you. Tell him just because school isn't important to him doesn't mean it's not important to you. If he questions your "love" for him because you want to study is pretty ridiculous.
Ditching class is a good way for you to lose the trust of your parents, which if you live in THEIR home and THEY pay for your stuff isn't a very wise thing to do.
Just tell him straight forward.. I don't want to hurt my parents and I NEED to study.. If he doesn't understand that you two are gonna have a whole bunch more problems in the future.
2007-05-25 02:00:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did not mentioned what is your age?
If you are in school, let your bf know that why you are studying - Without doing work a person can not live.
Tell him, he is thinking like selfish - Only about him & romance - If all ppl start Entertainment SELF then world systems will not work anymore.
2007-05-25 01:52:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up? Tell him to straighten his act out or you will leave him. Studies is very important are you talking college or highschool either way school is important no doubt about it. Yes it is nice to know that someone cares and whats to spend time with you but if your not getting what you need to get done and he is holding you back well tell him.
2007-05-25 01:52:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If studies don't matter to him then he is a loser. Who wants someone in their life that will never amount to anything. Tell him to get his priorities in order and start paying attention before his future is destroyed. You keep focused. You will do well in life. If this jerk does not accept what you need to do, he doesn't love you, and you need to move on.
2007-05-25 01:51:22 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all tell him to complete the studies then u both discuss and what to do in life. other topics will disturb the studies. pl explain him the situation about your parents also. after studies you both can settle in life.
2007-05-25 07:30:08 · answer #7 · answered by ramarao 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST TRY TO SELECT A PARTNER WHO TRIES TO UNDERSTAND U R PROBLEM .IF HE IS A GOOD GUY HE SHOULD HAVE PROPOSED U TO U R PARENTS .BUT NOW HE WANTS U TO BE WITH HIM.BE CAREFULL.OBEY U R PARENTS THEY DO NOTHING WRONG FOR U.
2007-05-25 02:13:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u r in a relationship, it is all about understanding, if u feel things r not goin fine -TRY TO FIX THEM, if not they will remain so, and endingly u will suffer.
2007-05-25 01:56:41 · answer #9 · answered by k b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesn't love you babe!!!!!!!!!!!! if he can't understand Ur problem then he can't understand anything about u.............
and who have no interest in studies then he is a big looser......
if he can't focus on 1 thing(studies)then he can't focus on anything whether it's love or anything................he's not at all mature ........if he is nice person then he would understand your problem,respect ur parents......
and pls love that kinda person whom u can take in front of ur parents..................
hope u understand................
bye..........tc
2007-05-29 00:29:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋