Anyone Else Disgusted With What Some Parents Let Their Children Do..?

Question

Parents who supply beer to their kids and let them drink in their house because "it's safer; they'll do it anyway." Or the parents who know darn well what their rebel children are doing on Saturday nights. Parents who buy their kids iPods and computers because they "love" them even though they were picked up by the cops the night before their birthday. Discipline, people! I'm not critisizing every parent with bad children, but the people who don't enforce rules and ethics are poisonous. Good parents, bad parents, speak up. I'm not lecturing or trying to be pompous, but it just makes me sick how some parents raise their children.

Quas, I am only trying to create discussion so some people realize that parents are the most infulential people in a child's life. If you don't care that your kid is breaking the law, that's insane. If you don' care that your child is going out getting drunk and doing drugs, that's insane. I'm not prying into people's lives..no one has to give a life story if they don't want to. No, I can't change the people around me, but I can try and promote good ethics. I'm not asking to much right?

Hey, I'm not going to judge a family strictly on the way their children ask. I'll let moms and dads do what they want when it comes to raising their kids. This is merely a discussion. I'm not looking to change the world here. I'll tell you one thing though..I hope the people against what I believe actually have children who reflect their opinions because if not, you are hypocrites. Better not ever scold your child, you don't want to be a hypocrite now do you?

sorry, that should have read- "how their children ACT."

Answer 1

I couldnt agree with you more and it is causing the moral decay in our society. I am a 29yr old veteran and when i came back to civilian life i was like whoa, what the heck is going on. I couldnt believe how kids acted.

To tell your kids its ok to drink at home since i know your going to do it anyway and its safer at home is just plane out irresponsible. What you need to do is keep control of your kids, and stop trying to be friends with your children. If my mother ever suspected that i drank she would have put a hurtin on me like no other, which is why i didnt drink as a teenager. It was the fear and eventual respect of my mother that stopped me from drinking and doing drugs.

Parents are not involved in their childrens lives anymore, and how can they, most parents are only a few years older than their children, its sickening. Im not trying to go off on a rant here, but if you cannot see the moral decay in our society and you cannot see that its directly related to moms and dads not caring what little johnny and susy are doing, then your just plane old blind!

Tell me, why does a mother who's daughter was posting pictures half naked on a website want to sue the website? why not take the responsiblity for not supervising their child, and more importantly, what in Gods name does little susy who is only 14 or younger need a freaking webcam for in the 1st place!

I could go on forever

Answer 2

I agree with you whole-heartedly. As a teacher, I wonder about this all the time. I see an entire spectrum of the different types of parenting styles, from those who could care less to those who are over-protective and over-bearing. I truly believe that there is a middle ground, but somewhere along the way it got lost in translation.

Society has so many things wrong with it, including allowing the government to have a say in how some people discipline their children. I'm not in agreement with physical abuse, but I think that as parents, people should be a little more demanding on respect and setting boundaries. We have too many young people having babies, and then these same people are trying to be their children's "friend" instead of the parent. Parents are too scared to hurt the child's feelings when telling them "NO" that they over-indulge with gifts. These same children learn through this mistake that it is OK to be disrespectful and that the world owes them something.

I was raised in an environment where the neighborhood believed that it took a village to raise a child. Even the elders in my neighborhood had the authority to correct me without me sassy back, because I knew there would be repercusions and consequences when my parents found out.

Another problem I find oh too often is the fact that these same parents expect everyone else to rear their children, such as the school or the church house. It is true that these organizations can help with character development, but there should be a paradigm shift in the minds of parents to go back to the days where parents were the most important teachers in a child's life.

If you look at our society now, you can see that there is a lack of love, respect, and plain intergrity when it comes to many, (not all), young people today. It scares me to think that these same young people will one day have to run the world when I get older. Our government is continually complaining about family values and telling us what to do, instead we should go back to the old ways of bringing our families together and instill in our children that a good name is better than gold. Character means a lot, and when you don't have character you could be the most beautiful person on this planet, however, you have become ugly in the sight of men.

Answer 3

I agree with you 100%. My daughters only 2 so I dont have to worry about any of that yet but when she gets older I'm going to make sure I stay an active part of her life to give her the guidance she needs. I'm not going to try to be her friend though. Kids need parents, not older people trying to be their friends. My husband and I have already talked about the things she'll be able to have and not have. For example, no cell phones, iPods, blackberrys, etc. until shes old enough to understand sensible use of those things and to use them wisely. If she broke the law, theres no way shed be getting any presents on her birthday, much less a computer or something. I have to admit my daughter is a little spoiled being that shes our only child right now, and is also the only granddaughter and niece. But just because she is a little spoiled doesnt mean we let her get away with things. If shes doing something she knows she isnt supposed to do, shes punished (usually a timeout which is appropriate for her age). I'll love my daughter no matter what she does but I'm not going to condone bad behavior by letting her drink or smoke in my house or by going out and buying her extravagant things when she wouldnt be old enough to use them responsibly. Kids need rules, and parents need to enforce those rules. If they dont, we're going to wind up with a world filled with selfish, irresponsible brats who dont understand that mom and dad cant always save them from the consequences of their actions.

Answer 4

I wouldn't say "poisonous" It's "hard" being a parent. As a parent, We do enforce rules, morals and all that good stuff that we rolled are eyes at when we were teenagers. And said; I'll never do that to my kids. I thought about this many times and realize, A lot of parents haven't really gave a lot of thought to what they had said, many years ago. And still believe and hold true to what they had said so long ago. Sad, but true.

Answer 5

Personally, I could care less what other parents do, because it is not as though it impacts me in any way, and each person has the right to raise their children in the way they see fit - so it is not anyone else's business to pry into their personal lives unless it has to do with breaking the law.

To say that you are not lecturing is an understatement - By the way you phrased this question, you seem more like someone who tries to push your way into other people's lives and domineer them all for the reasons of putting your own opinions and way of life onto other people.

You could not like how some people raise their children, but shy of them breaking any laws in their community, there is nothing you can do, so either deal with it or stop preaching your belief system.

Answer 6

YES YES!!every time my step daughter,14, gets in trouble her grandma takes her shopping and for manicures! she is very spoiled and if she doesn't get what she wants LOOK OUT! She has called child welfare services and lied about her mom beating her among other things all because she tried to make her do chores (something this spoiled brat has never had to do) one time when she was at our house for my husband's visitation he would not let her boyfriend come over and hang out with her (she was grounded) She had him come over any way and her dad told him to leave, and she got a lecture about rules. Guess what? She had her grandma call child services and told them we let her and her friend get drunk in our house and that my hubby made sexual advances toward his daughter's friend! I told my hubby she did it to her mom (she admitted to her dad what she did) she will do it to you! Now she is no longer alowed in our home! We blame the way she was brought up but she knows the difference between right and wrong and should be accountable for her own actions.

Answer 7

I agree with you.But i grew up in a loving home.The best parents ever.My parents didn't drink,didn't do drugs.They were home every night with us.All they did is teach us right from wrong.They were honest,hard working and descent people.Here i am ,picked up everything from my parents.I don't even have a traffic ticket.If it's wrong,against the rules,i don't do it.I live and raise my two children by the book.Then there is my older brother...........Lire,chiter,stiller the worst person ever.He is every bodies worst nightmare.I just don't understand.These things happen.Sometimes the parent can do so much.

Answer 8

yes i agree parents need to stop spoiling there children and discipline them like we use to a good hard smack with a belt , now im not saying beat your children but enough so they learn what the real would would do to them if they were acting up. while were on the subject im tired of ppl calling the police on ppl who discipline there children i mean if there were real concern ya call them but over spankings. arg

Answer 9

I'm sorry, but calling the way others raise their children poisonous is about as pompous as you can get. You don't have any long-term answers. You just think your way is better. You are right about parents being a huge influence in children's lives. Perhaps you should just focus your energy on raising your children and let everyone else do the same.

Answer 10

Amen Realist-I am sick and tired too! Too many irresponsible, selfish, lazy idiots birthing children-not "raising" children or even "bringing up" children-just mass producing them-like Toyotas!