My sister (Beth Alphonse Babin) passed away May 20, 2007 and i need to know how to deal please help me?

Question

my sister Beth Babin was on her way back from my cousin Michelle's engagement party and her jeep hit the guard rail on i14 and it flipped causing her seatbelt to break and she was thrown from her jeep wrangler she was concious when her husband Sameul Babin found her, he was riding in front and she passed on the way to the hospital. despite the news's information this is the real story i mould never ly about my sister. please help me deal with this if you can.

Answer 1

Sweetie, there is now way anyone else can tell you how to deal with the death of a loved one. I am sorry. The only thing I can tell you is that you have to give it time. I lost both of my parents and my brother when I was 15. (The three of them died within 8 months of each other in 1980.) Even today when someone asks me how in the world I made it through, I can not give an answer. All I can say is, "You just do." There is an old saying,"Time heals all wounds." Well, these are wounds that never heal, but time does help ease the pain.

My heart goes out to you and your family. Please allow yourself to grieve. That is an important part of the healing process.

God Bless you and your family.

Answer 2

Please accept my deepest sympathies on your loss. It is very hard to deal with this kind of pain. I promise it will get better, and I promise that you can hang on until it does. It may seem like you can't go on without her, but life does go on, one day at a time. Mostly what you do is this:
1) Take care of your body. Eat extra healthy, get LOTS of rest, exercise a little every day. You may not feel like doing these things but it will help your emotional pain if you do.
2) Focus on now. Pain comes from resisting what is. If you find the pain overwhelming you, focus on reality. Start with simple physical reality, concentrating on your breath, and what you see and hear around you, what you are feeling in your body. Keep breathing deeply and slowly, and the pain will soon ease. Moving the body helps too, don't sit frozen in your pain..
3) Break the cycle of pain. Thinking about your loss triggers feeling the pain, which triggers more sad thoughts, which triggers more painful feelings, and on and on. Make the mental effort to turn your thoughts in a different direction. If you can, think about things that you can still be thankful for, such as the beauty around you, your pets or children, good memories, good health, etc, but really turning your thoughts onto any other topic will do.
4) Have patience. Fill the time taking care of yourself and those you love, and in time you will heal.
Best wishes to you and your family.

Answer 3

It's going to take some time for you to deal with all of this and heal. You probably are experiencing all kinds of emotions now. Maybe your still in disbelief, hurt or angry or feelings some of these all at the same time. This is totally normal. Right now, it is important to try and connect with someone, whether it be another family member or a friends. Talking about this is a good thing, even it it's just on-line. Your sister's husband is probably feeling just as shocked, confused and hurt as you are as he lost his soul-mate. Please give yourself time to heal. It's not going to happen all in one day or one month. But over time, it's going to get better and the pain will be less and less. In the meantime, start writing in a journal about your daily thoughts and feelings. It will help. If there are things that you really wanted to say to your sister and didn't have a chance to, write them down in a journal. Know that your sister will always be with you in your heart. She will be there to help you out with the rest of your life. Appreciate that.

Answer 4

Sorry about your lost. Try writing in a journal what your are feeling be as honest as you can with yourself. Start working on a photo journal of you and her, do some community work to get out among other people at least once a week look for a local grief support group and go to the meetings. With time the pain will ease but there will always be moments of sadness. If you are Christian prayer is always good and it do work. Even if you are not Christian and you have friends that are ask them to pray for you. If you are of other religious belief seek help there.

Answer 5

1st of all... I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your sister. Unfortunately, we do lose our loved ones but never our love for them. There is no easy answer to your question because everyone deals with death differently. May 30th of this year will make a year that my father has been gone and I am still dealing with that. I have found some comfort in praying about it... I just ask for the strength to deal with it and leave it in the hands of the Lord. Sometimes, it is best to just let go and let God guide you in your healing process... you will not be able to deal with it on your own. Prayer changes things... it can bring peace of mind in the mist of an intolerable storm... believe me I know. My heart goes out to you and your family.

Answer 6

First, I'd like to say how deeply sorry I am for your loss. Our sisters are our first best friends, and I don't want to even imagine what it must be like. Secondly, it sounds so trite to tell you that time is the only thing that helps. The pain will never go away, but it will lessen. Just keep her in your thoughts, look at old pictures and not so old pictures, remember her and celebrate her life, honor her by acknowledging her impact on your life. Don't forget her husband in your grief, sometimes it's easy to do with our own sadness we have to deal with, but he is suffering too. Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 7

I am sorry to hear of your sister's passing. I don't think there is any easy way to deal with this. Start by keeping her memory in your mind and heart. Talk about the times you had together.
I should be better at this cause of my family that have died. My Mother died from a bloodclott, my next to youngest brother was murdered, and my father gave up the will to live after my brothers death. The pain is still there, but, it gets easier to deal with in time. Don't hold the pain in.

Answer 8

Wow...that is tragic. I am so sorry that you are going through this but listen, no one can tell you how to grieve. You need to go through your own process of grief....Everyone mourns differently. Don't let anyone tell you that it's time to get one with your life because only YOU can know when that time is right. TIME....in time the pain will fade into wonderful memories. I know that right now you feel like you are NEVER going to be happy again, but you will. Would your sister want you to grieve forever?? No....she would want you to go on and live a happy, fulfilling life. One day you will see your sister again.....I can promise you that. And I know that no word can make you feel better but your sister is happy. Some people are just too good for this world and have to go to the next before we think they should. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Answer 9

I am so sorry about your loss.

I lost my father when I was 14. I am not going to lie to you it stinks. You wake up each morning with the feeling of a pit in your stomach. One thing I can tell you it will get better. It has been 20 years since my dad died. Each day is better than the next.

There are days when I get mad at him for leaving me and my family when we were all so young. I got really mad at him when I had to walk down the aisle by myself.

Then there are days I remember fond memories of him.

Please keep in my right now you just have to remember that your sister loved you. Remember all of the good memories of her. If it helps right them down as you think of them that way you can look back. Also, right down your feelings of memories when she made you angry. It helps. You are probably thinking she never made you mad but you might remember once later down the road.


Just think she is watching over you and talk to her. I sometimes talk to my dad other times I yell at him.

Here is one more thing, when I am sad or depress I ask to dream about my dad. I did not do it very often. When ever I ask to do this I dream about him that night. I have done it abt 5 times since I lost him but through hard times it helps. I do not ask to do it very often I do not want to take advantage of the gift I was fortunate enough to get.

I hope this helps, I am so sorry for your loss. Also be there for her husband that will help too.

Answer 10

I am very sorry to hear about your sister. It takes time to heal. Tell yourself that it is ok to cry! There will be moments that something will happen that reminds you of your sister. You will have times that you say I can't handle this anymore! Have someone to talk to and to use a shoulder to cry on! That first year is the hardest! Just lean on people and cry! Don't listen to people if they say she is in a better place and you don't need to cry! Yes she is in a better place but you miss her alot! Crying helps you to deal with these feelings! I know it feels like there is a hole in your stomach!! I will keep you and your family in my prayers!!