2007-05-24 16:12:24 · 31 answers · asked by amna b 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Spanking on the bottom yes, hitting NO
2007-05-24 20:48:12 · answer #1 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
There is a fine legal line between spanking and abuse. On occasion I have had to discipline my daughter by smacking her on the bottom or her hand. I don't believe in using belts or switches or paddles...
A lot of people say that violence breeds violence, but I will have you know that I grew up with an abusive alcoholic father, and it has actually made me much more conscious of the decisions I make when discipling my daughter. I would never hit her in anger...and trust me, there have been times when she has really pushed my buttons. At these times I will just hand her to my husband (who has a much better temperament than I do) and take a moment to cool off.
To answer the question though, I do believe that parents should have the right to corporal punishment. I believe that parents being afraid to discipline their children is why you see these stories in the news everyday about children going on killing sprees, killing parents, fellow students...ending up in jail . You didn't see these kinds of problems 20 years ago when physical discipline took place not only at home, but also at school.
2007-05-25 18:20:42 · answer #2 · answered by marie's mama 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your definition of hitting. There is nothing wrong with spanking your children when they need it, but it should never be done in anger and it should not be done in excess. Some children can be reasoned with and disciplined with words, but with some children a good spanking works best.
2007-05-24 23:19:08 · answer #3 · answered by p_doell 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You not only have a right to discipline your children, but it is also your responsibility as a parent to do so.
2007-05-25 01:05:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
ok, let me just start out by saying that "ABUSE" is wrong! But there is nothing wrong with a "SPANKING". Its sounds so good to say that you should be able to talk to you child and tell your child that they are doing wrong and that they will listen and behave, but be for real...it doesnt always work! You've all seen it...the child on the bus that tells his mother to shut up and hits her, the child that throws a tantrum in the supermarket because he couldnt get what he wants...and in both cases the mother is sitting there trying to talk to the child and reason with them. Give me a break...there is absolutely nothing wrong with a pop on the bottom. Its gets the child to thinking "hey, ill never do that again" and they dont! And have you guys not been looking at the news....children that dont get spankings usually dont know about real consequences and think that all that will happen to them is a strong talking to, and then we have cases like Columbine and VaTech! I got spanking and frankly i turned out just fine. I hated getting spanked so i didnt act up, i stayed in school and did everything possible to avoid getting spanked, which is why i turned out so great. I learned about consequences!
2007-05-25 00:43:34 · answer #5 · answered by ladyhavic 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I think that spanking a child is acceptable, obviously not "hitting" them. And again as already said not out of anger. Back in the day when parents actually did discipline their kids we didn't have half the crimes that are occurring today... I got spanked when needed as a child and it didn't damage me in anyway
2007-05-25 00:13:40 · answer #6 · answered by K.T. 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
The punishment needs to fit the crime...you don't smack your kid for taking cookies from the cabinet, you move the cookies. But on the same hand sometimes a child needs a spanking, if they are doing behavior that is life threatening then I see nothing wrong with a good ole fashioned spanking...NEVER WITH A BELT...better for them to respect the hand then fear the person
2007-05-25 00:46:12 · answer #7 · answered by Lance W 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hitting, no. Spanking, yes. Never done in anger or out of a sense of revenge.
2007-05-28 15:14:57 · answer #8 · answered by Dysthymia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
This is copy/pasted from the site at the bottom of this post. Click it to read more. It's well-thought-out and straight-forward. It also has several other disciplinary ideas, calling them "tools in our tool box." Rod-discipline is only one of a parent's tools.
"Why should we spank? The Bible says: Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far from him. Proverbs 22:15.
What does the rod of correction do for the child? The rod of correction imparts wisdom... Proverbs 29:15.
Can't I avoid spanking? He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him. Proverbs 13:24.
Won't spanking seriously harm my child? Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you punish him with the rod, he will not die. Proverbs 23:13. (Note: in each verse, the word rod in Hebrew means "stick or branch from a tree.")
Many blessings,
MomWtrmn
2007-05-25 01:33:36 · answer #9 · answered by MomWtrmn 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I personally do not feel its OK to hit children or any one for that matter.. But some parents do and they should not feel like if they chose to smack there child on their butt that they stand a chance of going to jail. as long as your not beating your child whatever disipline you chose I cant speak for what works for others.
2007-05-25 08:44:01 · answer #10 · answered by lisamarie7901 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋