i was with this guy for 2 years and we had our ups and downs and decided we were better off apart... he ****** my best friend and some other girl and then came back to me and says he missed me and he want to talk... when anytime he calls me for anything we alwayz end up sleeping together again because were both really happy being together and around eachother & when we hang out he acts like were together and everything but he dosnt want me back and he has no regaurds for my feelings at all... i wanna stop caring about him and forget about it and move on b/c everytime i try to talk to him about the situation we get into a fight... but then its over with in about a week...ive already gotten to the point where i dont call him at all but he'll call me for a week stright and we'll hang out for a week then... for 3 or 4 days he just hasnt had the time... i wanna make it work but my heart hurts... do i give up... keep trying... how do i let go; or win him back
2007-05-24 15:18:35 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You must let go. He sees you as a safety net and takes you for granted because you always give him what he wants (sex and company) even if he hurts you. This guy does not truly care about you and although you may have fun with him, he is merely using you. His cheating and neglect PROVES to you that he is very unreliable and chances are he will NOT change into a good boyfriend. If you are too soft hearted to get away from his calls and manipulations, change your phone number or block his number. Block and delete his screennames, e-mails, and anything else that may put you in contact with him. Start living for yourself and start looking for other guys. For now you should concentrate on making yourself happy by doing hobbies, exercising, hanging out with friends, etc. Oh and don't hang out with people who may remind you strongly of him such as that "bestfriend" of yours who he cheated with.
2007-05-24 15:24:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me this guy is only after 1 thing if he has no regards to your feelings- If he cared you would feel it and it seems like it's just one sided you feel he doesn't and that's not fair to you. You can't make a one sided relationship work and you are only hurting yourself more by hanging on to false hope. Now if he cared i would tell you to keep trying guys are hard to read, but since he don't then you need to let him go- i would just tell him that he don't feel for you the way you feel for him and that it's time that you move on and find someone that can and will share the ame feelings for you as you do them. I mean I don't know whole story, but going just by your question. Life is to short to continue to let yourself be unhappy. Go out there and find someone that wants to be with you in other ways too not just the sack.
2007-05-24 15:31:56 · answer #2 · answered by cabbagepatchgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but he is only after that one thing. If you keep on giving in to you will always be fighting with him.
Come on he slept with your b/f, if that isn't a sign that what will be.
Stop calling stop hanging out. Or you will end up being hurt.
2007-05-24 15:22:33 · answer #3 · answered by LA LA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to win him back! What are you thinking! Any guy who cheats on you once will cheat on you again! Move on! Make yourself busy with other things...take up a hobby or go on vacation. Do not have any contact with him and the hurt will go away. Good luck!
2007-05-24 15:22:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I know that "letting go" is not the easiest thing to do with the guy you really love/like.But If you feel like your are being you used by this guy just to fulfill his heat.Then maybe you should ask yourself how long will i make myself a "**** buddy"for him? How long will I let this happen to myself?Do I still respect myself? Because if we let this happen to us you will find yourself again in that same situation...You and you only can escape and solve this by fighting yourself and i know it's hard coz it's easy to just let it happen again..If you love yourself and care for yourself you woud'nt let this guy use you.
2007-05-24 15:28:29 · answer #5 · answered by siverdust 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm a guy. and that i comprehend it extremely is not wholesome yet enable me inform you that many adult men obtainable have a time like that, I had 2 yrs that i did no longer choose to do a ingredient yet to play vid video games. It is going away for sure. Sorry this impact your dating, i could advise you to talk with him and attain an contract, you may provide him 2 finished days to play freely all he choose day and evening, yet in addition ask him to grant you 4 days a week too, this must be over with the help of itself with the time, relax and wait and spot, yet once you notice that issues start to flow uncontrolled nicely, talk returned with him or re-evaluate the dating, yet wait and spot and be clever before and make him spend something of the week with you. If he does not, nicely then you could could desire to come across somebody extra functional for you, sorry. on the different hand, extra vid video games=much less intercourse= decrease inhabitants= sounds like a stable thought... *thinks* terrific needs Updt1: oh and in basic terms an documents for the people who informed you to grant him a 30 minutes an afternoon... lol they have for sure on no account performed WoW, 30 minutes is the time it takes you jut to login! it is why I reported you to grant him 2 finished days till his habit vanish, you have him something of the week, plus, no remember if it is Wow, the sport is in decadence already besides, it may probable die quickly, extra desirable than 0.5 the sport enthusiasts left interior the final months.
2016-10-06 00:23:15 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're insecure. He's not the only man on the planet you know... Prove to him that you are a confident woman, and not just a piece of a** and leave him alone.
2007-05-24 15:22:29 · answer #7 · answered by ♥michele♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he does not care cause he is an asshole...but why waste ur time with him?.. just move on and forget him, find a better someone who would treate u a better and make u happy..
2007-05-24 15:22:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO MAKE IT WORK WITH HIM. IT IS OBVIOUS THAT THIS IS A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP.
GOOD PEOPLE GET TOGETHER AND IT DOESN'T WORK OUT.
YOU AND HE BOTH NEED TO MOVE ON AND FIND SOMEONE YOU ARE MORE COMPATOBLE WITH.
ONE MORE THING-WHY WOUDL YOU WANT TO BE WITH SOMEONE WHO CHEATED ON YOU.
YOU DESERVE BETTER THAN HIM.
2007-05-24 15:23:46 · answer #9 · answered by soarinwithclouds 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He only wants in your pants. It ain't gonna work any time soon.......like fifty years maybe.
2007-05-24 15:24:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋