Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 2 years now. Were both seniors in high school, and spend almost everyday together. Our relationship is fine, but I've always been a bit insecure [but that's just me, i guess, even before I met him]. Today he made a comment about some girl's legs. I mean, it wasn't like a good comment, but it was just like "Her legs are really thin now" kind of comment. I took it the wrong way, and we had this huge fight. He gets angry over the fact that he was trying to say "hey, all these girls are like starving themselves or something?" and that I was being so freaking insecure.
Do you think I took the wrong way? Or too far?
[were okay now] but I seriously felt like all he does
all day is check out other girls around school.
:[ any help?
2007-05-24 14:18:00 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think you overreacted. but if you are feeling this way there is a problem in your relationship that you can't trust him. don't be a jealous controlling gf, green is an ugly colour.
2007-05-24 14:22:03 · answer #1 · answered by stephanie l 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's normal to feel insecure sometimes. The key to any relationship, is being open and honest. It's okay to tell him when something bothers you, but remember to ask yourself why you are upset first. Has he ever done anything to make you not trust him? If the answer is no then maybe you should look inside yourself and figure out why you are feeling that way? Did a past boyfriend cheat on you? Was one of your parents unfaithful to the other? Things like that can make us feel insecure, even when it is irrational. You need to be careful and not accuse him of things all the time because you might end up pushing him away. I think my best advice is to learn how to pick your battles. Sometimes we have to just realize that it's all in our head. If and when a situation arises that you feel very strongly about, you will know the difference. That little voice in our head can really be our own worst enemy! Good luck!
2007-05-24 14:25:55 · answer #2 · answered by sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea well boys will be boys. He will always check out other girls. That is the nature of a man. See how he feels if you check out other guys. Put the shoe on the other foot. Don't be insecure. That is no way to live. Be happy with who you are and it will radiate through you. No guy is worth feeling insecure over. Good luck and God bless.
2007-05-24 14:28:19 · answer #3 · answered by flicka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmn...hehee...jealousy..I see...
He's still with you and love you right? Why getting all worked up? He didn't say like "she has a nice butt" or something like that, so calm down, take a deep breath and no more negative thoughts. I think it's cute how he thinks those girls should eat more haha. If I was you, I'd laugh at his comment, and add in some stuff along with him.
Try to loosen down the tension a bit. Maybe he's checking them out, but who knows he might be thinking that all of these girls can't measure up to you. After all, he chose you over them all.
2007-05-24 14:26:17 · answer #4 · answered by Jum Jum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did take it the wrong way, but I probably would have too if my boyfriend spent all day looking at other girls' legs!
It sounds like you're feeling really insecure because of this. Can you talk to him and tell him how you feel, explain why you jumped to that conclusion?
2007-05-24 14:21:06 · answer #5 · answered by *huge sigh* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you did over react. You should learn to deal with your insecurities and not get mad at him because you're insecure. Trust me, it will only consume you if you let it. You should always look at the positive and be thankful for what you have, appreciate your relationship, you've been together 2 years, don't let anything like petty insecurities jeopardize it!
2007-05-24 14:22:14 · answer #6 · answered by lovin' life... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally think you were being insecure. Be cool. Guys do not like girls that are like that all of the time. Think about things before you react is the best advice I can give.
2007-05-24 14:22:40 · answer #7 · answered by happy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly how you feel. just lastweek my boyfriend was out describing some girl and he mentioned sumpthin about the way she was shaped and i said, i see you look at people with detail and he got mad..
i dont think our boyfriends meant to say what they said in a disrespectful, they were just blatantly describing what they saw. its like seeing some ghurl with a big breast right in front of you and you describe her and your going to describe exactly what you saw..
as of insecurity issues, all females want to be the only girl the boyfriend talks about in a sexual way no matter what the situation is. its one of those inner self issues, and you really cant fix it, you just have to learn how to handle it in a better way.
i can see where the arguement came from but i dont think it should have gotten to that level...everyone is insecure but dont let it effect your relationship.
2007-05-24 14:27:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is the only comment he made, then I do think you were overreacting. But if he is checking girls out at other times and making inappropriate comments, then you should tell him you don't like it
2007-05-24 14:27:12 · answer #9 · answered by Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the high school level, everyone feels insecure. Just think that your lucky to have a man that others would die to have.
2007-05-24 14:21:45 · answer #10 · answered by kimballclay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋