My husband and I are expecting our second son this coming september. I know that etiquette says you only have a baby shower for your oldest, and I understand the reasonings behind this. We are already totally set up with all the necessary "baby items" (including clothing) from the birth of our oldest son.
HOWEVER, I would really enjoy having the party part of a baby shower, playing games, swapping baby stories with friends and family, etc. My sister called last night and offered to host a shower.
In your opionion, would it be appropriate to have the shower, but send out invitations saying "no gifts" ????
2007-05-24 13:33:42 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I have heard of people doing a baby shower, but instead of gifts have the guests bring a casserole you can freeze. That way after the baby is born and you do not feel like cooking, you will have something to quickly fix for the family. I thought it sounded like a cool idea when I first heard about it. Congrats on your new edition!
2007-05-24 14:26:32 · answer #1 · answered by armatose 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Absolutely, but I say go ahead and have the baby shower. I think every baby is a cause for celebration, and deserves to be welcomed with a party!
But if you don't want to do the "all out" baby shower, how about a diaper shower? We did a Diapers and Dinners shower for a friend a while back, and asked guests to bring either a pack of size 1 or size 2 diapers, or a frozen dinner with reheating instructions. She got lots of both, so she had all kinds of dinners to throw in the oven that first week (people brought frozen lasagnas and stuff like that.)
If you really, really don't want guests to bring anything, that's fine to put that on the invitations, just remember that some people probably will bring gifts anyway, so don't open them in front of everyone, which will make them feel weird about not bringing a gift. Open them in private with the guest who brought them.
But I say go ahead and accept your sister's offer to throw a real baby shower. I don't hesitate to accept an invitation to a baby shower for a "repeat" mommy, no matter how close together or same sex her babies have been. Every new baby is a cause for celebration!
Congratulations on your new son, and enjoy the baby shower!
2007-05-25 05:00:24 · answer #2 · answered by Diaper Cakewalk 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think the baby shower rule came from years ago when things were different. In the "olden" days people lived in the same place for most of their lives. The people who used to come to the showers were friends of the mother of the new mother, the new mother's friends and neighbors. Usually now many mothers work outside of the home and people move around all of the time. It is common to have a second shower for the second baby because there are usually different guests involved. Let your sister give you the shower and don't mention gifts on the invitation. If anyone asks what you need just say that you will be happy with the shower alone.
2007-05-24 13:41:29 · answer #3 · answered by Patti C 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you had a baby shower for your first son (child) why wouldn't you want the same for your second? He or your second son is just as special as your first. I would'nt deprive any gifts for my second son just because your oldest son already has the items.. Since you have already been thinking this way are you setting a trend for how you are going to treat your second son? Because he is your second he doesn't deserve "seconds". Becareful by not treating him secondly. (Which you are already just about to do). I know you probably don't have that intention but it appears that way. Your second son may see that later on in life looking back and wondering....."Why didn't I have my own instead of getting hand me downs"? I have seen that happen. You may not like my answer and it maybe convenient and may make you fill appropriate and if you choose to do so maybe you can write on your invitations what he could really use like diapers, store certificates for future milk purchasing, etc....
2007-05-24 13:56:09 · answer #4 · answered by ma_ri_dale 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well.. I know some people a real pains and will be Offended if you invite them WITH or with out the NO gift part on their.. I had one freind just OUT right say NO I WONT COME.. you get one shower YOU had it.. Thats it...
MY GOSH... my oldest is 15 YEARS>. my youngest is now 17 MONTHS.. Ya.. I had a darn shower.. It was fun.. And I would do it again!!! I got gifts.. and I invited who I darn well wanted.. I think it is fine!!! We had a good time and I know alot of people who do it.... AND Get gifts for alll their kids!!!!!
Do what you want!!!! IT is a CELEBRATION OF LIFE!!!!
They cant complain about that right!!!!
Enjoy and Congrats on the new little one to be!!!
2007-05-24 16:00:43 · answer #5 · answered by Terri Sue H 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I had a shower for both of my children. The saying that you only have one is old. If you want to put no gifts on the invitation that is up to you however I would but "gifts not required" so if your family,friends, and loved ones want to bring something they can. Good luck,have fun, and celebrate.
2007-05-24 13:50:27 · answer #6 · answered by vanilla2869 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is appropriate to place teh no gifts in the invitation. Have the invite say something like the again mommy wants to have a get together befoe the babyis born. Do not be surprised if someone brings you a gift. They always do! BTW congrats
2007-05-24 13:48:13 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Mac 4 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like a great idea. There is no reason you can't celebrate. I think it's appropriate if you want to have the party and just put "no gifts" on the invitation.
2007-05-24 13:42:21 · answer #8 · answered by Laura 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
A baby shower can be thrown for baby #2, #3, #4, etc.
2007-05-24 13:54:35 · answer #9 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-05 07:28:02 · answer #10 · answered by stever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋