Why not just... get out?
2007-05-24 13:31:14 · 31 answers · asked by JuDyLicious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's hard. Some people grow attached to those they love.
Love is also simply an emotion, uncontrollable.
It's not that simple to them sometimes. They are afraid of loss.
Some people have past issues with losing people.
2007-05-24 13:34:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
There could be a lot of factors, but I'd say the major one would be fear of change, sort of "Better the devil you know than the devil you don't".
Maybe they're thinking "I'd rather be in a bad relationship than be on my own".
Some could be holding onto the hope that if they just worked hard enough they could get back to how it was in the begining, after all not many would be in a relationship if it was bad at the start, would they?
Or it could be "But I still love them!"
For others it might be financial reasons (divorces can be expensive and messy), or for the kids, or because if they moved out there would be no-where for them to go.
I think there are as many different reasons for this as there are people in them, but it comes down to the same in the end. They just don't know for sure if moving out/away from the relationship IS what it would take to make them happier.
2007-05-24 20:43:13 · answer #2 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people don't know what a "healthy" relationship is. Or they have such low-self esteem that they think they deserve to be treated bad, or they don't deserve to be treated good.
We learn about relationships from watching our parents. My parents had a very unhealthy relationship, in which I grew up thinking it was normal to behave the way they did, I didn't know any better....until many years later.
And another reason people don't just get out of a bad relationship is fear. They are terribly afraid of any kind of change, that they can't make it alone, they don't believe in themselves...again...low-self esteem.
And some people enjoy the chaos of a crazy relationship, they thrive on the insanity.
Also, there are the "victims". Their identity is tied up in being a victim and getting sympathy from everyone because of how bad they are being treated. They tell everyone who will listen their problems, how bad life, and people treat them.
2007-05-24 20:41:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
People stay in any type of relationship for the same reasons. There are six basic human needs. Relationships in general help supply all of these needs:
1. Need for Certainty/Comfort. -- It's flat out comforting to be in a relationship.
2. Need for Uncertainty/Variety. -- Relationships (especially these unhealthy ones) provide LOTS of opportunity for variety.
3. Need for Significance. -- Someone holds you dear in their heart.
4. Need for Connection/Love. -- Unhealthy doesn't mean the couple is always at one another's throat.
5. Need for Growth. -- Unhealthy leaves lots of room for improvement and growth.
6. Need for Contribution. -- If you have no purpose you die...
2007-05-24 20:48:22 · answer #4 · answered by ruizr_3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad relationships can be addictive. It's terrifying.
My last relationship was a nightmare, but I hung on for "his sake" because he was in therapy etc and I kept telling myself as soon as he was better I'd leave him, because he could look after himself. But the more I did this the more I realised he wasn't going to get better and I was just too scared to leave him - even though Id wanted to for MONTHS and I had another wonderful guy waiting for me with open arms.
Needless to say I eventually took the plunge and am now happier than I've ever been in my life.
2007-05-24 20:35:40 · answer #5 · answered by Spazzcat 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
its not only the fear of being alone, but also that they might never have the feeling of love with anyone else.
an unhealthy relationship tests your self esteem that you deserve someone better and your faith that there is someone better out there. this is a hard test for many people to pass and overcome.
2007-05-24 20:46:04 · answer #6 · answered by mimi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people would rather have an unhealthy relationship than no relationship at all. They have such low self-esteem that they think they can't do any better, or worse, that they deserve the misery.
It's very sad.
2007-05-24 20:33:43 · answer #7 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Because sometimes when you really put your heart in a relationship, later on it becomes hard to believe that it's an unhealthy relationship..... so you ignore your brain and believe your heart that keeps on telling you that things are going to get better, not realising that you are distroying your self esteem and wasting your time...
But what can you say we are humans and we tend to be weak when it comes to our feelings........
2007-05-24 20:52:19 · answer #8 · answered by Robin J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there are so many reasons.. and it varies from different situations..
1. scared of being alone
2. false hope that you can change the person so that he or she will be perfect for you (which is wrong)
3. relationship addiction (unfortunately,a lot of girls are like this)
4. the other person is good in bed (even if he or she beats you to a pulp outside the bed)
5. truly, madly, deeply, in love with the person to the point of stupidity and blindness (love is blind huhum)
2007-05-24 20:39:02 · answer #9 · answered by gracee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don't understand till you've been there.
a lot of the time these people don't even realize they're in an abusive relationship. abusers are very manipulative people. They often make their victim feel as though its their own fault.
I went back to an abusive ex several times before my friends finally sat me down and outlined how i was truly in an abusive relationship.
its like reading about a robbery in the newspaper. you think "woah that's terrible, how could you put yourself in that situation!"
people are insanely cocky. they read about it, they know abou the danger, but they never truly believe its going to happen to them until it does.
2007-05-24 20:37:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋