my bf can't stay hard during sex?

Question

My bf can only keep his erection for a few minutes then it goes floppy. I think its psychological but its very frustrating. He went to the docs and they gave him some pills which were supposed to last for 72 hours at a time but they didn't work. He says his cousin can get cheap viagra and he might ask for some. I said to go to the docs again but i dont know how to say it without sounding like im nagging him and he gets mad at me..and he says that viagra prescriptions are expensive and he doesn't want to because dependant on them (is this true?)
I honestly dont know what to do its so annoying coz i love him so much and i feel like he's ignoring the problem and wont go back to the docs! I've never masturbated so much in my life...I need sex!! Its defo not me because I'm attractive and hot in bed, and i know he loves me. Plus he's had this prob with other girls. We've tried new positions and stuff already.its defo somethin to do with pressure!
HELP!

Answer 1

Penile rings. If they are slipped on when the man is newly erect, they become tight when he gets engorged, and stop some of the blood from flowing back out of the penis....consequently KEEPING him hard for longer.

This is an old fashioned remedy that has been around for centuries. And it is NOT addictive.

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Answer 2

He has got a floppy disk….. the real question is why do you think it's psychological??? you mentioned it but you didn't go into details of why that might be the real issue. ED can both be psychological or physical.

First of all the doctor gave him pills that are supposed to last 72 hours….. that of course is not Viagra or Levitra …. more than likely Cialis. Cialis is good and very mild cases because it delivers its medicine at a slower rate over a longer period of time. The French refer to it as the weekend Viagra sense it can last the whole weekend. The problem is with someone with a bit more of a problem is just too weak to do anything.

Interesting all three drugs actually contain the same chemical just in different delivery formulations. Levitra may actually be better because it works quickly with more stronger impact. It also tends to linger or last longer than Viaga.

There really is no such thing as cheap Viagra…. so I'd be very leery of your friends offer. If you take this and it doesn't work….. was it really the real thing? difficult to base anything on the results.

Also your boyfriend should not eat any heavy meals when taking this medication…. facts for example really affect whether the medicine is absorbed or not. Usually these drugs work quite well because once the doses right the and you're stimulating him at the correct time (that can very) then he will be able to get an erection and hold it. This of course boost up his psychological side and further increases its effectiveness.

The important thing is not to get frustrated just because one did not work.

Also keep in mind that a new drug is already in clinical two trials that works completely differently. It works by changing the desire. And is available for both men and women ! Considering that it's a nose spray and works with both sexes…. and no doubt will be a huge seller when the FDA approves it.

Advice Man

Answer 3

He may have to see a specialist that deals with erectile dysfunction. The question is, does he have very much sensitivity at the tip? There is a big psychological component and that catch 22 scenario comes up again where he might feel something even unrelated that stresses him, then it goes soft. But when it goes soft that increases his stress even more. Stress or the fight or flight response is not consistent with being hard. You know, instead of masturbating yourself, why not have him masturbate you? That might be helpful for him to build his confidence, if he can get you to reach a climax that way, he might feel more involved. Get him more involved in your sexuality without the penetration, do other things (there's a lot you could do). It could be alcohol-related, or even drug related if he's taking something else. There could be damage to his penis either in terms of the circulation or neural. So I would do both, have him see a specialist and also try the things I mentioned and show him above all that he is just as desirable...give him that confidence because he'll be pretty hard on himself (excuse the pun). ;)

Answer 4

I think he has done it so many times in the past thats why he is unable to do that now. Try a virgin boy and he will tell u what s*x really means. He'll take u to the sky of pleasures. For ur partner u need viagra or another alternative is v hot movie but it should be of his choice which could be a bit dirty or shocking 4 u but u should encourage him to watch anything he likes. If u need some more advise then mail me on same id as my nick at yahoo. Exercise is an excellent healthy alternative but it need too much effort on his part. And it is nothing to do with pressure I think. It is just to do with mind and physical power. He needs to build it again now so u better not disturb her and find someone else for this thing only coz it will be more worse in future and viagra is not very good for health but is there as the last option.

Answer 5

he needs to go back to the doc's it really could be something medically that really needs to be looked into taking someone's script's is never a good idea as you don't know how the strength is gonna affect you, or other med's you may be taking he's taking it lightly because it's probably embarrassing for him to tell anyone and thinks it's gonna go away and all will be fine but he needs to go to be on the safe side better safe than sorry doctor's will understand

Answer 6

Wow...if he doesn't want to go back to the doctor then what else can you do? I know it's probably frustrating but remember that sex isn't everything in a relationship.

Answer 7

I had one partner with similar probs, but I had to play dead dummy as I think he was consious of being rubbish in bed. The more it gets fustrating for you, the more he will know this and it becomes a viscious circle.

I put up with being quiet and using my own aids on the side for a while discreetly and after a year or so it was ok! It depends what you want.

P.s. I'm no longer with him!!!

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Maybe he doesn't feel anything in sex. Let him do what he feels like its all his.
And please don't urge and put pressure on him, it might get him all mad and frustrating.

Also remember that sex b/4 marriage can ruin ones life especially a girls'.

Answer 10

well get him relaxed he probably gets nervous for some reason and going to the docs, and the medicine not working makes him feel less of a man. so you have to help him work through what ever is going on with him. you'll make it through this because you love each other.