help! with my extremely WEIRD brother :( :|?

Question

hi, i need help with my brother. i think there is really something wrong with him. i'm 16 years old and he's 18, in his first year of university.
he is extremely, just WEIRD. he has started to annoy me on purpose but in the WEIRDEST of ways since he left my school. he doesn't have anything better to do and it annoys me SO MUCH.
things he does::::
1. when i'm in my room, he tries to come in ALL the time. it forces me to forcefully push the door back with like all my might. he is relentless.
2. when he gets in he jumps on my bed and sleeps on it... he knows i don't like germs/ other disgusting people like him in my bed.
3. he does the same to my sister except he likes her so he's um nicer. but still we both HATE IT.
We've tried to discuss this with our parents but he won't stop. he gets VIOLENT sometimes and has hit me various times. it is scary and it seems he cannot control his anger. he also talks in a weird girly voice.like "im goin in ur room". around his friends,he acts NORMAL.

he also takes my things, like my debit card. to annoy me and i found it in his wallet. now he has my wallet and my drivers liscence which i NEED!!

he hacks my facebook account and posts disgusting messages on my friends wall and jhust wont leave me alone!

my parents think i have a bad attitude towards him and that im mean to him;. but wtf am i supposed to do when hes barging into my room all the time...

seriously he is 18 years old.. he needs to grow up!!!!!!!

how do i stop this. i've tried talking to my parents they wont do anything!

i've told him SOOO many times to stop. nicely, like forcefully.. everything!
just last week i broke down crying because he wouldnt leave me alone. it is constant. he doesnt stop...

my parents siad they were going to get locks for us and make him pay for them but i don't know if that is going to happen... he gets away with everything..

also..... this has been going on for YEARS.. since i can remember he has always been sooo weird around me and my sister.. i've talked to my friends. they've said their brothers have done annoying things but NOT to the extent of what my bro does. also he is 18.. i mean don't guys grow up by then?!?!?

is there something mentally wrong with him?

i don't understand how a normal person can act the way he does! he's a creep/freak!

thx for your answers, the ppl who have already responded!

Answer 1

Every time your brother forces his way into your room and lays down on your bed, I would just pick up whatever it was that I was working on and go and lay down in my parent's bed. When they ask you what you think you're doing, you just tell them that freaky brother is in your bed, and YOU refuse to share it with HIM.

I also agree with a previous answerer...your brother has no business hitting you. I would mace him every time he did this, and if that didn't stop him, I would start calling the cops. This behaviour IS NOT normal, and no 16 year old girl should have to put up with it.

Are you sure that your brother doesn't find you and your sister sexually exciting? I know this is a disgusting thought, but it may be why he is doing this. He could be getting off by the smell of you on the sheets.

If your parents continue to refuse to curb your brother's behaviour, I would start looking at legal alternatives to putting up with it. There is such a thing as getting yourself declared an emacipated minor. And these laws were put into place to cover situations like yours, where parents refuse to protect and/or provide for an exploited teenager.

I do agree that your brother has something seriously wrong with him mentally. HE needs a psychiatrist. If the only way he can get the help is to get into trouble with the police for his behaviour, then maybe you should take that into account when you decide how to handle your situation.

Good luck. You are going to need it.

Answer 2

I'd have to say that your brother appears to have a crush on someone that is either your friend or in his class(es). If he hasn't really had girlfriends or dated often he is probably just venting his frustration because he is too timid or shy to openly speak with a girl he is attracted to. My assumption could be totally wrong but I'd imagine I'm not that far off.

I know it may be hard, but your stuck with your family and you should love them unconditionally (which is impossible for most people, but that should be your goal). The best thing you and your family could do is talk to him, get him to open up about what is on his mind, what is going on in his life that is causing him to act the way he is.

Communication is the foundation of any good relationship, you don't have to be mushy or hug him, just find some common ground to get to him better now. You should want to maintain a good relationship with your family, especially because you siblings will more than likely out live your parents .Your brother obviously seems to be a different person since he started college, from they way you described the situation.

Answer 3

That's actually normal, simple sibling rivalry. Complaining about it to parents annoys them, and they'll just turn a deaf ear to you. What you can do is stay away from it, go out and hang with friends. Don't let it get to you. If he sees that he can't annoy you anymore, he'll get bored and leave you alone. When he comes into your room and tries to crash on your bed just say something like, "Be sure to make the bed when you leave." and leave the room, go do something else. Ignoring him will help. I hope this has helped.

Answer 4

He's got some serious aggression issues with his sisters. You guys need locks on your rooms, and your parents really need to step in and let him know that being physical with you is not okay. Show them the bruises, tell them you're grown up enough to want your privacy and that you should be able to expect your brother to respect that.

Maybe he's acting this way so that he'll get more attention from you and your parents, who knows?

Answer 5

He could be a closet perv with a weird thinking about beds. But your female and females all share a common trait, the one for drama. Its entirly likely you are exadurating a little, he is probally doing it to get your attention because he doesnt see you that often.

Just sit down and talk to him every now and again, then he probally wont see the need to get your attention other ways.

Answer 6

My brother acted like that.he was mentally unstable.sounds like your brother is the same.ignore him and lock your door and next time he steals your drivers liscence and debit card call the police.he is 18 therfore an adult.ther are consequences for stealing and since your parents wont do anything they can deal with the consequences

Answer 7

He HITS you? Call the police.
I have two brothers. They never acted this weird or violent.
This ISN'T normal sibling rivalry!
There's something mentally wrong with him.
You need help from a person in authority, and if your parents won't do it, call the police.

Answer 8

u should really talk to him about it explain what hes doin to u and ask him to stop. if he hits u again grab what u can and smack him with it show him u aint goin to let urself and u might want to suggest to ur parents about a drug test those sound like the symptoms of meth or steroids... or maybe hes just bein a dick cuz hes in college now if thats the case throw him off his high horse and humiliate him in front of his friends

Answer 9

He may have a serious mental problem and if he hits you again, even if it will make your parents mad, call the cops. He is abusing you. I would also start putting locks on your door and not open it unless your parents tell you to.

Answer 10

I had a brother who hit me and tried to sexually assault me and i called the cops. He would always try to come in my room and sleep on my bed to. Just know he's capable of anything. If you have a job get a padlock put it on your door... camcorders always help to catch people in action proof to show your parents