Ok me and my gf hav been dating for quite awhile now and I love her to death honestly but I dont know whether or not she loves or trust me and I have never done anything that would betray her trust Ive always tried to treat her special but I feel like I get nothing in return we havent even kissed each other yet then I ask her if she love me she said maybe which i thought was bullcrap u either love a person or u dont I have toldher time and time again that she needs to improve but sometimes it doesnt evn seems like she tries she shows no emotion towards me and says im actin like a female because i complain about her not showin any emotion so what do I do should I break up with her please dnt just give me one sentence answers this is a delicate situation oh yeah next year shes going to college and ill be in the navy
2007-05-24 12:26:42 · 7 answers · asked by jcri89 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she is not affectionate, and doesn't reveal her emotions to you, and you want her to change "I've told her time and time again that she needs to improve", and she calls you names, and you are both planning to move onto different things, different lives in a short time, then why the hell are you in this relationship?
Your not happy with it, she's not happy with it.
Let each other go and try to find yourselves someone who matches you better.
Sorry, but you can't make her change and if you truly loved her, you wouldn't want her to.
2007-05-24 12:36:35 · answer #1 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, she's not into you. The 'love' part I can understand, because that doesn't happen overnight. And, it would be a different thing if you were pressuring her to have sex with you when she's not ready. But if she's not even willing to kiss you and she's not emotionally drawn to you then she's actually blowing you off, perhaps hoping that either you'll take a hint and end the relationship soon, or if not then she may have to. You may not yet realize this, but when a woman is really into you---you will know it. She may not necessarily want to jump into bed with you right away, but she shows it in other ways.
Maybe you need to step back from this situation and look at it another way. You said yourself that she's going off to college next year, and that you'll be going into the Navy. Maybe right now she's just more interested in her education and future career goals, and you can't blame a woman for being ambitious.
Either the timing isn't right or this is not the girl for you. I suspect that in your case, it is both. Be prepared to end this relationship and move on. If you feel this will be too hard for you to do then look at it this way: would you be better off dating another girl who actually likes and appreciates having you around? Or would you rather keep trying to hold on to this one and hope that she comes around? And, if you choose the latter, what if she never comes around? Do you really want to waste a whole year of your life waiting for this girl?
Life is too short, buddy. Trust me, you're better off ending this and meeting somebody else.
2007-05-24 12:42:52 · answer #2 · answered by webhead28 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are not getting the reassurance that you need in the relationship to feel stable. In turn, it sounds like she may not be able to provide that reassurance for you. I was in a situation very similar to this with an ex. We didn't work because I never knew where I stood with him. I just don't think that this relationship will work because you are so different. She'll have to start showing you how she feels or you'll have to move on.
EDIT: Good luck in the Navy! :)
2007-05-24 12:33:22 · answer #3 · answered by rebelwitch80 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the first no no is pressuring her into saying i love you....ya you might get it out of her but its not from her heart its just so you will leave her alone about it...second of all you cant expect things from people because you will get let down trust me i do it without even realizing it. i was in a relatinoship where i was you in the relationship and you do all this stuff to show you love them and they dont really show it back...IT SUCKS i know so bad but expecting that they will return what you give them is setting yourself up to get let down...people have different ways of showing how they love someone and you are prolly like me...where just being next to that person is having your stomach do butterflies and its so wonderful where others are materialistic just know DO NOT PUSH she will say it when she is ready and it will be because she does...there most likely is a reason why she isnt but dont push....best of luck to you!!!
2007-05-24 12:35:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
to me it sounds like shes just using you. Your not buying her stuff are you cause if you are she really is using you. I think if she doesn't want to show the same respect to you the way you treat her, you should leave her. i think your better off buddy!! make something of your self and don't let her stand in your way!!
2007-05-24 12:32:39 · answer #5 · answered by april01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I hope you have been dating more than a week. (And haven't even kissed yet?)
Next, kick her to the curb and find someone else. She doesn't deserve you.
2007-05-24 12:32:08 · answer #6 · answered by twest_dgo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry dude you have to end it and it true if she don't return like you always do ... it not going to last long.. my wife and I always do and kiss and you name it and guess what that how i know my wife really loves me. smiling
2007-05-24 12:30:20 · answer #7 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋