My fiance and I are getting married in August and her youngest son refuses to eat certain things (extreme) and sleeps with her everynight. What do I say or do to help change this behavior?
2007-05-24 12:11:18 · 10 answers · asked by Brian E 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have never been spanked a day in my life! I would never discipline a child that way unless it was the LAST CHOICE! If they are living under my roof then they should be able to abide by my rules... I understand I am not goinh to discipline them without Moms concent.... But the first little tear that flow's it is OK and over! As far as the bed is concerned our 9 year old and I are in competiotion..... Yes, that is screwed up but I have never been in this situation before!
2007-05-24 13:39:35 · update #1
It is hard for step parents to discipline step children. Before disciplining talk with your fiance before you say anything to the child. Step parenting is a very hard thing to do. I was very close to my step dad, he did not over step his bounderies disciplining me, mom did that. Good luck
2007-05-24 12:24:01 · answer #1 · answered by wolfkiss 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your fiance' prior to making any changes. Once she's aware that you want to make changes, let her know why you think it will benefit all of you and let her handle the matter, because if you take a disciplinary role with her son too soon, he may view you as an intruder rather than an addition to an already overwhelming change. I have two boys and a my husband is their step-father, so I've seen what can happen when the step father steps in too quickly. Hope it works out for the best.
2007-05-24 19:19:18 · answer #2 · answered by Jess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG...I totally understand this! My boyfriends son refuses to eat dinner almost everynight...and usually he pretends to eat...throws it away...and sneaks cereal and sandwhiches when we are not looking. We have 6 children...EVERYONE needs to follow the rules. This is the most frustrating thing ever...my children have to the follow the rules...but godforbid if his have too. We have been together not for over a year and I put my foot down with his son...this is a continuing cycle. I don't know what to do!
2007-05-24 19:23:47 · answer #3 · answered by Starbucks2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you receive resistance from your fiancee as to how she raises her child, the time has come to perform a gut check and see if marrying her is in your best interest. If you cannot overcome the resistance, respectfully call off the marriage and find a mate with baggage that you can manage.
2007-05-24 19:41:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your fiance about it. You need to sit down and discuss the changes. When I was growing up, the rule was I had to try it once... if I didn't like it, then I didn't have to eat it. As long as I tried it, everything was ok.
2007-05-24 19:15:24 · answer #5 · answered by NoClue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You talk with your fiance and you discuss whether she wants you to be a real parent to this child with discipline rights, or if you are supposed to let her handle everything. Then you let her deal with it depending on the answer.
2007-05-24 19:14:02 · answer #6 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really need to sit down and talk to her before you get married...You can not lay a hand of them, i was a stepparent...You can tell the kiddo what to do and i would make sure mom had her kid out of her bed prior to the wedding...Three is a crowd...If she can not deal with what it is you want, or think needs to be done, i wouldnt marry her....
2007-05-24 19:45:15 · answer #7 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make him sleep in his own bed and well if u cook dinner and he does not eat then he does not eat for nite
2007-05-24 19:14:43 · answer #8 · answered by bsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not his father. You can't say anything. Get used to it.
2007-05-24 19:15:15 · answer #9 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
never
2007-05-24 19:15:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋