Why Is It So Hard To Get Someone To Like You?

Question

This is a question that one of my friends asked me and I didn't have an answer for him. It'd be nice to get some of your opinions. Thanks

Lol he's gonna laugh... or cry, I dunno.

Answer 1

maybe because you try too hard and it can be seen as being too desperate

Answer 2

It's not. You don't have to try to get people to like you. Just be yourself and you'll gravitate naturally towards kindred souls and vica versa.

However, if you are repeatedly drawn to people who want nothing to do with you, it might be worthwhile to look for the discrepancy between your desires, your intentions, your appearance nd your behaviour. IE, want to meet successful high profile business owners, but you're unemployed and have only ever worked a minimum pay job?

Why do you want to meet them? How do you see the friendship or association playing out? When you meet these people on their turf, is it your turf also or do you stand out for the wrong reasons? If the energies /vibes don't match and your agenda is driving the situation rather than mutual interests it's impossible to get people to like you.

Answer 3

well it depends on the person. some people its damn easy. others its like MAN WHAT DO I HAVE TO DO! but i figure if u can keep a constant stream of interesting conversation, and be witty and clever at least soemtimes, then uve given it ur best shot so just keep up the good work and what happens happens.

Answer 4

Well if you are just a nice person and have a bit of confidence to have a chat then i really don't think that it will be that hard. He just has to show a shining personality and the females will fall at his feet!

Answer 5

I know you probably get this a lot and it's cliche but this is what I think: it's so hard to make someone like you because it's not something you can force on someone. it's how they feel. there isn't any possible way to *make* a person like you. it's just ...if you happen to be what they want.

Answer 6

Stop trying so hard and just allow things to happen naturally. When you strive for acceptance it only pushes people away from you. Desperation and neediness are not attractive traits in anyone.

Answer 7

Desperation spoils the chase.

I don’t like when people try to hard, and I hated looking back on myself when I was trying to hard.

The bottom line is, either a person will like you for you, or you shouldn’t care what they think if they don’t like who you are!

Answer 8

If someone doesn't like you for who you are, you're barking up the wrong tree. If somebody doesn't like you for who you are, then maybe they don't deserve your friendship anyway. You can't change yourself to gain the affections of someone else. It's unnatural and impossible. Fuggetaboutit. Like yourself for the person you are

Answer 9

because it is impossible, not hard. they will either like you or not. or love you or not. you have no control over other person's feelings unless that person has low self-esteem and can be easily manipulated, you now, the kind who will like you back just for being liked by you. relax, be yourself, and wait until someone wants you without you "getting" them to want you.

Answer 10

Be yourself. Don't try to hard, don't act like you don't care either. Just be comfortable in your own skin and when the right person comes along you'll be happy!

Answer 11

I think that if you have to 'get' someone to like you, the relationship probably isn't going to work anyway. You should find someone to date that likes you for who you are, that you don't have to impress or constantly act your coolest/ be fake around for them to like you.