and i asked him what he used it for, he said hockey stuff. he logged into the account today and thats why at hotmail for the email address, the email address was already typed in. i know a few of his passwords b/c he told me, so i typed one in and it logged me into the account. when the email opened there were lots of emails from other girls saying "here's my id hun", emails with pictures, camwithher things. so i don't know what to do? is he cheating on me? how do i find out? should i break up with him? we've been going out for 2 years almost now....please help
2007-05-24 11:41:47 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the emails are not spam because they are the only emails present in the account. there are emails with attachments (pictures of other girls posing nearly naked). there are three that were sent today
2007-05-24 11:50:00 · update #1
Girl, you must have had some suspicions before this, to have logged into his other e-mail account in the first place. Then there's the fact that far from being "Hockey stuff" he's connecting with other girls, and lying about it.
Is it cheating? If it wasn't, why would he have lied about it? He may not be sleeping around, but he IS hiding something from you. And many an affair starts with one partner believing that they are entitled to something (read someone) else outside of the relationship.
You have two choices now. You can bury your head in the sand and pretend this never happened, or you can confront him, ask him why he lied, and what does it all mean to the two of you.
Be prepared, he IS going to be mad at you for snooping in his account! Either because he'll feel you invaded his privacy, or because he's going to want to put the blame back on you for his activities, trying to cover the fact he was responsible for them in the first place.
Tough choice.
2007-05-24 11:58:11 · answer #1 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chuck him. Maybe its just for his Ego to feel wanted by other woman but seriously everyone flirts sometimes even people in happy relationships but to actually sit in front of that computer with you around and look for on line fun is completely disrespectful to you. Confront him tell him you would like for this to change and if he is not willing to comply then really find someone else who wants to make you happy and not some slag on line. you could always become a member of that page as well and send him an email that should get his attention. Best of Luck
2016-05-17 06:40:02 · answer #2 · answered by mara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would seem that he's not being completely honest with you... though to be snooping through his emails, doesn't sound like you completely trust him, either... are there other signs that things aren't as they should be? calls or hang-ups? usually "cheaters" leave trails and traces... i'd talk with him and just ask him out of curiosity how he sees things going and is there anything happening in his life that he'd like to talk with you about, if he says no, i'd confess that you "accidentally" opened his account and would like to know what to make of the girls' emails you saw.. if he has a problem with it, tell him why you did it and that it seems you had reason to suspect something amiss... good luck!!! (listen to your heart, but use your head, usually if there's smoke, there's fire.... )
2007-05-24 11:50:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Create an alter ego, then lead him on with it. After a few emails, agree to meet him somewhere. Tell him to wear something so you'll know it's him ( a red hat, or something) then approach him in the meeting place, and compliment him on said red hat (or whatever it was), and tell him that you're breaking up with him.
2007-05-24 11:50:47 · answer #4 · answered by Bob Thompson 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Confront him about it. He may be pissed and defensive, especially since you broke into his account, but unless everything in there was spam (was it? or was it real conversations?), you obviously had a reason to check it. How old were these e-mails?
2007-05-24 11:47:20 · answer #5 · answered by Kayleigh♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
look in the sent messages to see if he said anything to them cuz they could be just junk mail that a lot of people get the same one of
2007-05-24 11:46:19 · answer #6 · answered by Toxic Lette 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't be passive about it. Confront him and ask him what his intentions are. He needs to realize that what he's doing isn't harmless, obviously, or you wouldn't be upset about it. "Chatting" isn't harmless, it leads to all sorts of crap and opens the door to being unfaithful.
2007-05-24 11:49:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well deffinitly break up with him because he lied to you, i mean guys do watch porn, which is probably what it is,, sorry chica, but confront him about it,, i wish you a lot of luck!
2007-05-24 11:47:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with him then. You obviously didn't trust him to begin with, now you have a reason not to...
2007-05-24 11:49:28 · answer #9 · answered by Jinton 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it's close enough. would you feel guilty if your were hiding something like that from him, cause i guarantee that the reason he hasn't told you is because he knows what'd happen. curb the ******
2007-05-24 11:46:14 · answer #10 · answered by muscle bound hunk 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋