I want to tell my mom that I am Wiccan but don't know what to say.?

Question

I am an Eclectic Wiccan and have been wanting to tell my mom for some time now. She is open minded about most things, including religion. I was hoping some of the other Pagans on here could give me some sugestions on what to say and how to tell her. My husband already knows that I am Wiccan.

Answer 1

I would start by saying......

" Mother, I need help, I am a Wiccan.......would you please pray for me"?

Answer 2

I am glad to see that you are mature enough to understand Wicca and not some 14 yr/old that thinks its cool because of TV. I say don't say it to her but don't hide it either. Discuss some of the Druid philosophies of oneness and nature,etc....... Let her come to it on her own. If you talk alot with her maybe it will take a few weeks, maybe less. But if you blurt it, you might seem less sincere.
And try not to say Pagans (although Wiccans call themselves that), the Catholic church branded that term to all other religions that do not follow a One God faith (even though they have 3 of them).
And Linda b, think about what you wrote. Occult? Every Christian faith is an occult. And wiccans of all kinds believe in god.

I hope that helped a little.

Answer 3

I would start by eliminating all the superstitions and reputations that are not true about being a Wiccan. Most people don't know anything about it besides what they see on TV. Or what they hear from Chritians or other religions referring to Wiccans as devil worshippers and such.

Remember....Pagan, Agnostics, Wiccans are much older belief systems then any religions that exist. Most religions stole information from these three to come up with some of their own beliefs. Yes, they have done a poor job trying to copy. Praying, pentagrams, Six pointed stars, and much more are far older than any man made religion to control the masses. Good Journey!

Answer 4

Hello, I myself am an adolescent Eclectic Wiccan. Some tips... be open and honest with her, and explain to her the Mysteries of Wicca. Explain to her how you feel about our Earth Mother and her Consort. Also explain to her that Wiccanism is NOT Satanism, people confuse Wiccanism with Satanism because the pentagram is a common symbol of both religions, except our pentagram has one point (Akasha) pointing up, while Satanism has two points up, like its upside down, showing Force of Logic, so to speak... And also, make sure to explain to her that Wiccans aren't like what they are portrayed in the media. The key is to be open and honest, and to not be aggressive. You must also explain to her that you are a Wiccan not because you are "sticking it to Christianity" (for all Gods are one God and all Goddesses one Goddess) that you have nothing against the Christian God, just against the ethics of his ignorant priests. You must respect her, and she shall respect you for your openess and honesty. Hope this helps. Merry part and Blessed be friend :)

Answer 5

Perhaps instead of just blurting it out, you could start with a conversation about religion in general, a "what do you think" or " I heard an idea" the other day sort of thing, or make a statement about current events like "Gee, isn't it nice that the VA finally recognized the Pentagram as a religious symbol, and now families that have been waiting for that can put it on thier soldier's memorials", or something like that? Maybe after awhile you can kind of work you way around to things like "What do you think about Wicca?" and kind of feel your way along from there.... It's possible she may even already know that you have been studying Wicca....That she is open minded about such things is a definite plus.....(The part about working your way up to it, is not so much about making her comfortable, more about making you more comfortable in the conversation before you tell her...) It would also give you the option of not telling her, if you feel her out awhile, and if she reacts in a negative way to the things you are saying to her...
(My Catholic parents have just kind of figured out along the way that I am obviously not Catholic. Once in awhile they ask me questions about my beliefs, mostly they don't bother me about it, but they know that I'm Pagan by now, it's just been kind of worked in, in little bits and pieces along the way, I've never really had a direct conversation where I announced it to them, or anything like that, I don't hide it from them or anything like that, I just never formally took it up with them...)

Answer 6

Same problem I had. Although my mom could never exactly understand my position or why I would believe differently. But I suppose she came to accept me anyway. Because she knew me and knew I wasn't simply a "bad kind of person". We don't make a big deal about religion anymore. I suppose she also had to accept I was old enough to make my own decisions. Although from her Christian perspective she could never really accept my beliefs. I am not a Wiccan but a magician and I suppose that is even harder to try and explain to others.

Answer 7

Hey, first of all let me just congratulate you on your choice of religion...I hope it helps you find inner peace and everything along those lines, etc. Second thing, if you're mum is open minded about all religions, then what is telling me that chances are she isn't one who is of a judeo religious faith. (Am I right?) If that is the case, I say more power to you! Telll her, be honest and straight up with what you believe and stand for. I remember how hard it was giving up meat, and choosing to be a veggie a year ago, but I got thru it by being honest to myself and letting my parents know what it is that I've chosen and why it makes me happy. If it makes you happy, they will be surely happy. So I say what do you have to lose? If she is open about religions, and she is not one who has a stereotypical view of pagans which are I mgiht add held by all judeo faiths, then I say go for it. Be upfront, and tell her your choice and why it makes you happy. Best of luck!

Answer 8

okay, I am not a Pagan or Wiccan, but i will answer you if others won't.
JUst have lunch with her and tell her. you are old enough anyway to choose what you want, but you want her to respect your way, so tell her what led you to it. If, by some chance, she freaks, then stay rational. It will influence your mom to think you made a rational decision if you don't get defensive.
Good luck

Answer 9

mm, only you can know, but are you sure you want to tell her? Whats her religion? if shes a christian she may think you are going to hell or something, and if shes open, she will just feel sad that you turned away from god.
Be careful, maybe she doesn't need to know. It could be very sad for her to think her daughter is walking away from god.

If you do tell her, make sure she understands that you feel closer to god now, and that makes you full of happiness. Try to show her how it is a positive change, and not just because you don't believe what you used to anymore

Answer 10

Say something like, Uhm , Mom you know how you always told me to do what i felt was right, and that i shouldn't let what other people think affect my decisions, and how i could come to you with anything and that you would understand? Well this is one of those times. Have you ever heard of Harry Potter ? And do you remember Bewitched? well.... I have too, and uhhh ..... Well Mom, I'M A WITCH!!

Answer 11

That's alright, your mom will probably say "what the hell is a wiccan?" Because that would be my response to my kid