Well my boyfriend sned me these nasty pictures including a message that said wanna do it? I dont think were there yet and plus after the e-mail of the tossing salad i was gonna dump him but i told him how i felt he said he understood but im getting the same feeling again what do i do?
2007-05-24 11:16:12 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell him how you feel, If he really cares how you feel he will give a couple of weeks,months or even years before bringing that up,Again if he cares he will ask when you feel comfortable, If he does not care about your feelings, and he only uses you for your looks and for show ,and if he brings it up a day after,He is not the best guy for you. Dump him. Thats all i have to say.Sorry.And good luck with him!
2007-05-24 14:26:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE kept himself to jail by having 9 outstanding warrants. Those aren't your fault. Don't even claim you wouldn't take him back either, because this whole long story is showing that you would. He has shown his true colors to you multiple times; the physical abuse, finding out he killed kittens, 9 outstanding warrants, the verbal abuse. Through all this you seem to be showing some defense of him. This is a case where his abuse clearly worked. He ran you down and you think he is doing you some favor to be with you and you aren't good enough. When you accept that you do feel run down by him you can start working on that problem. If you deny that then you will turn to him again and suffer the abuse again. The big reason for these women going back is they are in denial about how bad they feel about themselves and don't think the guy is the problem. Heck hitting you probably would have been better then CHOCKING YOU TIL YOU COULDN'T BREATH. Oh and for future advise there is a reason they say to listen to your pet when it comes to a mate. Animals tend to have a better instinct then a human, because they aren't as stupid toward emotions. The fact that your dog HATES this guy should have been a warning.
2016-05-17 06:25:54 · answer #2 · answered by clare 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't been together very long (only a week or two), you may want to just end it. If you have been together for a few months or so, you need to talk to him about it again, explain that if he keeps sending you things that make you uncomfortable and pressure you, that you will end it. If he does it again, stick to your guns... and end it, if you don't, he will believe that he can still get away with it (which is true if you don't take action). Besides, anyone who says they understand but keeps doing it, isn't anyone you want to be in a relationship with anyway, especially with a request so clear. If he cared about you and your feelings, he wouldn't be doing this again. Seems pretty obvious that he only wants one thing.
2007-05-24 11:31:27 · answer #3 · answered by Amber 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on.
You've felt uncomfortable twice because he sent you graphic images. I'm guessing this is his way of telling you he'd like the relationship to become physical. His actions are thoughtless and unattractive especially as you've already told him this behaviour bothers you.
I hate to be graphic but lets just say that you decide to give him another chance and the relationship progresses. If he's that insensitive and pre occupied with what he wants with his clothes on, what makes you think he'd be any different in an intimate relationship!!! Uggh!!
Move on baby girl, move on and find someone who will love and respect you.
2007-05-24 11:29:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well....I think you have discovered that your boyfriend doesn't really know you well, and that he doesn't respect you.
You are getting the same feeling again because a part of you doesn't want to break up with him; but another part of you knows it's the right thing to do.
Give yourself time to think. And if you continue to feel uncomfortable or you feel you cannot trust him, then call it quits. Trust your instincts! You are getting this feeling for a reason, so don't ignore it.
2007-05-24 11:22:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl if you are feeling in your relationship uncomfortable i say then you need to try to ditch the boy and try to aim a little bit higher. You deserve to be treated respectfully I think your man really cross way over to far. Whether he meant it or not I say he already did it and that caused you to do a lot of thinking.
You deserve better in life and you deserve for a man to respect you and not for you to make you feel weird.
Don't you worry girl you will be just fine I am glad that you are re thinking about him I really hope that you can really open your eyes and realized that you can do way better in life.
Drop the zero and go get yourself a hero
2007-05-24 11:26:28 · answer #6 · answered by mary o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him know that it made you a bit uncomfortable. Maybe it was a miscommunication or weird way of him making a joke. If he gets mad about it, then he's not worth it, and you should find someone who is willing to do what it takes to make you feel comfortable and not just thinking about his own sexual needs. Good luck!
2007-05-24 11:22:28 · answer #7 · answered by Lanolin...like sheep's wool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIM. You should neva have to feel uncomfortable when your around your man, ask your self where you see your relationship with him going and if you are willing to be made to feel uncomfortable, obviously you both arent on the same page with this
2007-05-24 17:08:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell him the same thing you just wrote, the pictures are nasty, made you uncomfortable, and they were unappreciated. If he continues, keep in mind that it's probably his true colors coming out and he just might not be worthy boyfriend material anyway!!
2007-05-24 11:58:56 · answer #9 · answered by Tikled_Ivory 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not a good sign. If you are uncomfortable with the things he says, does or shows you, tell him and don't do anything you are not comfortable with. He may not be the right one for you. I'd listen to my gut instinct if I were you.
2007-05-24 11:20:37 · answer #10 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋