I recently found out exactly 4 days ago that my dad had cheated on my mom like about a yr ago. My dad to me is everything and of course I adore my mom but since I got played on & I was the last person to know I don't want my mom going through the same situation; but then again I asked my mom what would happen if she found out my dad had played on her & w/out even studering she said that she'd divorse him because he was too old to be doing tat & now I feel worse and I don't know what to do. To top it off I had a baby boy 4 mos ago and they r crazy about him and they seem happier I mean they r parents of 5 and grandparents of 4 so I don't understand why he would do something like this? any advice would be appreciated:)
2007-05-24 11:10:31 · 11 answers · asked by babycakes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Wow. That's tough for you I'm sure. No one can tell you what to do. You just have to decide what the easiest thing for you to live with is. Something else that may help you deal with this is put yourself in your mom's shoes. Would you want to know? Put yourself in your dad's shoes too. How do you think he will react if you do this? Are you prepared for that? It's going to be real easy for people to say "tell her, tell her!" but you do have to weigh the consequences and do only what you can handle. I'm sorry you found out. It would have been so much better if he just learned a valuable lesson and didn't do it again. Some things are better left unsaid.
2007-05-24 11:18:29 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well this is very hard, I think I would talk to my dad, tell him how it feels to know something so terrible and how it feels to have to keep it from mom. I would also want to know if dad still loves mom? I do not think I could know my dad did something so drastic and not ask him why he did it. But I am not sure beyond talking to dad that I would do much more. I would not want to be the cause of my parents getting seperated or divorsed. I would also tell my dad that I adore him but do not like his actions and that he is not setting a very good example. In the end if dad wants to continue cheating, mom will find out and then its up to her how to deal with it but I am sure if mom finds out from her child it would be twice as hard as finding out some other way. Hope this helps....
2007-05-24 18:32:30 · answer #2 · answered by Tamara B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should respect your father as you would want to be respected....if you told your mother it would not only hurt your dad, but also hurt your mom and could jeopardize your relationship with both. If your dad is still fooling around, your mother will find out, if not, and it was a one time thing, let it go. I know it hurts, but it would hurt much more to see your family torn apart. Hopefully, your dad made a mistake and learned from it. Good Luck
2007-05-24 18:21:40 · answer #3 · answered by mamaonetexasone 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure the source you heard this from is valid, and you're sure this happened first of all. If it's true:
1. Tell your Dad that you know about it. He should know and have some remorse for what he did. Also, by telling him, you will be relieved of your secret.
2. Don't tell your Mom, that's his job is he chooses to tell her.
2007-05-24 18:36:17 · answer #4 · answered by jonesk_92656 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear this, but I think you should keep quiet. This is between your parents- it's their marriage and their business.
Do not open your mouth because if you do, nothing good will come out of it. If your mother finds out in the future, then she can deal with it. But if you are asking whether to tell her or not, I'd say NO.
2007-05-24 18:18:25 · answer #5 · answered by Nena S 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell like I said before remind him it was wrong and tell him it would hurt your mom so much if she found out...SMILE
2007-05-24 18:18:45 · answer #6 · answered by Ablebaby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its going to get out sooner or later just tell ur mom she deserves it
2007-05-24 18:59:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell my mom if that happened to her. She deserves the truth.
2007-05-24 18:15:32 · answer #8 · answered by *=D 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well its always good to tell the truth even when the truth may hurt a person. knowing the truth about someone is better than not knowing at all.
2007-05-24 18:15:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
stay out of it. it happened a year ago.as long as it isn't going on now, leave it alone. they're happy.
2007-05-24 18:14:44 · answer #10 · answered by racer 51 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋