My ex dumped me about 4 months ago, deep down i think i still like him but im gradually getting over him..its just when i start thinking about memories with him i get really upset..its only when im by myself it brings things back..is it normal to get upset thinking about stuff with him even though hes my ex? Its weird because i can still feel what it was like to be with him and when he was holding me and it annoys me whenever i see him and he acts like nothing ever happened!:( do you think he ever thinks about stuff like that? (btw my ex dumped me)
2007-05-24 10:42:26 · 13 answers · asked by x_x_sweetlove_x_x 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nope, most guys don't brood over that stuff, they just get new girlfriends to fill the space.
2007-05-24 10:45:08 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
THE SAME THING HAPPENED TO ME TWO YEARS AGO!!
It is natural to feel that way. Although you may not emotionally like the person anymore, you might get reminded of random things you guys did together or his picture may just pop into your head. I discovered that usually when you are the "victim" of that type of situation, in which you had no control of the outcome, you cant really get over it 100% in seven days. You have to give yourself time and eventually youll not think about it as much, and when you see him, youll just see him as a human being, not as an ex who hurt you.
Im pretty sure when he sees you, he has some type of thought all though you may not be able to see it on his face. Men are good at that. Believe me, when you walk around just like he does, he'll be thinking the same thing you thought. Dont let it it get the best of you. Move on and eventually you will see he is just another male that needs mental help;)
Men are are not as sensitive as women are, so they feel the need to project this tough guy image in any situation. Im sure your a nice girl and YOU WILL run into someone who deserves you.
2007-05-24 10:52:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was dumped by a girlfriend about 3 years ago! and although i have been with other girls since then still can't shake the memories of THAT girl, we were together for 7 years and i too can still feel what it was like being with her, holding her and even her smell, i haven't seen her in 2 and a half years yet wound still feels new!!!
not much help i know, but hopefully you won't hurt as long as me!
2007-05-24 10:53:26 · answer #3 · answered by matt mcd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its perfectly normal to feel this way! most women do even after a longer period of four months! Even though he would probably never admit it he does think about things like that too, but i think women read more into it, it doens't mean you still love him or want him back it just means you miss the intimacy. Its normal and even this passes with time!
2007-05-24 11:21:09 · answer #4 · answered by Lola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your defo still getting over him sweety. this takes time. A long time. Try not to bump into him if possible- i know this can be hard as he could be in your cirlcle of friends. He probably does think about you and may only just be acting normal when he see's you. But it may help you to think that this isnt the case and that infact he doesnt.
Good luck. Give it time.
2007-05-24 10:46:53 · answer #5 · answered by doodlebabey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been on my own for four years now and the feelings still get to me sometimes. Seems to be lessening all the time but I suppose I should find someone else and focus on a new relationship...perhaps feelings would fade even faster.
Hope all works out well for you.
Best wishes, Mike.
2007-05-24 10:50:07 · answer #6 · answered by georgiansilver 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what you're going through is totally normal. However, I am sorry to tell you that he probably doesn't think about the same stuff because he was the one that ended the relationship, and if he missed you he would probably have called you, so just try to move on.
2007-05-24 10:51:09 · answer #7 · answered by Emo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not normal, you need re-organise your brain and just forget about it.whenever such situation comes to you dont let it overcome you. insteady, find something which will comfort you, foristance you can rush & watch your favourite movie or anything which you think may make relax and forget if you have ever had such a man(ex)
bye
2007-05-24 11:05:53 · answer #8 · answered by pumpkin's brother 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my ex that i dated for 4 years made me feel the same way. it takes time and you will get past it
2007-05-24 10:46:07 · answer #9 · answered by DP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no guys dont think about stuff . its normal for you though you need to get out there and have some fun
2007-05-24 10:48:11 · answer #10 · answered by ladyni 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋