So this guy and I have been getting to know one another for about 8 months just talking at grad school and hanging out occasionally. I haven't slept with him but he'll like makeout with me and ask when he can see me again and act like he really likes me and then he wont call for days or he'll say something like, 'well i DID say that our plans for Thursday were tentative' when i ask him what happened. We went out over Christmas break and almost slept together and then he fessed up that there was a girl around that had been wanting to get back together with him and that she had just had a family tragedy and that he couldnt abandon her now. This was like 5 months ago and now he's back around with me. I can't tell if he's just jerkin me around or what? What does it sound like he's doing? Does he sound like a snake in the grass? I mean who would date someone, wait to 'almost' sleep with them, then fess up that you have a 'almost sorta girlfriend' then months later try again?
2007-05-24 10:31:19 · 8 answers · asked by Stephanie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-05-24 10:35:12 · answer #1 · answered by sweetiepi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, there could be several explanations. However, what does your gut tell you? You were there when he said all those things, so your intuition would know better than I since I only have your text to go on.
But, here's my take.
I don't think he likes you that much. No guy, not even a really shy one, waits over 8 months to sleep with a girl he likes.
Now, I'm assuming he's telling the truth about this other girl (which is none of you concern, it's his deal so let him handle it).
I don't think he's a snake as he's not trying to get sex with you for something else.
Put him on the back burner for now. Don't forget about him, but see other guys in the meantime.
IF he really wants you, seeing you with other guys will make him step up his game and claim you. If he fades in the distance or pulls the same crap he's doing on you (waiting till you are 'available' before he makes a move) then he never really liked you that much in the first place.
Hate to be so blunt about it, but I can see you're a sweety and you need to start getting happy in your relationships...not waiting for others to do it for you.
2007-05-24 10:47:55 · answer #2 · answered by MattVaill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but he's leading you on. If he wanted to have a commitment with you, it would have already happened.
Is it possible that he was already committed to this other girl, and he's been messing around with you on the side?
In any case, I suspect you'll save yourself a lot of heartache by walking away. Let him know that you respect yourself too much to be treated so poorly. Then spend some time evaluating the kind of man you'd like to be with. You'll probably recognize that he was never what you were looking for in the first place.
Best of luck to you!
2007-05-24 10:39:36 · answer #3 · answered by 1M9 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's probably a snake. $20 says this is going nowhere fast. If you actually like him, let him get his personal life straight first. In the meantime, explore other possibilities. DO NOT wait for him . . . you've spent too much time trying to figure him out already. Good night!
2007-05-24 10:38:28 · answer #4 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you made any agreements? You mention none. He is a friend. He is not having sex with you. There can't be cheating. You have some competition, that is life.
You do not own him. Communicate. You are in grad school.
2007-05-24 10:37:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 00:08:25 · answer #6 · answered by smallwood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he was cheating on his girlfriend, went back to her, and now she's kicked him to the curb.
2007-05-24 10:35:16 · answer #7 · answered by Kayleigh♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's just high school crap. You two are in grad school?
Sheez. Find a man, not a pusssy.
2007-05-24 10:35:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋