my great grandmother passed away the other day and when i found myself surrounded by my friends and family i found it hard not to laugh and smile along with them as they tried to cheer me up. is it wrong to be happy?
2007-05-24 10:24:00 · 26 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know it's not the same level as a grandmother dieing, but when my dog died.. the very next day I had one of the best days at school! I was happy and chatty and smiling all day. but the grief hit me later that night and I felt so guilty for how happy I was earlier.
I think sometimes it doesn't hit us right away... you may cry later on, but for now, I'd use that happiness you feel to help those who are feeling blue.
And remember, when someone dies, it's not important that you cry... it's important that you think on that person's life and remember the happy times! look back on your time with your grandmother and smile! I'm sure that's what she'd want you to do anyways!
2007-05-24 10:37:48 · answer #1 · answered by blinker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not wrong. You cannot mourn someone forever. Do not feel bad for laughing and having a good time, your great grandmother would want you to be happy. I too recently experienced a loss. My cousin was killed in a motorcycle accident, we had his funeral on Monday. It helps the healing process to get together with family and friends and tell stories and laugh again. Laughing does not mean you did not love her. You can remember all the good times you had with her, and laugh about those. That is what we did Monday after the funeral. We all got together at my Aunt and Uncle's house and told stories about my cousin. It helped everyone to remember the person he was, all the things he accomplished and all the fun he had in his life. I am sorry for your loss, I know exactly what you are going through.
2007-05-24 10:41:15 · answer #2 · answered by Katie R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, especially when you are surrounded by friends and family and reliving happy memories. Everyone grieves differently and there is no right or wrong way to grieve and no set amount of time that is :right". Your Great Grandmother would be happy to see you laughing instead of crying over her, I'm sure.
2007-05-24 11:03:35 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No honey... It's not wrong for you to be happy... It depends on how long you actually knew this person... If she was a complete stranger, then you're going to grieve in a different way. Your other relatives most likely actually knew her. They knew what made her smile and what she loved to do, so they'll grieve differently. When they see her favorite flower, they'll stop and feel a wave of sadness. However, you, you don't have to force yourself to be unhappy. Grieving for someone should be a pure and honest and heartfelt act. Don't fake sadness. You're still alive, so live your life. Jus be considerate to those around you who are still suffering from the tragic loss. Hope this helps!
2007-05-24 10:28:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you laugh or smile it does not mean you are not grieving. When my grandmother died 2 yrs ago, she was 99yrs 15 days, she had had a long life and was ready to go. At her funeral we celebrated her life and afterwards we all visited with one another and there was alot of laughter, it never occured to me to feel guilty.
Life goes on, I'm sure you will miss her, that is part of the greiving process, but putting a hold on enjoying your own life seems a waste of time. Just my opinion.
2007-05-24 10:32:15 · answer #5 · answered by Choqs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're breaking my heart! i can't understand how confusing it fairly is for you. All i understand is, grieving is an prolonged technique. I nevertheless think of approximately acquaintances and kin that I certainly have lost, years later. i don't understand how long this is been for you, yet in line with possibility you may desire to make some differences on your companion and young ones. change bedrooms, or purchase some new products of furnishings, so as which you do not think of approximately him each and every 2nd. Make your very own life. and attempt to spend a while with that great guy you have there... cherish the ineffective, yet stay with the residing.
2016-10-13 09:08:53 · answer #6 · answered by alnoor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't any set time that you need to grieve. It is a very personal thing and being with family and laughing can really help you to get over things. I know that whenever someone in our family dies, it is like a reunion of sorts, even under horrible circumstances, and we enjoy all of our joined company while we are together, even if we are saddened by the loss of a family member.
2007-05-24 10:28:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way! It's not wrong to be happy! When my Grandma passed away it was the worst thing for me to deal with but when we all sat around and talked about fun times with her we laughed and enjoyed ourselves. Your Grandma would want you to be a happy person so don't worry about it. This is a time you need to keep your pep up so you don't feel sad all the time which can turn to depression or worse. Be Happy! :-)
2007-05-24 10:29:17 · answer #8 · answered by sweetcandicane20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As soon as possible. However, you do not want to do it when others are grieving. Your great grandmother would want you to move on and by happy right away however.
2007-05-24 10:27:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it isn't. You should laugh and be happy. That's probably what your great grandmother would want you to do. The only two of the great grandparents I ever remember meeting are dead. So is my grandma and a cousin of mine. I'm sure your great grandmother would want you to be happy.
2007-05-24 10:28:30 · answer #10 · answered by Bear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋