How do I let him know that I'm serious?

Question

My boyfriend's brother has moved back into town recently, and so my time with my boy is getting drastically cut. I'm afraid that I'm going to lose my "spot" that I have with him. How can I let him know without ostracizing him or his brother that I'm serious when I say that I don't want to be replaced? That he is not dating his brother? I've tried to say just that, but he kinda laughs it off....

I love that he's close to his brothers, but there comes a time when he needs to put his significant other first. We've been together for quite a while.

I also don't care much for his brother. He's a heavy drinker, doesn't know the meaning of fidelity, and is an overall ***. So, there's also other reasons I don't want my boyfriend to spend a ton of time with him. They always manage to either get into trouble or spend money that we don't have....

I don't mind that he hangs out with his brothers...at all....I just don't want it to cut into MY time with him.

And, I'm "not allowed" to go out with them....

Answer 1

Sounds like a tough situation to be in the middle of.

My little bro looks up to me and likes to invite me out with him and his g/f and she gets sick of other people being around and not getting enough alone time.
I told her that she can talk to me about these things and that I am reasonable and will give her the space she needs.
Maybe you can simply talk with his brother. If anything you can likely find a way to outsmart the situation, like by finding someone else that his bro would rather spend all of his time with, like a girlfriend. And yes there is someone for everyone.

I wouldn't say you should be ruling over anyone, even if he was your husband. Two people need to have discussions about their different points of view and make an attempt to seek a happy medium where both can be happy.
Sometimes people go through phases where they need to get into trouble for a spell. It will pass. I can only stand being around my bro for a limited ammount of time, then I kinda avoid him for weeks at a time.

Answer 2

A) he just moved back into town so give it some time so as they can catch up with each other...more then a few months is too much.

B) you can offer you boy something his brother can never think of offering...if you catch my drift...and this will change his mind most of the time, his other mind that is....

C) don't be too selfish with your boy as it will probably make him back off more. but instead let him know that you miss him and love spending time with him too...and he should take it too heart. if not then he's pretty shallow in thinking and i wouldn't stick around too much longer (IF you are TRUELY SERIOUS like you say you are).

hope some of this can help and good luck.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

They may just be catching up. His brother will always be his brother, but try not to make it where it's a competition between you and he. If you've been together awhile, his brother moving back shouldn't change that. You have your "spot", his brother has another. Give him a little time and see what happens, but don't give ultimatums. You know the saying, blood is thicker.

Answer 5

"spend money that we don't have...", meaning you are living together.

Well, you can't change anyone. You can only change how you react to them. You either accept that you are going to be second fiddle to his brother and all that that means or you take a chance and lay down the law. But if you lay down the law you have to follow up with it if he choses his brother because if you don't the situation will continually get worse. He will know that you are all bark and no bite.

So, live with it or not. It's up to you.

Answer 6

well his brother does not sound like a good influence but you still have to give ur man his space and demand time with him at the same time. It is complicated when family is involved because you are stuck with your family you can always get another girl or guy thats how i see it no offence

Answer 7

Tell him how you feel with a serious look in your eyes and let him no with a calm tone everything you have said in your question. Just say it like you mean it and let him know you mean it. If he really loves you he won't break your heart if you tell him how you feel.

Answer 8

I dont mean to be rude or anything but you really should let him see his bro it's a bit control freak-ish. Why don't u try going out with them.

Answer 9

just do something he'll really like....possibly strip for him and some very provocative foreplay....then before the sexual activity actually begins whisper in his ear and tell him what you think...but it is his brother

Answer 10

no blood is thicker than water and unless his bro has got a vaqina then who the f cares