my girlfriend(sky)and i had a fight and she refused to speak to me.i was lonely.so i went to this night club.i hooked up with someone.this other guy.we have been messing around with each other for the last week.my girlfriend is talking to me again,forgiven me.we are now back together.
i thought i would be happy.but this guy has a piece of my heart.i think hes cool.and its amazing how well he kisses.
he knows about my girl.but she does not know about this guy.
if a guy is with another guy is that cheating?it cant be can it?shes always with me,so its hard to sneak off and be with this guy.
2007-05-24 09:50:47 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok let me get one thing straight...I AM NOT SLEEPING WITH THE GUY.
2007-05-24 10:01:39 · update #1
and i've not slept with my girlfriend either.hard to believe but its true.
2007-05-24 10:02:08 · update #2
Sounds like you might be Bi....I say tell your girlfriend that you needs sometime apart to figure out who you are. Then experiment. See if you are bi, gay, or straight. You have to do what makes you happy.
2007-05-24 09:54:12 · answer #1 · answered by Just Me 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There's no gray area just because you are screwing someone of the same gender as you; it's considered cheating either way.
What you are doing is very unfair, not only to yourself, but the guy and your girlfriend. You need to figure out your feelings and determine who you really want to be with. You also need to come clean about all of this to your girlfriend. She needs to make her own decision on whether or not she wants to remain with you (if that's what you end up wanting).
Also, having more than one sexual partners isn't only unhealthy mentally and emotionally but physically as well. Since you are in a relationship this guy may feel it's acceptable for him to sleep with others.......this is a real good way for you all to be passing around diseases. I really hope everyone is being safe.
2007-05-24 16:59:43 · answer #2 · answered by Lwood 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is this the first time you've been with a guy. It sounds like you need to hold off on things with your girlfriend and just be friends for awhile. That way you have a chance to experiment with the other side and find out if you really do love this guy and how he feels about it.
2007-05-24 16:55:28 · answer #3 · answered by al l 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry to inform you but it is cheating. You really need to tell her and stop decieving her because thats exactly what ur doing. She thinks she's in a relationship with someone who is only with her and that is obviously not true. It doesnt matter if you're messin with a guy or a girl. If ur with someone else at the same time that ur in a relationship with someone who believes their in a monogamous (i think thats what u call it) relationship, its wrong.
2007-05-24 16:57:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your girlfriend's last name wouldn't be Phillips, would it?
Yes sneaking off with another guy is cheating. If you aren't using protection it's a good way to get an STD. You need to be honest with Sky about the situation. You are either gay or bisexual so be honest with her.
2007-05-24 16:56:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Cheating is when you do something with someone else (sexual or not) and your partner has no clue... you are cheating and you should tell her... it sounds like your more into this guy than your girlfriend any way... take a chance, you may like being in a gay relationship better... it sounds like your confused.. sort things out but let your girlfriend in on your secrets!
2007-05-24 16:55:27 · answer #6 · answered by Chiquita 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes Yes Yes!!! It doesn't matter what the gender is you are cheating on her and you obviously know that its wrong since you have yet to tell her whats going on!! You need to make up your mind and if you are in love decide with who and move on! You are just going to get hurt and so will they.
2007-05-24 16:57:04 · answer #7 · answered by ASHES 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Either way you have to make a choice as to who you will be with. It's not fair to either person for you to be so devided with your heart. A really great friend of mine just went through a very dramatic mess similar to this and in the end, he made such a mess of it he had to leave both behind. Be wise with your heart and be decisive.
2007-05-24 16:56:35 · answer #8 · answered by Betsy S 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i think you are with this other guy cause he is something she isn't--if i were you i would think about the whole situation and decide who i am happier with--her or hI'm--you cant have both and be faithful--I'm sure she would flip out if she knew about you and this guy--and im sure he doesn't care about what she thinks, most guys just like the fact that someone is cheating on their partner to be with them---if you like him stay with him but let her go and vice versa--seeing both of them can only cause pain to your girl--and that isn't fair to her--i would say its a fling--but if you are having sex with him and liking it then i guess that would make you straight with "gay tendencies" being with him is cheating on her---make a decision and don't risk anyone being hurt--having both will never work--hope this helps and good luck!
2007-05-24 16:58:24 · answer #9 · answered by TWIN91 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's cheating plain and simple, makes no odds if it's a guy or a girl, it's still cheating and it's wrong.
Your relationship cant be very solid if you can cheat on her after having a row, jeez if i cheated everytime my man and me had a lovers tiff i'd be the local bike!
2007-05-24 16:59:54 · answer #10 · answered by The Original Highbury Gal 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋