I am a die hard fan of dogs, but my husband would'n allow me to have one?

Question

The only thing i know is that I love dogs and would love to have one. but my husband does'n agree with me to get one as he says that its a lot of responsibility as we wont be able to travel for long with the dog, the dog may just dirty the carpets by shitting/peeing as both of us work longer hours......so do you guys suggest me to get a dog??

Answer 1

i guess it's not a 50-50 relationship, his way or no way hmmmmmmmmmmmm, not a good start

Answer 2

Talk to hubby about the ways to deal with these issues. You can crate the dog while at work (but if both of you work lots, it may not be fair to get a dog as they do mean a lot of work and time), you can set up an outdoor enclosure for while you are at work, you can hire a pet walker-the job isn't always a no pet deal. But they are a lot of work-walks, vet, food, play time, training. It is like having a child in the home. You could look at getting an older dog from rescue and you could look for a breed that suits your lifestyle (think breed rescue here). You could also try being a foster family for dogs in need or doing dog transport for rescue groups-that would give you some dog exposure. Both of you should set down and make a list of the amount of time you have for all the dog related stuff, factor in the energy level, annual doggy budget, what you want in a dog and then look at the various breeds. Even if you go for a mixed breed dog-this will help you know what to expect to some degree (no dog will be an exact breed standard match). The AKC webiste has info on breeds and rescues as well as breeders.

If possible, maybe consider a cat. That may be more of what you need in a pet currently. But don't go for a cat if you are deadset on a dog-then you end up with both in no time. Good Luck.

Answer 3

I think everyone in the household has to agree to get a pet, otherwise it's going to cause tension and problems. Every time I've seen a situation where someone did not want the animal, it ended badly, most often for the animal.

Work things out with your husband or give up on having a dog. If you both work really long hours, he may have a point and it may be problematic. The housetraining issues could be worked out, but dogs really shouldn't be left for long hours all alone most days.

Answer 4

My boyfriend and I both work 12 to 14 hour shift and we do travel for long periods of time every now and then. We have plenty of time to play with our dog. He hasn't gone potty in the house since the first week we got him, he travels with us and it's not a problem at all. A dog is a lot of responsibility but no more than a child. If you have a friend who needs a dog sitter I think it would be good to keep a dog for a short time so that he can see there isn't any harm but I would not recommend getting one without his approval. Keep talking it over with him and for now you might try volunteering at an animal shelter.

Answer 5

It is never a good idea to bring a dog into a home where one person or more are not wanting the dog. It NEVER works out. Sorry about your situation but I think your only option is to dump the husband or search for some other way to love dogs. Maybe you could vounteer for a local shelter? Take up a part time job of dog walking?

Answer 6

look seriously... im not too sure what kind of a guy he is but my husband LOVES dogs and he always bugged me to get one. At the beginning i was a bit reluctant for the simple reason like you said we are always at work all day and we lived in a small 1 bed apt. The good thing was though that we had floor boards. Anyways, we got the puppy (staffiexlab) and we both are unbelievably in love with her. Infact we then moved when she turned 6 months to a bigger place with a garden and got her a friend. If you have a garden thats pretty much all you need. Our dogs (even in summer) stays out until 5.30pm when we come back from work and during the puppy stage we taught them to do it on newspaper. you need a lot of patience and need to get up earlier inthe morning to clean up but once the puppy stage's gone (7 months give or take), the fun really starts. we couldnt be happier with them and they couldnt be happier with us.

Answer 7

He won't ALLOW you to have one?
rofl.
Seriously. Is this the 1920's?
You're a grown woman. You do what you want to.


If you don't have time to take care of a puppy, don't get one.
It's going to be hard to potty train the puppy if you can't run it outside when he wakes up from a nap. So, you'll probably have a dirty carpet.
Carpets are cleanable.
Trust me.

Talk to your husband. Tell him you really want one and not to be so selfish.
One of two things will happen... He'll either realize that he's acting like a child in telling you what to do. Or, you'll be told no and you'll listen. Just keep in mind, he's your husband, your partner, NOT your father. He doesn't have the right to tell you what to do.

Answer 8

If you both work long hours, I would say to wait til you have more time. Plus if your husband is so against, it maybe he isn't up for the responsibility. You do not want to have a dog and have someone against it right from the start.. He might eventually change his mind, but he might spend a whole lot of time whining and complaining.

Answer 9

Ewww, couldn't be a husband of mine!!! My husband doesn't allow me or dis-allow me to do anything!!! My dogs are mine & they are my resposiliity. My dogs came with me into the marriage & if he would have said the dogs had to go there wouldn't have been a marriage.So sorry to hear he won't let you!!! This rescue that I took in, the last dog I got, my husband said, you're not taking that dog, and I said I was and did. Now that little mutt stole my husband's heart & they love each other dearly!!!

Answer 10

NO! Not if you're not home to take care of it..dogs need companionship and to be taken care of..they have to go outside for "shitting/peeing" and if you're not there to let him out..he will have to go somewhere which will be your carpets! Your best bet is a cat..there's alot of breeds that act like dogs if you're wanting a doggie personality. Bengals are definately doglike..I have one and my brother who is a "dog person" LOVES my Lucy and actually nicknamed her "Puppy" because of how she acts. He's a die hard dog lover like you..and thinks a cat is a "waste of fur" as he puts it..until he met my Lucy! Also Maine Coon cats are very dog like..you can even play "fetch" with either breed. But don't get a dog if you aren't going to be home with him. You can at least put a litter box in your bathroom and leave dry catfood out for the cat..and of course feed canned food in the morning before you leave..better yet..get two cats so they have each other while you're away all day..but cats are much easier to care for and don't mind when you go out like dogs do.

Answer 11

YOU say it yourself you work long hours so how fair is that to the dog? if its that big an issue to you, why not get a new husband who loves dogs too? ( and doesnt mind Living in dog feces?) sounds to me as if your feeling the need to have a surogate child is driving youto whine about the issue rather then see his sensability in the matter... MY taking my dog in has caused me to stop working two side jobs which was worth about 15,000 extra dollars a year give or take and give up a few traveling activities that would be quite simple to deal with otherwise .. I love my dog, dont get me wrong But I would consider other options given your lifestyle , since dogs require constant attention .....seriously have youthought about putting a fur coat on your pet rock??