2007-05-24 08:50:09 · 56 answers · asked by Amber D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Only your parents can answer that. Communicate with them.
2007-05-24 08:52:01 · answer #1 · answered by endrshadow 5 · 6⤊ 3⤋
Why do you think your parents hate you? That's so sad. I'm sorry for you. If your parents really do hate you (which Im sure they don't) then they are the ones with the problems. Do they drink? Do drugs? Some people are so wrapped up in their own lives and taken over by such things that they lose reality. If you feel unloved talk to someone you trust about the situation thats going on in your home. A teacher? A friends parents? A grandparent? Someone out there will help you make sense of it all.
SO maybe your parents do'nt do any of that and LOVE you to death and well as a kid you mess up sometimes and they may handle it wrong or you just cant take getting in trouble. If you act out in negative ways- stop. Try getting involved in school activities. Do your homework. Study. Focus on you and not them.
2007-05-24 08:58:18 · answer #2 · answered by Mommy Ong 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure your parents don't hate you. Being a parent is a tough job. We try to raise our children right and when they don't always act the way we think they should, we get frustrated. The thing that parents lose sight of, is that being a kid is really tough too. Just try to be honest with your parents and talk to them.
If you ask them why they hate you, I'm sure they will explain to you that they really don't hate you and that they love you and want what's best for you. Parent's just don't always do things right. Maybe if you both talk to each other enough, you can help each other. Good Luck.
If however your parents ever try to harm you, make sure you let someone know that is in a position to help you. I'm sure you will be fine.
2007-05-24 08:55:54 · answer #3 · answered by favrd1 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You should be more specific. If your parents are beating you up, then call Social Services and report yourself as an abused child. If they are telling you what to do, well, that's their job because generally kids have little experience of the world and don't know how stupid some of their actions are (some of which kill kids). Their goal is to get you to adulthood alive so that you can eventually provide them grandchildren. ;)
However, I do want to point out that it is true that some parents don't really like their children or one or two of their children. Hate would mean that they have a feeling. Not much you can do about it, but it is depressing.
2007-05-24 08:53:15 · answer #4 · answered by CarbonDated 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure your parents do not hate you. There are questions you must ask yourself. Are you a good kid? Do you do as they ask? Do you give them any trouble? Do you do chores, if you have any? You have to understand that your parents maybe going through a tough time right now. They maybe having a tough day at work, a stressful job. They could be having financial issues. There are a lot of "grown-up" issues that could be bothering them. As sad as this may sound, UNKNOWINGLY they could be taking this out on you without realizing it. Trust me sweetheart.. your parents don't hate you.
Before you go to bed, or at a comfortable time, talk to them about how you feel, it might help them to talk about whats going on. Let them know how you feel, so they can change what can be changed. Good Luck Dear!
2007-05-24 09:00:50 · answer #5 · answered by Tx Angel 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
They don't hate you. Parents want what's best for you in the long run, not necessarily whats fun right now. If your parents let you get away with everything right now, when you get older you won't have any discipline. If they let you go out and party late at night and get drunk, there is good chance that that's what you will do when you are older and you won't be able to earn money or support yourself. If they let you smoke, you could get lung cancer. All of these things may seem fun now, but they will have serious consequences later on in your life. Just trust that they know what's best for you.
2007-05-24 08:58:05 · answer #6 · answered by Bobert R. 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think I know the "best" answer I can tell you. How old are you? 8? 10? 12?...don't matter....but I do know this: Which ever of those ages you are closest to, I know YOU don't like somebody 2 or 3 years younger than you "telling you what to do"...you would say something like " Shut up, baby...or "I'm older than you"! You are older..you KNOW more...you have more EXPERIENCE...so, you don't want a "less knowledgeable person-bossing you around". And so it is with your parents, man, you know they don't hate you, although it may seem that way....they just have that "way older than you" thing that YOU have to respect, just as the same respect ( NOT FOR YOUR AGE) only, but more for your knowledge and experience, is due to you. Geez, I hope that wasn't a lecture...I hate being ...............
2007-05-24 09:05:00 · answer #7 · answered by rer348 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your a kid, your parents dont hate you, they want the best of and for you. And your mentality about your parents hating you is natural, it hurts when you cant get what you want. hate is a strong word, if they hated you, you wouldn't be in their house right now, they wouldn't be feeding you, your room is full of things that your parents bought for you.
You need to be happy with the things you have and what your parents gave you. Because you are going to realize in life, your going to realize what you had, after its gone.
Your parents aren't going to be there for you forever, thats part of lifes circle. My mom passed away 2 years ago, And I really miss her. So you should really think before thinking that your parents "hate" you.
2007-05-24 09:03:35 · answer #8 · answered by Lilkryptonite 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well hun, I doubt your parents hate you. The way they are parenting you is the way they were parented. Their behaviors were taught to them by their own parents. Please talk to your school counselor about this. Of course, you didn't give much information, but maybe talking to your school counselor can hopefully get the ball rolling to family counseling. It sounds like your family can use it. I certainly hope even if your family doesn't get counseling, you will grow up and learn to parent differently than you were parented. If you don't the cycle will continue and you will parent the same way they are parenting you. YOU can be a great parent if you choose to read a lot and take parenting classes. I did! I changed a lot.
I wish you lots of luck you deserve it. Please talk to another adult that cares. Don't give up on you! You are special and deserve to be treated with dignity and respect!
Hugs
2007-05-24 09:09:47 · answer #9 · answered by plbiw 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You sound like your in allot of pain Amber, it is painful to feel that our parents hate us, and sometimes their actions reinforce the feelings that they don't care and hate us. I do believe parents do the best they know how, AND sometimes, their best is NOT good enough. If that is the situation your in, my heart goes out to you Hun. Their treatment of you is more about who they are and how they were parented. I believe as parents we can only give to children what we have received or acquired within our own beings. Know the it is NOT your fault, and you are entitled to ALL of your feelings...
2007-05-28 02:31:06 · answer #10 · answered by Cre8tivefires 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you think that your parents hate you?? Just because your a kid doesn't mean anything.
I always tell my daughter, I will always love you, but that doesn't mean I will always like you. I mean if she's being particularly 13 that day then I may not like her, but my love for will never change. You know what I mean??
I am sure they don't hate you and if you think they do why don't you ask them??
2007-05-24 08:54:40 · answer #11 · answered by Bekaisme00740 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋