Is it good having children?

Question

Does anyone regret having children/Is it difficult to bring them up?

Answer 1

It's the toughest thing I've ever done. And I wouldn't trade it for anything

Answer 2

I don't regret having them at all.

I had my first child when I was 20 and that I consider to be young. I could regret the fact that I had them with an abusive person. I spent around 9 years as a single parent with no support from my family. I lived completely alone with no help at all from the absent partner or my parents. I don't let that turn into regret however, because had I not been a single mum I wouldn't be the person I am today.

If being a mother is hard, being a single mother is a lot harder and life can have a way of making you feel very alone.There is no such thing as a day off and you have nobody to talk to about how you feel or to listen to you after a hard day. If you are sick, there is nobody to help you. It's ment that I've had to struggle, but it's also made me a lot tougher. I don't think my children have suffered, because I've always put them first. I think I have suffered a bit. Mainly from a lack of emotional support from anybody. I've also had to work myself into the ground both with caring for them, and holding a job- it all effected my physical and mental health badly.

I'm lucky now I have a lovely partner who is a great dad. I don't have to struggle anymore and I can think about my own happiness as well as that of my children. I have two amazing bright and happy kids. I wouldn't swap my family for the world.

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Answer 3

Being a parent is by far the best feeling in the world to me. Ive never regreted it!! However it can be very challenging and difficult at times. When you become a parent you are there for that child 24/7. Ive actually been a mommy since 16 and had to grow up very early but I regret nothing and want to have atleast three more children and then adopt. I love it!! Good Luck to you!

Answer 4

If you accidentally fall pregnant it is so easy to think that you have just ruined your life! However, the second you see that first ultrasound scan and you feel those first kicks you know you are doing an amazing thing. It is still daunting but the bond you feel with that baby inside you grows so quickly. My daughter is nearly 5 months old now and everyday I wonder what I did to make such an amazing little person. She's so beautiful I often wonder (jokingly, of course) if she was switched at birth! Of course there are down sides to parenting like the lack of freedom and stuff, but that pales into insignificance when you see them do something for the first time. I'll never forget the first time I heard my daughter laugh properly. I nearly cried, it was such an amazing thing to see and hear. Her laugh comes from deep in her chest and when she laughs her whole body laughs. When she smiles her whole face smiles. Is it good having children? I wouldn't swap being a mother for the world. Is it hard? Absolutely, but it's a labour of love.

Answer 5

although there are times you think otherwise(just for a second) you do not know true happiness until you have children. i have 2 year old and 7 months and although most of the time exhausted and wish i could have a break from the washing machine when my little boy comes up to me and says things like "oh, darlin', and lub ooh (love you) it makes my heart fill up with joy. make sure you are ready if considering children though i waited till i'd been with my partner6 years and got married first, although you never can plan what happens try being prepared as it's hard if a child has two homes (my husband has a nine year old and i've seen first hand what happens) good luck if you do decide to be a parent and my advice is always trust your instincts when it comes to being a parent. x kelly

Answer 6

Sure it's hard work - It's full of tears and tantrums (and that's just me!) - i regret not valueing my free time as much and i do miss not being able to go out during the week as the whim takes me. However, having kids was the absolute best thing I've ever done in my life. It was SO worth the wait - adorable! It's incredable watching this wonderful little boy discover the world. There's nothing else like it.

Answer 7

Having children is the best thing I've ever done. There is no love like the love for your children. They complete me and fill me with JOY beyond measure. I have 3 boys 9 years, 8 years, and 3 months and ever day is a blessing from God. Nothing is better than being a mommy and I wouldn't trade this for all the money in the world...seriously.

Answer 8

It is a lot of work, worry and heartache but the joy and the love that comes with it makes it all worth it. I never would regret having my children,even the two I gave up, had I not had them,two different couples would never have had the chance to be parents.

Answer 9

Having children has its hard moments, but the incredible ones far outweigh them. I have never regretted having any of my kids. There is so much about life I never fully understood until I became a parent. Personally, I think anyone who chooses not to have kids, is really cheating themselves out of the greatest gift in the world.

Answer 10

I don't regret becoming a mum.

It can be difficult at times to bring up children, especially if you're doing it well!

Answer 11

Hi,
My kids are the pinnacle of my life but I do regret bringing them into this cruel world. I think how difficult it is to bring them up depends on your own upbringing and sympathise with people who haven't had a stable loving childhood.x