What is your opinion on this?
2007-05-24 08:41:29 · 17 answers · asked by Just Wondering 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
We all know that men check women and women check men..but...there is a time, place and a way of doing it.
If, I am having dinner with a person of either gender and they are OBVIOULSLY checking on other people instead of concentrating in our conversation, it is rude. It gives the impression that something is more interesting out there, than whatever I am saying.
Some women flirt constantly with men, and it makes me as uncomfortable as a man checking women all the time. In this case, I prefer to eat alone.
Sleazy? That depends in the "how" he does it, but for sure it is rude.
We all can check others in a discreet way. At the end we are all a curious species.
2007-05-25 11:38:16 · answer #1 · answered by Flyinghorse 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A healthy appreciation for the gender to which you are attracted is harmless and normal. If it gets to be so obvious or lurid that it is making you uncomfortable, you should do something.
He is your boss and should not be putting you in a situation where you are uncomfortable. You can either stop going to lunch with him, lighten up or discuss it with him. Based on your accounting, I can not assess whether this is you overreacting to a harmless situation or if it really is "sleazy".
I am not a fan of sexual harassment suits unless there is obvious direct harassment to you. But successful suits have been won on much less. A good manager would be cognizant of this and should take steps to rectify the situation. If you have an HR department, speak with them.
At the very least, his behavior is rude. He's at lunch with YOU.
2007-05-24 08:53:08 · answer #2 · answered by Mistress Kat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends what you mean by "checking out". If he is making sexual comments that make you feel uncomfortable and you are in the workplace (the cafeteria), then it could be considered harassment and he could get in trouble for it, even if the comments are not directed at you. If he is just looking, then it is harmless.
2007-05-24 10:07:36 · answer #3 · answered by jerseygal79 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's a man isn't he? Well men check out women! and if the two of you are not an item why can't he?
Unless he was just open mouth drooling and cat calling I don't see the problem.
2007-05-24 08:51:06 · answer #4 · answered by Still*Perfect 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
uumm yeah sleazy and uncomfortable for you probably. turn down any further invitations. i think uncomfortable for you cause others who notice probably wonoder about his relationship w/ you and why hes checking others out, and if youre having lunch w/ someone common courtesy says pay attention to them and carry on a conversation.
2007-05-24 08:45:24 · answer #5 · answered by just me #1 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's o.k. If he checked out other men, would you gag.
Now, unless you love him, and he the same, yes, I would be a bit greenie, but wouldn't let it get to my splendid lunch.
2007-05-24 08:47:33 · answer #6 · answered by Born Valentine's Day 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you aren't "together", then it doesn't matter! It sounds like you want to be, and his checking out women bothers you.
2007-05-24 08:45:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
What planet are you from? lol ALL healthy hetero men check women out... All the time.
2007-05-24 08:44:51 · answer #8 · answered by John L 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He sounds like a sleeze.
2007-05-24 09:18:33 · answer #9 · answered by eva2devine 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not realy, all men look at other women/men all the time.. Look at it this way, as long as he is checkin out other women, he is not checkin out you.
2007-05-24 08:46:37 · answer #10 · answered by catmomiam 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋